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 36yearsgone (original poster member #60774) posted at 11:41 PM on Friday, September 18th, 2020

Did your Wayward ever say something so ridiculous...it made you laugh.

My WS's POSOM spent time in prison for beating up women. He was a thief, had been accused of rape, a sexual predator, ripped off his clients to the tune of thousands, stole medications from his clients, slept with multiple women in my wife's office, and in general was a PSOM, a real dirt bag.

And when confronted on D-day and asked why she'd been screwing him, she said:

"Because he's such a better man than you!"

She said that with a straight face, full of sincerity. I admit it hurt but I also laughed out loud.

What are some of the lines you heard that were so ridiculous you couldn't help but laugh or stare dumbfounded in utter astonishment at their lunacy?

If you are absent during my struggles, don't expect to be present in my success.

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allusions ( member #25376) posted at 11:46 PM on Friday, September 18th, 2020

Said after I told him I found out he was kissing OW:

(Very indignant) "I don't kiss her! She kisses me!"

You can apologize over and over, but if your actions don't change, your words become meaningless.

Behind every crazy bitch is a sweet girl who just got tired of being lied to.

I've found the key to happiness: Stay away from assholes.

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NotMyFirstRodeo ( member #75220) posted at 11:57 PM on Friday, September 18th, 2020

I saw the title of the thread and thought to myself how I can't be surprised.

And then I read allusions' post.

Is there a popcorn eating emoji?

To answer the question, yes. But it would be inside stuff that wouldn't make sense to anyone else. I'm pretty sure most WS's brains are mostly "high" from the experience. They do and think as someone that even many of their life-long friends would shun if they were to hear what logic was used to act. So of course their brains are in la-la land and they speak of ridiculous "logic".

Every lie we tell incurs a debt to the truth. Sooner or later that debt is paid.

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4everdevastated ( new member #75382) posted at 11:59 PM on Friday, September 18th, 2020

When I asked him about the dick pics he was uploading on the sex chat sites he said it was mainly men on there. “So you’re gay now?” And he says he’s not gay. “So you’re bisexual or incurious?” No he says he is still heterosexual. 🙄

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LadyG ( member #74337) posted at 12:24 AM on Saturday, September 19th, 2020

When I confronted W about $1000 charged to our son’s credit card for a Hotel booking, these were some of his pathetic attempts at an apology...

a) it was only 1 night... (Honeymoon suite I ask, it was 2 nights and he was having sex with AP for free at her home so why hotel?)

b) I know it was a waste of money. I would have been better off spending that money in a Brothel

September 26 1987 I married a monster. Slowly healing from Complex PTSD. I Need Peace. Fiat Lux. Buddha’s Love Saves Me 🙏🏼

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survrus ( member #67698) posted at 1:34 AM on Saturday, September 19th, 2020

Similar to 36y.

When I mentioned OM1-b stealing from a woman with dementia she said, "that's not the OM1-b I know"

On another occasion I was asking her about a sexual act she never does with me which ended after one of her affairs. She then quoted something cute and funny a little girl had said to me at church, then said the girls name as if to give credit. I was shocked.

I think when the brain is in chaos it grabs whatever words are left at hand, to fill the gap while a lie is crafted.

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Catwoman ( member #1330) posted at 1:56 AM on Saturday, September 19th, 2020

"Having an affair made me a better husband."

I'm still trying to figure that one out.

Cat

FBS: Married 20 years, 2 daughters 27 and 24. Divorced by the grace of GOD.
D-Days: 2/23/93; 10/11/97; 3/5/03
Ex & OW Broke up 12-10
"An erection does not count as personal growth."

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ChamomileTea ( Moderator #53574) posted at 2:09 AM on Saturday, September 19th, 2020

In defense of OW#2... "She's not a bad person. I felt bad for her because her husband is cheating on her."

Not sure I laughed though. I was too busy trying to pick my jaw up off the floor.

[This message edited by ChamomileTea at 8:25 PM, September 18th (Friday)]

BW: 2004(online EAs), 2014 (multiple PAs); Married 40 years; in R with fWH for 10

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DevastatedDee ( member #59873) posted at 8:41 AM on Saturday, September 19th, 2020

My all-time favorite from my XWH was how he was forced into paying for and having sex with 3 prostitutes at once. He didn't want to. They made him do it. Poor little guy.

DDay: 06/07/2017
MH - RA on DDay.
Divorced a serial cheater (prostitutes and lord only knows who and what else).

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DevastatedDee ( member #59873) posted at 8:41 AM on Saturday, September 19th, 2020

Double post

[This message edited by DevastatedDee at 2:41 AM, September 19th (Saturday)]

DDay: 06/07/2017
MH - RA on DDay.
Divorced a serial cheater (prostitutes and lord only knows who and what else).

