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Not said to me but in a text to married COW the day before they consummated their relations: the dog sitter is jealous of you.

Found out later that I was being referred to at her office as the dog sitter and dog walker, since I would watch our dogs while she was 'working a double shift'

Walking my dogs, which at one time was the highlight of my day, ended up being a HUGE trigger for me. Just being outside walking with them would make me nervous.

Max2018 if it’s TMI on an Internet forum, imagine how fun it was to discover in person!

BraveSirRobin hell no! Those fuckers were expensive, and I paid for them myself! I took those with me

“You like watching that stupid HGTV.”

Yes, my love of The Property Brothers pushed him to cheat. Makes perfect sense.

BraveSirRobin hell no! Those fuckers were expensive, and I paid for them myself! I took those with me

Right, that's much better. They won't be available the next time they're needed, his dick will fall off, and he'll blame OW. End of fairy tale!

Zamboni

What does he have against open concept floor plans and Dad humor?

HeHadADoubleLife

Hickory Apple, I got a similar “I didn’t think you cared about our marriage”. I asked him why he lied so much then, if I didn’t care, why not just tell me up front? I mean, my response to him telling me he was cheating was apparently only going to be “ oh, I don’t care.” Clearly you knew I cared, so you lied like a crazy man for months.

He didn’t have a response.

After d-day2, when asked why he didn't just end things with me or with his AP after d-day1 instead of having me take a job I didn't want, convince me to move back (I was working out of state on a contract job for a year when the A started and was discovered), and string me along for a year of false R, he responded:

"I guess I just wasn't ready to give it up yet." (Still don't know if "it" was her or me).

After d-day 1, when asked how he could do this to me/to us his response:

"Don't I deserve to be happy?"

Awwww, shucks, Max and Wool.... Thanks!

A thread like this at least helps to know one is/was not the only one that was told some pretty cruel things by the WS. "Misery likes company" after all.... Still wish none of us had a share in any of it.

Northerngal I've just asked him the same (again) via messages, which he won't get until fri/sat when he's in phone range again. Also pointed out the same as you ie

Clearly you knew I cared, so you lied like a crazy man for months.

... How do they think we'd ever believe such contradictory bullsh*t? It baffles me.

Just remembered this gem: we're dancing in the kitchen and some song comes up. She gets upset, cries, and says it reminds her of one of her 'friends' who recently un-friended her on Facebook.

Watching your wife cry about another man is disturbing. Finding out later why it was really so upsetting to her...

Watching your wife cry about another man is disturbing. Finding out later why it was really so upsetting to her...

Just effing Ouch

Some of these are just awful and outrageous.

Be glad these fools are out of your life.

I've never been wanted by someone like that.

I think one of the reasons that it's so hard for me to let go of all the anger and pain is that I never got the conversation. He admitted to the affair but only in the Discovery responses. He has never even acknowledged the affair to me after all those years of deception, not even after I confronted him. And because he didn't have to suffer a single consequence for his cheating, it's as though to the rest of the world it just never happened. At the very least, he should have to face the world with all of them knowing he's a lying, cheating, hypocritical scumbag. But, no. He gets off scot free. He's a master manipulator, and everyone who knows him thinks he's such a Nice Guy!

Although he has never acknowledged the affair to my face (or in a letter or email or text), in the Discovery responses, he said through his lawyer a variation of:

"I didn't think you'd be that upset. "

But the one that really made me angry was when he tried to pretend - again through his lawyer in the Discovery responses - that he cheated because he couldn't get sex from me. Trust me, I was not the problem.

If he had been in the room with me on the day I read that line, I might have done more than slap him. Good thing he wasn't there.

He doesn't have the balls to face me and tell the truth. He's far too much of a spineless coward for that. A selfish, spineless coward.

I hope she makes him thoroughly miserable and gives him a disease. Several diseases. I hope all our so-called mutual friends who think she's such a good Christian get as thoroughly screwed over by her as she did to me. Maybe then they'll realize what a cheap, trashy, lying, backstabbing, cold-hearted, manipulative whore she is. I hope they realize the truth about him too one day. I hope they all fuck each other over and ruin each other's lives. I hope every last one of them lives in absolute misery until they die.

It's a testament to the cruel unfairness of life that some of these creeps get to destroy you and carry on unaffected. I sleep better with the thought of how broken they are deep inside.

"You and my IC told me to make friends"

Friends you idiot - not lovers!

My favorite though was

"She reminded me of you"

Uh, what? she is dark hair, pudgy, going bald, mousy and doesn't have any of the same hobbies or likes.

I'm a red head, curvy and a head full of hair - and I'm SO NOT mousy. The only thing that is like me is that she is short. *That was the biggest insult to me.

I think of all excuses my WH said to me was while having his first PA 23yrs ago

you weren't there for me when I needed you

No I was in the hospital having his twins ( where we were told our son wasn't likely to last the weekend )

thankfully our son did survive...however my WH nearly didn't!!

Right before they took his phone from him as he was going to rehab...

Me: “that’s it you’re just going to run away now without talking to your family but you’re going to pull out all the stops trying to contact her”

WH: “I wanted to reassure her that her personal life wasn’t at risk because she is a really good person and doesn’t deserve that”

Me: “I beg to differ she’s disgusting”

WH: “I’m disgusting”

Me: “we agree on that!”

" you were waiting for something like this to happen to divorce me, now you can other women as much as you want, and I'm the Bad guy that broke the marriage "