Why did the guy behind the bar tell you to f@ck off?
It wasn't the other bartender, but the patron. He was drunk, probably mad that my wife took her attention off him and on to me. My wife said after I left, he left the bar to play VLTs.
When she got out of the shower, she did come up to me and apologized for last night, and admitted she was acting like a jerk and should have invited me along, but just assumed I went to sleep or was playing video games. I did say, you think? I asked her how she would have felt if I was acting like a single guy, flirting with other women. She said she wouldn't like it, but then she said she never pegged me for being the jealous type.
I told her I wasn't jealous; just that married women shouldn't be acting like they are single. Then I asked her if those extra tips were worth treating, me her husband like shit.
She sighed and said that she doesn't even like her job at the bar. She says she gets hit on, the owner is an asshole, and she is only doing it because we needed the money and didn't want us struggling for money.
Back up a bit, to fill in the blanks. We have been living in our condo for four years now. When we first moved in, I was working as a trucker making twelve thousand more than I am now, and she was working as a waitress, so we did move into a more expensive condo. Then I injured my back and took some time off work. We had to get a roommate, and she took on a part-time job working at the bar. She was working 60 hours a week, while I recovered. That ended my career as trucking. After six weeks, I found this job as a supervisor, and it paid a lot less. At around this time, she picked up more hours at the bar, and quit her waitressing job, because she was making the same working 20 hours at the bar, as she was working full time as a waitress.
Anyway, I told her I wasn't going to let her disrespect me, and if she didn't want to be married, and wanted to live the single life, then I'd let her go. She was confused and said she never realized I even felt that way. So I talked about how I was feeling.
She told me that she loved me and loved being married to me. That she just found me being home all the time a huge adjustment. She admitted after a few months of me being back, and she got used to being around me every day that the excitement started to waver. SHe said that when I worked on the road, she looked forward to seeing me, and when I was home for a week, she would get excited and would feel butterflies.
So she pretty much told me that next time I have a problem, to tell her because she couldn't reassure me or change anything if I didn't tell her. I wanted to keep talking to her, but she had to go to work. She works from 8pm to 2am.
[This message edited by GamerJoe at 8:57 PM, January 1st (Tuesday)]