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NOT a huge fan of Beyonce, although I will admit to singing, Put a Ring on It, with the kids in the car, when they were little bits.

I came upon an article about Beyonce's own confrontation with infidelity committed by her WH Jay-Z. The album she made is called Lemonade and it is a series of emotions put down on music. I listened to it for the first time today. It was impactful for me.

Perhaps you can listen to it and find your own story in there.

Are there other music you listened to regarding infidelity that has been helpful for you?

This is a huge trigger for me because my husbands OW worships Beyoncé and tells people they are friends in real life and she and Jay-Z are her baby’s godparents. The kids are named after them.

That said I never was a fan, but I wouldn’t listen anyway because I’m not sure that would be helpful to me in any way.

I'm a big Beyonce fan - ESPECIALLY the Lemonade album.

Sometimes after D-Day, when I was feeling particularly poorly about myself and my lot-in-life, I would remind myself that if Beyonce - this beautiful, powerful, talented and rich superstar - could get cheated on, then it really didn't say anything about the BS then did it?

Marie - I can see why this would be a trigger for you. I have to admit though, that I laughed at loud at your delusional OW.

>>>>Are there other music you listened to regarding infidelity that has been helpful for you?<<<<

Big fan of cheating songs.

Best Jazz Song about infidelity? No competition - "Cry Me a River". Either Ella or Diana Krall.

Best R&B songs about infidelity? Me and Mrs Jones (Billy Paul), You Know I'm No Good (Amy Winehouse), I Heard It Through The Grapevine (Marvin Gaye, CCR).

Best rock songs about infidelity? Somebody to Love (Jefferson Airplane), Hey Joe (Jimi Hendrix), Feelin' Alright (Traffic, Joe Cocker),

Best folk songs about infidelity? Operator (Jim Croce), Suzanne (Leonard Cohen), Great Compromise (John Prine), Wildwood Flower (Carter Family). Bob Dylan must have written a cheating song but I can't think of one.

Can't talk about cheating songs without talking country music. Tennesse Waltz - Leonard Cohen does a great version. Some fine lyrics were written about the breakup of Hank and Audrey Williams (not just "Your Cheatin' Heart"). Some of the Johnny Cash and/or June Carter songs about infidelity are pretty great (Long Black Veil, I Walk The Line, Ring of Fire, Hurt). I'm partial to Hank Snow's "I'm Moving On". Marty Robbins, George Jones, Loretta Lynn did great versions of "The Shoe Goes On The Other Foot Tonight" (a personal favorite).

Big fan of infidelity movies too. Some great ones - In the Mood For Love, Terms of Endearment, Brief Encounter, Crimes and Misdemeanors, Vanilla Sky, Closer, American Beauty, The Descendants, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind.

Although this song is not from the Lemonade album it still hurts hard when I here it... Resentment from her B'day album... WH walked in on me singing and crying to this song shortly after Dday a few days later I seen him watching it on YouTube with lyrics...

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I was watching a "conspiracy theory" type video on YouTube...and they showed Beyonce rocking side to side. It looks like they are at a basketball game. When I saw it...with her arms crossed...and the way Jay-Z was acting...I KNEW exactly WHY she was this way . It HURTS to see it...because I have felt this EXACT same way .

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"I'm not the only one" by Sam Smith is one song that hit me hard. I couldn't listen to music much after DDay...too many lyrics with triggers. My H started listening to Contemporary Christian music...and I figured there probably wouldn't be very many adultery type lyrics in that...so I started listening to it too . The GREAT thing about this is...the music is so POSITIVE and uplifting...and I LOVE listening to it more than any other genre now !!!

While not technically a song about infidelity, Broken Together by Casting Crowns always takes me back.

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Resentment is so good. That song captures so much of what I felt after dday. I used to cry to that song so much after dday. I still haven’t watched the whole Lemonade “movie” but I really want to. I know I will cry a ton. I love “Sorry” - it’s a good song for a BS who is just over it.

Hephaestus2,

I had no idea Operator was about infidelity. I love that song. It's another freaking reminder of the joy I shared with my WH before he cheated. I bought him a 12 string guitar so he could learn to play that song for me. I am going to have to listen to it again.

My first post here - can't believe it's about lemonade!

About 3 weeks after D-Day I had this horrific week long work trip (some days I was working from 6 AM to 10 PM). I couldn't sleep and could barely eat but I bought the lemonade album and would listen to that practically the whole time I was in my hotel. That was probably the only thing that got me through that trip.

On the negative side I sometimes get "sorry" stuck in my head now and it occasionally puts me in a bad mood. But I swear that album saved me.

I'm not the only one" by Sam Smith

This was a big one for me as it came out soon after dday. I shared it FB so many times. Trying to be cryptic. Don't know if it worked.

Carrie Underwood--Before He Cheats.

Alanis Morissette - You Oughta Know

I've been a fan of Beyonce, especially the Lemonade and I am Sasha Fierce cds, *especially* since I found out SAWH detests her. If I'm feeling particularly childish I play her loudly when he's around because it's better than sticking my tongue out.

When I'm feeling really sad I play Etta James cd "Heart of a Woman" over and over again. Every song on there touches my heart.

I knew about the Lemonade album but I have not heard it. I love Edm music and when I found out about my fWH EA I was driving in the car and started bawling to this song by Kaskade&Deadmau5 called “I remember”. That whole year while my fWH was gaslighting and denying that anything was wrong.. I listened sang sobbed over and over-it was heart wrenching.

Walk Away - Dropkick Murphys

It is technically about deadbeat dads. But the lyrics could work for infidelity. It affects me that way. Heard it on the way to work one morning and had to pull over and cry. Then scream. Then put it on repeat and scream the lyrics continually in the car for the next week.

I came upon an article about Beyonce's own confrontation with infidelity committed by her WH Jay-Z. The album she made is called Lemonade and it is a series of emotions put down on music. I listened to it for the first time today. It was impactful for me.

Music can be such a wonderful relief! I love all types of music.

I have to admit that when Lemonade was first released, I didn't get into it at all. But when I saw the video that dramatizes the album, it all came together. Very powerful, actually, although some of the little inside jokes and jabs she takes in the lyrics require some knowledge of Jay-Z's music too.

Funny how inspiration can come from unlikely places. When I feel blue about infidelity and/or things I find personally insulting, I find myself going to the Madonna song "Gone". It starts off like this...

"Selling out

Is not my thing

Walk away

I won't be broken again

I'm not

I'm not what you think..."

The song is somber and melancholy but defiant. The defiance is what picks me up.

Just came on the radio.

Bad Blood, Taylor Swift

I'm pretty sure that one came out soon after my dday 1, too.

Lemonade healed me in many, many ways. It is an album about both heartbreak but also strength. And a BIG there is no second chance here buddy so you better get your shit together real fucking quickmessage.

Also if talented, rich beyond measure, beautiful Beyonce can get cheated on, it solidified that his shit had NOTHING to do with me and my value.