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You are using good judgment in all this I am glad the judged ruled the way he did.

Maybe you should alert your lawyer about the card and stuf from the other woman. The therapist may want to talk to him about it too.

The OW texted me again on my Facebook business page!

This time she said: “I just wanted to wish you a Merry Christmas, I know that you don’t like me right now but I hope that your Christmas is blessed with love and laughter!”

wow! I can’t believe how much nerve she has! Are they delusional or what? Their affair baby is due in late February are they trying ito bait me ? What is going on here? I didn’t text her back

Why is she texting me? I want to text back and say I hope that this is was your last Christmas and that you die in childbirth but I have enough sense to only write that here.

They want you to write something they can show the judge. He does not want to pay child support. They might be trying to get custody. Be very quiet.

Is your stbx as dense, pussy whipped (by OW) & stupid as my xh??

I mean, seriously?!?

My God, I wouldn't trust your stbx & his prego OW with a goldfish won at a school fun fair much less this impending Affair Child.

Seriously, what an arrogant deluded idiot.

And this illicit dick thirsty hormone addled skank - what can be said about her?

As others have shared, for YOUR own safety AND sanity, give stbx AND his whore nothing BUT crickets.

Can you hear chirpchirpchirpchirpchirp?

Yes, revel in the sweet little cricket chirps.

Gray Rock your stbx as much as humanly possible.

If the conversation is NOT about your child[ren] &or anything DIRECTLY related to your kid(s), do not, repeat, DO NOT RESPOND TO NEITHER YOUR STBX *NOR* HIS KNOCKED UP WHORE!

Just keep imagining that you WOULDN'T trust your stbx with a goldfish or used toilet brush much less *another* child that he chooses not to take any real responsibility for.

I wholeheartedly agree with others here: Say &or do NOTHING with stbx OUTSIDE OF a court arranged custody agreement for any kid(s) you have & ALWAYS document - yes - DOCUMENT DOCUMENT DOCUMENT times, dates, etc.

Let these selfish asshole cheaters be hung on their own hubris & arrogance.

Meanwhile, you & your child[ren] move onto a bigger, better & incredibly more blessed life 100% WITHOUT a "father" who seems to have serious issues keeping his dick where it belongs.

As an aside, my spidey senses tell me it's highly unlikely that he's going to stick around long term for this AC.

Idk.

I could & may very well be wrong.

But I highly doubt it.

And OW is too selfish & dick thirsty & probably even passingly smart enough to care.

All YOU can do is get a big bucket of popcorn, your favorite adult beverage & a comfy seat at a safe distance & watch their trick baby shit show unfold.

As always, we're here & rooting for you & your little ones! ((hugs))

You can ban and block her from your business page.

Click the "See All" link in the New Likes section to view the list of people who like your business page. Click the "X" next to the name of the person you want to block. Select the "Ban Permanently" check box on the Remove confirmation box and click "Okay" to remove and block that person.

Also if you have a personal page and you manage your business page through your personal page, all you have to do is block her from your personal page and I believe she will also be blocked from the business one but I'm not positive.

They are blocked on my Facebook page but not business page

Typically I would recommend not responding to an OW. That said, I think this one believes she's going to be in contact with you on a more permanent basis as a step-mother to your son. So with that in mind, I think I'd send her a cease and desist through my attorney just so she'd know I wasn't playing games. That sets you up for suing her for harassment if she continues after you've told her to stop.

Talk it over with your attorney.

I think you are correct and I’m going back to petition the court again he’s breaking all of our agreements my son is getting home late on school nights without his homework finished and it’s causing so much stress. X is also trying to reinterpret the court papers to please his own agenda which is basically to do what ever he wants! He is trying to integrate my son into his new baby sisters life before she is born. She’s due at the end of February. Our sons not ready yet but that doesn’t matter to his Dad. So selfish. My X told me that in our court papers it says that we have the right to increase visitation and or make changes to the schedule without going back to court. Yes it does say that and that we have to agree on these changes but he is trying to bullly me and is sending messages each day like this one:

WXS “I’ll be out in that direction tomorrow so I would like to pick him up from about 12:30 to 3:30. Two days alternating each week is not right, fair or balanced for seeing him.”

My reply to him was short I said “No”

It’s my Sunday and my weekend with our son but because he’s going to be in our neighborhood tomorrow he thinks he can pick him up and change the schedule to what is

convenient for him! Again so selfish. He’s angry because he doesn’t have any over nights or visitation with the OW present

But he does get liberal visitation Tuesday and Thursday from

5:30-8:30 every other Friday from 5:30-8:30, and every other Saturday or Sunday from 10-6pm! That’s more than my son wants already! My point here is that he thinks his entitled do as he pleases and can’t stand the fact that the court thinks I’m the more stable parent. The sad thing is once his new baby daughter is born I think the OW will demand he give their child all of his attention. Big ?.

As for me I’ve been having nightmares again and sleep disruption and PTSD episodes! It’s as if I just discovered the affairs. I’m probably being triggered by the impending birth? So I’m taking extra good care of myself, riding this shit storm relapse out and reaching out to my S.I. community for support again...Tomorrow I’m taking my son to church in the morning and then we will come home, cook together (we got a panini grill for Xmas his favorite sandwich is a chicken cutlet panini),

take the dog for a walk at the park, shoot some hoops if the weather is fair, and enjoy our afternoon! The one thing we won’t do is let WX shit head steal our joy or our time because he’s in our neighborhood!

