Isn't that amazing? You pressed for answers and she scoffed at you. Only for you to find out after all.
That gut feeling is real!
I too am going through the same. But I have nothing concreted.
I'm not trying to punish her. I just need to know where we truly are.
And most importantly I need to ensure the kids will be safe.
For me, SO appears to have been talking to men. I saw red flag after red flag.
Then I confronted the men (yes more than 1).
One fessed up. She said he was a lunatic. Yada Yada.
We decide no more social media.
I log out of social media and she swears nothing has happened.
So 3 months later I log back in only to find her following the same men.
After confrontation, more denial!
Oh my account was hacked. etc...
Now she's logged off from social media.
But I can't help and think that she's now better at hiding.
Does she have a burner phone?
Is she talking during work hours?
Who knows!
We both decided to put tracking apps on each of our phones.
Well, her's and ONLY HERS is now not working again.
Why?
She's constantly leaving work early or arriving a bit late to work.
Which route she takes and where exactly is she for 20 to 30 minutes is beyond me.
To make matters worse the alleged pAP attends or attended college 1/4 mile from her current work.
Is she still seeing him?
talking to him?
IDK
I've reached my point and she knows it. I personally do not want to be married to her anymore.
I don't want ANY relationship. Just peace of mind, my daughters and a normal life.
For now things will remain the same.
I've thought about getting a VAR etc...
But I haven't gotten that far.
I'm leaving so many details which point towards an active Affair!
One thing I know though, is that THIS IS no life to live.
No one is worth this much pain and misery.
NO ONE
Good luck to you as you navigate this road with the rest of us betrayed.