I’m confused as to why you sent your xww an email.
I think your atty isn’t going to appreciate that at all, especially since you put your comments in writing.
The message was sent to my xWW with my attorney's recommendation. By the way, this message was sent in February.
The problem is not in the realm of "winning" or "losing"... it's about getting a reasonable resolution of my divorce under the law.
There is no great strategy here. It's an appeal, which has very limited scope. We really cannot challenge any of the decisions or ruling that the judge made unless they explicitly violate the law (either case law or statute).
For financial and personal cost reasons, I would prefer a settlement to winning an appeal. That was the purpose of the email... to trigger a settlement. (to look at it differently, if I spent $7500 on an appeal and xWW spends $7500 on an appeal... then my kids get $0 out of those $15,000).
To give you some more background, when my attorney initially tried to settle with opposing counsel... their offer for a settlement was for me to pay $30,000 immediately, which is actually worth more than the $35,000 that I am scheduled to pay over the next 7 years.
My attorney's theory is that opposing counsel is not explaining the law to xWW. That is the motivation behind the email to xWW. My attorney cannot speak to xWW, but I can. So, I did.
To explain the case again, the judge ruled on my income, xWW's income, my reasonable budget, and xWW's reasonable budget.
After that, to be eligible for alimony, xWW needs to demonstrate that her income is insufficient to cover her monthly budget and that my income exceeds my monthly budget. Meaning, she has to demonstrate that she has a need for alimony AND I have the ability to pay alimony.
Once the judge rules on incomes and budgets, It's a little complicated because you have to take into account income taxes at both the State and Federal levels, which is why I had a CPA testify at trial. Regardless, my appeal is based on the simply fact that xWW's income exceeds her budget. That is, she does not have a need for alimony and therefore she should not receive alimony.
It's really that simple. That's why my attorney described it as "the strongest case for appeal in her 20 years of practicing family law" when she called me to tell me about the judge's decision on February 1. This is also why the appellate mediator is privately conceding to my attorney that she has no idea how opposing counsel hopes to prevail.
barcher, friend, you think you've helped yourself by explaining your legal strategy and telling your XW to get better legal representation?
There was a chance that my email would trigger xWW to settle and/or find new legal counsel. That chance would have meant a less costly appeal and/or a settlement. That is, the best case scenario would have been better.
The worst case scenario is that they are digging in their heels and continuing to fight. Sending that email did not help them in any way. It's not like our appeal is a surprise.
This is business, not a game.
Somehow, y'all seem to think that I am appealing out of emotion. I'm not.
If I was driven by emotion, then I would be trying to get more custody of my kids. I've been told that I have a very slim chance of success in doing that and it will be at a high cost (i.e., high risk, low reward). Instead, my appeal is low risk (i.e., not very expensive) and high reward (i.e., I am very likely to win).
Also, my attorney knows very well that there is a likelihood that I will withdraw my appeal if mediation fails. Given that xWW has already moved in with her boyfriend, she gifted me a plan B. Even if I lose the appeal, I will be back in court in February 2022 saying that xWW is should no longer receive alimony because she's living with her romantic partner (i.e., they bought a house together).