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dreamlife ( member #8142) posted at 4:54 AM on Friday, June 28th, 2019
Just saw this...sending huge hugs!
~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~
"He called me a bitch.
I called him an ambulance."
Linda H.)
ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 12:35 PM on Friday, June 28th, 2019
smy - sending you lots more MOJO (except for Tranna basketball cuz I'm an old Warriors fan from waaaaaaaayyyyy before they were any good).
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
dreamlife ( member #8142) posted at 1:04 AM on Saturday, June 29th, 2019
Snoring can be a sign of sleep apnea.
~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~
"He called me a bitch.
I called him an ambulance."
Linda H.)
WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 1:56 AM on Saturday, June 29th, 2019
Sending hugs, smy. I hope you are on the mend.
I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural
looking forward (original poster member #25238) posted at 2:07 AM on Saturday, June 29th, 2019
End of June Update
Again, a huge thank you for all your healing wishes and advice for smy.
He has been diagnosed with severe obstructive sleep apnea, over 45 obstructive events on average per hour, as well as moderate to loud continuous snoring (to which I can attest!).
Yesterday, he saw our family doctor and she filled in/faxed the paperwork to the MTO for licence reinstatement, concurring that this was a one time event, given his medical history. We both hope there are no complications/delays. But, no doubt, I am driving Miss Daisy for the summer.
A plus for me, as the driver, is that smy has taken up reading in the car, currently a Clive Cussler adventure. Believe me, he taught me to drive back in '71, so any driving missteps I make I can also attribute to his teaching skills. 
It was a four hour round trip yesterday!
smy has an appointment on Tuesday with the CPAP rep. He really doesn't want one of these machines; I understand completely, but he needs to realize that his health is not just his business-- he has a family to consider, let alone his own mortality.
So we are off to the cottage for our Canada Day long weekend with our kids and their spouses, and celebrating smy's 72nd birthday on Monday, a double celebration.
Again, thank you so much for your support!
Together more than 57 years, Married 52 years. Sober since 2009. "You've always had the power, my dear, you just had to learn it for yourself." (The Wizard of Oz)
JpnHeartBreak ( member #54689) posted at 5:39 AM on Saturday, June 29th, 2019
Positive vibes sent to you and SMY
thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 12:33 PM on Saturday, June 29th, 2019
As much as smy may not want to face this as the Dx, I believe this really is the best outcome. I have been wanting to send you a PM and maybe now I will do that, if you don't mind.
Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?
looking forward (original poster member #25238) posted at 2:11 PM on Saturday, June 29th, 2019
@thebighurt
PM invitation accepted!
Together more than 57 years, Married 52 years. Sober since 2009. "You've always had the power, my dear, you just had to learn it for yourself." (The Wizard of Oz)
hopefull77 ( member #43221) posted at 1:37 PM on Monday, July 1st, 2019
Well first off Happy Birthday to SMY!
I hope you all enjoy your holiday! There's a lot to celebrate!
me-BS him-WS
" I will not define myself by what went wrong yesterday when I can draw upon Life and Love right now."
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 7:24 PM on Monday, July 1st, 2019
Happy birthday, SMY (please pass that on to him). (I've already posted my congratulations to Canada.)
Thanks so much for the update. I hope he finds a CPAP machine that works for him soon. The possible effects of sleep apnea are very, very worrisome.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
looking forward (original poster member #25238) posted at 9:58 PM on Monday, July 1st, 2019
72 years young today!
(Inappropriate pic)
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Together more than 57 years, Married 52 years. Sober since 2009. "You've always had the power, my dear, you just had to learn it for yourself." (The Wizard of Oz)
looking forward (original poster member #25238) posted at 2:01 AM on Tuesday, July 2nd, 2019
[This message edited by looking forward at 3:46 PM, July 2nd (Tuesday)]
Together more than 57 years, Married 52 years. Sober since 2009. "You've always had the power, my dear, you just had to learn it for yourself." (The Wizard of Oz)
StillLivin ( member #40229) posted at 5:26 AM on Tuesday, July 2nd, 2019
The new CPAPs are MUCH more comfortable, and almost soundless, compared to the ones of yesterday. Seriously, once you get used to it, you no longer feel it. I would suggest getting the expensive CPAP pillows for added comfort. I think they are about $55-60.
Added bonus, many things like headaches, exhaustion, etc. will disappear almost immediately.
Thanks for updating.
"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB: 7/2/2014
ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 8:44 PM on Tuesday, July 2nd, 2019
Happy birthday and get better soon!!!! ((((smy))))
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
Hope2B ( member #40474) posted at 6:21 PM on Wednesday, July 3rd, 2019
Happy birthday, SMY!!! Great photo!
Wear that CPAP thing...please! As noted earlier from StillLivin, the technology has advanced and evolved, so hopefully there won't be a long period of adjustment.
[This message edited by Hope2B at 12:22 PM, July 3rd (Wednesday)]
DDay: Feb. 25, 2013Trickle Truth/DDays: Sept 10, 11, 13, 15 (2013)
Shockedmom ( member #44708) posted at 6:34 PM on Wednesday, July 3rd, 2019
Great photo! Looks like you are feeling better. Hope your Canada Day celebration was wonderful and relaxing.
somanyyears ( member #26970) posted at 10:50 PM on Wednesday, July 3rd, 2019
.. Thanks everyone.. for the warm wishes and support.
I'll give this mask thingy a try and hopefully it will make the difference.
Worst part is not being allowed to drive.... 
BLOODY HELL !!!!!! FUCK, SHIT and DAMN.. I feel a little better now. 
smy 
trust no other human- love only your pets. Reconciled I think! Me 77 Her 74 Married 52 yrs. 18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer. Little fucker died at 57.Brain tumour!
thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 5:45 PM on Thursday, July 4th, 2019
Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?
2oldforthis ( member #19825) posted at 10:43 PM on Monday, July 8th, 2019
Just saw this post sorry I am so late, but I am glad that this was considered a 1 time thing. You will get the driving back soon. Best of luck
He did not see what he had in me, what I saw in him I did not have!
Love kills slowly.
sportsfan ( member #9918) posted at 7:20 AM on Tuesday, July 9th, 2019
smy - hows the “mask thingy” working out?
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