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Tallgirl ( member #64088) posted at 12:02 AM on Wednesday, July 5th, 2023
So sorry for all you are going through. Hugs and good thoughts for you and your family.
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 12:40 AM on Wednesday, July 5th, 2023
Echoing the others. Take care of yourself and sending mojo that everyone is on the mend soon.
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
Blackbird25 ( member #82766) posted at 1:27 AM on Wednesday, July 5th, 2023
I’m so sorry you’re going through all this Hellfire. We’re here for you. Sending positive vibes your way.
Me: BS Him: WH, Married 1996 -
DDay#1: 6/1/2012 (EA 3 mos, PA 1 month) - DDay#2: 12/26/22 (EA, 1 wk) -
Reconciling and doing well.
Tanner ( Guide #72235) posted at 1:37 AM on Wednesday, July 5th, 2023
So sorry about the family issues you are going through. I’m thankful your Son is ok. The potential Dday +1 just sucks. You have been here for so many of us we are also here for you.
Dday Sept 7 2019 doing well in R BH M 33 years
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 2:16 AM on Wednesday, July 5th, 2023
Glad your son is OK and wishing the best for your dad.
As for the rest of the stuff going on, I'm terribly sorry and wishing you peace.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
Seeking2Forgive ( member #78819) posted at 6:16 AM on Wednesday, July 5th, 2023
I'm very sorry for all that you're going through right now. Finding more wayward behavior at a time like this is terrible. Stay strong. You've been such a source of strength for so many here. We're here for you.
Me: 62, BS -- Her: 61, FWS -- Dday: 11/15/03 -- Married 37 yrs -- Reconciled
BreakingBad ( member #75779) posted at 6:28 AM on Wednesday, July 5th, 2023
I'm so sorry that this is a when it rains it pours time in your life, HellFire. I'm also someone who has to know and see the proof (even for myself).
Know that you are carried in so many people's hearts right now. Get through your father's surgery and wait until you gather your strength.
You know you are supported here.
"...lately it's not hurtin' like it did before. Maybe I am learning how to love me more."[Credit to Sam Smith]
GoldenR ( member #54778) posted at 10:47 AM on Wednesday, July 5th, 2023
Damn, Hellfire...I'm so very sorry that you're going through this.
You were the first person on her that I considered a friend, so I really hate this.
I'll keep you in my prayers and send you strength.
zebra25 ( member #29431) posted at 11:39 AM on Wednesday, July 5th, 2023
I'm so sorry for everything you are dealing with. Sending you good thoughts and strength.
"Don't let anyone who hasn't been in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces."
D-day April 2010
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 12:59 PM on Wednesday, July 5th, 2023
Well Hell,
That sucks. I am so sorry your plate is very full of tough things currently.
Prayers for a good surgical outcome, and thanks that your kiddo is ok.
Now for that other matter, you are doing what is right, be quiet, gather the evidence, and plan.
We are here for you. Don't forget that.
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 2:40 PM on Wednesday, July 5th, 2023
I'm very sorry you've got so much on your plate and very glad your son is OK.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
d-day - 12/22/2010 Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
SacredSoul33 ( member #83038) posted at 2:48 PM on Wednesday, July 5th, 2023
Damn. I'm sorry. I'm glad your son is okay. Sending good juju to you and your father, and very aggressive double middle fingers to your H.
Gasping for air while volunteering to give others CPR is not heroic.
Your nervous system will always choose a familiar hell over an unfamiliar heaven.
HardKnocks ( member #70957) posted at 3:18 PM on Wednesday, July 5th, 2023
So sorry to hear.
Take your time.
Wishing you peace.
Lurkingsoul12 ( member #82382) posted at 3:29 PM on Wednesday, July 5th, 2023
Glad the God was looking after your son. Hope there are no serious permanent injuries.
My prayers for your father's successful surgery. He will be alright.
More strength to you 🙏
Lalagirl ( member #14576) posted at 3:48 PM on Wednesday, July 5th, 2023
Hugs and strength to you, HellFire; we’re here for you.
2025: Me-59 FWH-61 Married 41 years grown daughters- 41 & 37. 1 GS,11yo GD & 9yo GD (DD40); Five grands ages 15 to 8. D-day #1-1/06; D-day #2-3/07 Reconciled! Construction Complete. Astra inclinant, sed non obligant
emergent8 ( member #58189) posted at 6:41 PM on Wednesday, July 5th, 2023
How are you doing today Hellfire?
Me: BS. Him: WS.
D-Day: Feb 2017 (8 m PA with married COW).
Happily reconciled.
crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 7:11 PM on Wednesday, July 5th, 2023
I'm so sorry Hellfire. WS's like this cease to amaze me I truly think they are the evil amongst us. Am really happy your son is ok and hope that your father's surgery is successful. Sounds like way too much to go through at the same time :(
fBS/fWS(me):52 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:55 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(22) DS(19)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Separated 9/2019; Divorced 8/2024
Tinytim1980 ( member #80504) posted at 7:59 PM on Wednesday, July 5th, 2023
Sorry to hear this Hellfire, as per the above I just dont understand why people who are going through or have R'd do this. What a d$ck ....
I hope your father's surgery goes ok and that your lad recovers both mentally and physically. Make sure you look after yourself though.
DevastatedDee ( member #59873) posted at 8:07 PM on Wednesday, July 5th, 2023
I'm so sorry, Hellfire. This is all so much and all at once. I'm really glad your son is okay. I hope your dad pulls through as well.
Your WH? Shame on him. You deserve so much better than that.
[This message edited by DevastatedDee at 8:08 PM, Wednesday, July 5th]
DDay: 06/07/2017
MH - RA on DDay.
Divorced a serial cheater (prostitutes and lord only knows who and what else).
farsidejunky ( member #49392) posted at 9:24 PM on Wednesday, July 5th, 2023
Damn, HF. Have you thought about what you will do if your (probable) suspicions are confirmed?
It will be a challenge with all that is going on in your life, but you must stay disciplined.
Stay strong.
"Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option."
-Maya Angelou
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