I am sorry you have to continue living this nightmare.

As you stated it will be interesting to see what happens once the baby is born. I suspect OW wil make sure that child is his #1 priority. And perhaps only then will his attempts to change the visitation schedule cease.

Hang in there - you are doing a great job in this situation.

Stay strong ((Mojojo))

FTG

Love to you. This year will be better than last year. Work on your health, diet and sleep and you will have the mental strength to perservere no matter what comes.

Absolutely go back to court and file the petitions n. Your answer was the best. No, is a complete sentence. This arrogant asswipe thinks he’s above the law. Unfair? Cheating is the ultimate unfairness to the BS. Document every violation. Every one and have him held in contempt.

I read all of this and I have great concern for everyone involved...BUT my half sister is the child of the AP (my mom) and the WH (my step father) and we kids would have really missed out on a great sibling had we had protracted fighting between the BS and the AP and the WH and the EXH. If they had issues none of us kids (there were 5 total) knew about it...which is exactly how it should be. Please please please think twice or three times or ten times about involving your kids in the whole infidelity mess. Seriously I worry so much when I hear how involved kids end up in this crap...sometimes I know it can’t be helped but as a child that lived through that and as a BS myself please be careful.

I appreciate your advice about not involving kids in affair details. My son is 12 and he knows the truth about what his Dad did. His Dad was very abusive to us before I threw him out. We didn’t know at the time that he was having two affairs and that one was with a woman his sisters age. He’s old enough to understand but of course he doesn’t know everything. I don’t know everything. In my opinion you can’t go wrong with the truth. I’ve done everything in my power to protect my child from damage. His dad is living with the baby momma and the affair baby is coming in February. My son already has 3 sisters and a brother from my first marriage. I know that this child will be a sibling and that she is innocent. That doesn’t stop me from hating her and the fact that she has to be integrated into my sons life. We have a lot of healing work ahead of us. I do not discuss any of this with my son we are in therapy and I do not talk to him about the baby yet. That’s coming.

I’m sorry you are in this position.

I hope you can limit your son’s time as much as possible with his “new family”.

Maybe your H will just give up once the new baby arrives and he will be too tired to keep going down this path.

But I hope you realize he may tire if this new “relationship” as well, and maybe sooner rather than later it will be over. And then your son won’t be forced into this at some point.

If your H keeps jumping from relationship to relationship then you will need to keep your son away from all the “women” his dad has contact with.

[This message edited by The1stWife at 11:09 AM, January 11th (Friday)]

I'm glad to hear about your Christmas tree and the pie and your daughter visiting, etc. It had to be so nice to get to just enjoy your family for awhile and not be stressed over the jackass and his mother.

I am sorry that XWH delivered the card, gift & money. He's the one at fault and violated the rules and it was very inappropriate for him to do that to your son. Very inappropriate.

Was your son excited to receive it? That certainly makes things sticky and difficult and I'm not sure there's a good answer for what to do. You're in a lose-lose situation, which is what their intention was. Bah humbug on them!

But do report it to your attorney so it doesn't happen again.

My son had a dinner visit with his Dad and I had a work event tonight so I wasn’t here when X picked up our son. Well he broke the rules again he’s supposed to have curbside pick up and drop off but came on to our back deck and may have even come inside? He stole beer that I was chilling for the weekend of the deck and wait for it...the asshole showed our son pictures of their baby shower! My son came home so upset and it took me 2 hours to get him settled and asleep. When he got home 30 minutes late He complained that he had a very bad stomach ache which then the truth came out and he told me about the pictures! I remained calm and asked him why he was so upset. He said that “it’s the fact that there is a baby shower at all and that Daddy isn’t with us anymore” I asked him how he felt about the baby and he said he didn’t know and doesn’t want to say anything more! So I said okay if you ever want to I’ll just listen. My heart is so broken for him

Right now. My son said that some of our friends were in the pictures. He is mad that our friends are still friends with his dad after what he did to us. He said that Daddy must being telling lies again to our friends. Help me S.I. Friends I have to take him back to court he’s breaking all of our agreements!

He’s also saying that it isn’t an affair baby because it was conceived after I threw him out!!!

I am so sorry Mojojo. Your son must be confused and devastated. I’m glad you gave him a safe place to talk whenever he needs it.

Your ex's lies will never stop. He continues to rewrite marital history and you will suffer for it, someone has to be the villain and he will never own it.

I am not sure going to court will do any good, sadly they may just roll over and let him continue exposing your son to the OW.

As to the theft of the beer and being on your property please install cameras and gently but clearly explain to your son that his dad is not allowed into your safe place.

Okay so I am getting cameras for the porch but my heart is broken for my son. I just found out that My X asked his baby momma to marry him at their baby shower. So now she is not the baby momma anymore but his fiancé. I’m really in shock. In 9 months I’ve had to deal with 2 affairs, our break up, his moving in with the OW, the pregnancy(affair baby), and now the engagement. I think it’s too much....I don’t really feel anything yet...words of encouragement are appreciated.