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Notthevictem ( member #44389) posted at 6:41 PM on Friday, October 16th, 2020

I also have a large supply of bean dip (just add water) and a malfunctioning ventilation system...

Where is this place?!?! This promised land??? I must go!!

BH
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 36yearsgone (original poster member #60774) posted at 6:43 PM on Friday, October 16th, 2020

Yup, just like the video above.

If you are absent during my struggles, don't expect to be present in my success.

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EllieKMAS ( member #68900) posted at 6:45 PM on Friday, October 16th, 2020

I also have a large supply of bean dip

Mannnnn.... I'd get in a stranger's van for free bean dip!

ETA: C'mon 36YG - you can't tell me this thread isn't amusing at least

[This message edited by EllieKMAS at 12:46 PM, October 16th (Friday)]

"No, it's you mothafucka, here's a list of reasons why." – Iliza Schlesinger

"The love that you lost isn't worth what it cost and in time you'll be glad that it's gone." – Linkin Park

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Notthevictem ( member #44389) posted at 6:49 PM on Friday, October 16th, 2020

Mannnnn.... I'd get in a stranger's van for free bean dip!

Bean dip comes from strange vans? I never knew. I'll brb, I have to go... uh... um... watch a movie... or something...

BH
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landclark ( member #70659) posted at 6:50 PM on Friday, October 16th, 2020

What if you accidentally get sent back in time and you're not sure if you'll ever get back and you meet a hot Scottish lad who also happens to be a virgin and his clan is willing to protect you only if you marry him and consumate the marriage? Is it ok then?

For the aliens, are we talking like Leeloo or Superman hot? Because if so, I feel like that shouldn't be off the table....

Me: BW Him: WH (GuiltAndShame) Dday 05/19/19 TT through AugustOne child together, 3 stepchildrenTogether 13.5 years, married 12.5

First EA 4 months into marriage. Last ended 05/19/19. *ETA, contd an ea after dday for 2 yrs.

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fareast ( Moderator #61555) posted at 6:51 PM on Friday, October 16th, 2020

Did someone say vegetative and bean dip in the same sentence? Yum!

Never bother with things in your rearview mirror. Your best days are on the road in front of you.

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EllieKMAS ( member #68900) posted at 6:52 PM on Friday, October 16th, 2020

What if you accidentally get sent back in time and you're not sure if you'll ever get back and you meet a hot Scottish lad who also happens to be a virgin and his clan is willing to protect you only if you marry him and consummate the marriage? Is it ok then?

Fuck. YES. YESSSSSSS. LOVE Outlander!! (Snob alert: the books, not the show) Jamie ruined me for any other man ever.

"No, it's you mothafucka, here's a list of reasons why." – Iliza Schlesinger

"The love that you lost isn't worth what it cost and in time you'll be glad that it's gone." – Linkin Park

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 36yearsgone (original poster member #60774) posted at 6:55 PM on Friday, October 16th, 2020

This thread is proof that no one can claim victims of infidelity don't have senses of humor. Who woulda thunk?

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Notthevictem ( member #44389) posted at 6:57 PM on Friday, October 16th, 2020

Who woulda thunk?

Not me, I leave the thinking stuff to my alien overlords.

BH
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EllieKMAS ( member #68900) posted at 7:05 PM on Friday, October 16th, 2020

Found an outfit for you NTV!! So fancy, so fashionable!

"No, it's you mothafucka, here's a list of reasons why." – Iliza Schlesinger

"The love that you lost isn't worth what it cost and in time you'll be glad that it's gone." – Linkin Park

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WhatsRight ( member #35417) posted at 7:05 PM on Friday, October 16th, 2020

I am sitting here in the hospital with my H for the 7th out of the last 8 days...feeling all crappy (that’s a pun if you read my thread about it)

then...

...I happen on this thread. At first it was thought provoking and I felt I am in a position to have some relavant / personal input.

Then...all hell broke loose.

I have been laughing so loud I expect to get dirty looks from the nurses at any second.

I want to cite all the hysterical posts, but just go ahead and read the whole thing!

I will have to say this from Ellie really got me braying like a donkey!

Did someone say vegetative and bean dip in the same sentence?

"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt

I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy

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EllieKMAS ( member #68900) posted at 7:07 PM on Friday, October 16th, 2020

*pointing at NTV

He started it

"No, it's you mothafucka, here's a list of reasons why." – Iliza Schlesinger

"The love that you lost isn't worth what it cost and in time you'll be glad that it's gone." – Linkin Park

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99problems ( member #59373) posted at 7:08 PM on Friday, October 16th, 2020

Oh my goodness. I thought I went too far and then I came back to this...

What have we done?

Back into the bunker to huff bean dip fumes I guess. You can buy it by the 5-gallon bucket(dehydrated) on one of those ex-televangelist's websites. Good for 30 years or until the destruction of mankind!

Got me a new forum name!<BR />Formerly Idiotmcstupid.<BR />I am divorced, so not as much of an idiot now- 4/15/21,

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Notthevictem ( member #44389) posted at 7:08 PM on Friday, October 16th, 2020

WhatsRight, you should fart when you laugh, it makes it more fun!

[This message edited by Notthevictem at 1:12 PM, October 16th (Friday)]

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Notthevictem ( member #44389) posted at 7:13 PM on Friday, October 16th, 2020

Idiotmcstupid, your preparations for the fartocalypse are inspiring!

BH
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WhatsRight ( member #35417) posted at 7:26 PM on Friday, October 16th, 2020

NTV...I’m a girl, and girls - especially Southern ladies NEVER fart.

"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt

I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy

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Notthevictem ( member #44389) posted at 7:57 PM on Friday, October 16th, 2020

No!!! I never figured you of all people would be part of the anti-falatullence establishment. Why?!?!

BH
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WhatsRight ( member #35417) posted at 8:02 PM on Friday, October 16th, 2020

36yearsgone...

This has to be the worst case (in which I was a willing participant) of thread jacking in the history of thread jacking.

So, with apologies for shifting away from the fun, I wanted to put in my 2 cents worth to the original thread.

I have been married for over 30 years to a quadriplegic. Spinal cord injury 14 years before we were married. When we met he was hot! Funny. We fell in love. Adopted 3 kids. All with issues due to addict birth mothers. So...lots of challenges.

About 10 years (I’m guessing - still don’t really know) into the marriage, he began to be distant followed by porn. Followed by prostitute. Followed by marriage breakdown.

I decided to stay and hope we could try to save the marriage.

“Till death do us part” is important, even though I was divorced twice already.

Well, no true remorse, no real work (from him) to heal the marriage or himself.

Fast forward...8-10 years ago he went from an Olympic champion, very independent with daily living skills, his own business, a day named after him in our town, blah...blah...blah, to losing his business in a scam, health diminishing, several serious illnesses, depression, opioid use (prescribed), and now intestinal complications.

He is not comatose. No vegetative state. But he requires my help for EVERYTHING. Turn in the bed, turn on the tv, restroom needs, etc.

For the last few years, my H and our marriage fits into this characterization:

What if the spouse was not comatose? What if they had not provided romantic love for 10, 20, 30 years? Is an affair acceptable in that case? Divorce might be, but not an affair

I totally agree. Even the Bible (for those of us who use it as a reference / guide) says infidelity is an acceptable reason for divorce.

But I did say “For better or for worse” and I meant it - most especially after betraying that vow in previous marriages.

Very, very sadly, my marriage is no longer physical - not because of his disability / health issues (where there’s a will, there’s a way ) but because of the emotional disconnect and a lack of healing.

But I’m staying. I care about him. I will not abandon him. (My word)

JMHO

"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt

I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy

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fareast ( Moderator #61555) posted at 8:05 PM on Friday, October 16th, 2020

Sorry to jump in here, but a correction is in order.😳. Let’s give the correct attribution here. As much as I love Ellie (platonically of course), and as much as I loved “My Favorite Martian” With Ray Walston and Bill Bixby, the reference to vegetative and bean dip in the same sentence emanated from this keyboard. 😎. Ooh, but I forgot to mention hummus! You have to have hummus. Carry on.

[This message edited by fareast at 2:47 PM, October 16th (Friday)]

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Notthevictem ( member #44389) posted at 8:07 PM on Friday, October 16th, 2020

Side note: Hummus won runner up to bean dip.

BH
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