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Pizzatheaction ( member #71506) posted at 8:45 AM on Saturday, September 19th, 2020

Similar to CT - he said "I felt so sorry for her, because her husband was so horrible to her"!!!! To which I couldnt at that time come up with a reply because my jaw was repeatedly hitting the floor

She texted him "I wish I had a husband like you"

It just beggars belief.

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Ichthus ( member #52779) posted at 9:01 AM on Saturday, September 19th, 2020

"I had the 3rd affair because I was not dealing with my sin from the first 2 affairs"

This cracks me up now days.

Me: Divorced, moved on, and happy

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MickeyBill2016 ( member #56459) posted at 9:10 AM on Saturday, September 19th, 2020

As we were wrapping it all up waiting for the D to be finalized she said "I just hoped that you'd be happy for me..."

9 years married.
13 years divorced.

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leebick ( new member #74495) posted at 12:00 PM on Saturday, September 19th, 2020

When I confronted him about the secret email account that he uses exclusively with OW, listening to him claim they are just friends...

"It's secret, I didn't want you to know about it because I knew it'd hurt you and I didn't want you to be hurt."

BW, 64
WH, 60 (EA for 3+ years)
Married 27yr, together 35yr

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Ginny ( member #43196) posted at 12:38 PM on Saturday, September 19th, 2020

“I didn’t think it TECHNICALLY counted as having sex because I wasn’t FULLY aroused when we did it.”

BW49
FWH50
DDay 11-02-13
Married 30 years
2 month PA/EA with COW
DS28
Trying to R

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travels ( member #20334) posted at 1:37 PM on Saturday, September 19th, 2020

I'm years out from my situation. This type of thread pops up every now and then. I always find the "excuses" amazing and hilarious.

Some greats from my EX:

"I don't have her phone number. I haven't been calling her. I don't have her phone number. Why would I call her?" After I took his wallet and removed a piece of paper with her number on it, and showed him the phone records - "Hey, how did that get in there? I don't know why her number is there."

After I opened a letter OW#1 sent to him and confronted - "You just violated federal law by opening my mail." Yep, and I stayed with him through several OW.

While doing a big cleaning, I was flipping through an old college notebook of mine I found shoved under the bed. Turned out he had attempted to start journaling. He had written about laying in bed half naked with OW#3. During confrontation he had kept insisting they were just friends. His face when I replied with, "So, you would be fine with me being half naked in bed with a male friend?" He was actually speechless for once.

When confronted with the amount of time he was spending with OW #4 (Yes, stayed with him that long. I didn't have one ounce of self worth.) "I promised my best friend I would look after her while he was deployed. What kind of person do you think I am to do anything with his girlfriend? Even if they broke up, I would never do anything with my friend's girlfriends." This was said in such a rage that I was crushed and second guessing myself for almost a year after. Anyway, he and OW #4 are married now with a couple of kids. All I can say to her mentally now is, "Thank you for getting him away from me!"

Just on a side note, my drama happened before smartphones. He would have been so far underground if technology had been what it is today.

When one door closes, another door opens. It's the journey through the hallway that sucks.
"After a breakup, the loyal one stays single and deals with the damages until healed. The other one is already in another relationship."

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WowItsReallyReal ( member #46075) posted at 5:21 PM on Saturday, September 19th, 2020

One weekend afternoon before Dday my then WH was immersed in his phone. As I delivered his home cooked meal to his seat at the table, I asked him who he was texting. He replied, "To [OW name]".

(She was presented as his married gay co-worker & was being set up to become MY friend, along with her wife).

I said,"You guys sure talk a lot. Don't you get enough of her at work"?(*Looking back- OMG!)

He physically SHUDDERS & says, "Don't be stupid! She's huge, not to mention totally gay".

Nice.

How did I not see how

"stupid" I was being?!

OW & ExH have been together about 10 years now. 🙄

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sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 7:17 PM on Saturday, September 19th, 2020

W said she bought a ring for ow that was 'sort of an engagement ring,' since same-sex M was still illegal in our state.

I took that to mean it would have been an engagement ring, when same-sex M became legal.

When we last talked about this - years ago - she didn't know why she didn't think already being married was even more of an impediment to getting engaged.

fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.

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Bingo ( member #72835) posted at 8:06 PM on Saturday, September 19th, 2020

When he and the AP were kissing in the shelter house at the Y, I asked him how he could do that, out in the open, when we were both known at the Y. "Well, it seemed private."

When he and the AP were having secret coffee dates (they were "just friends" ya know), I asked him why he didn't tell me. "Because she was telling me things that were private to her and I didn't think it would be right for me to share that with you."

Geez, I could go on for days..

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Can't fix stupid...

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Notaboringwife ( member #74302) posted at 9:54 PM on Saturday, September 19th, 2020

AP came over to our house for supper at FWH's invite.

At the time I had no idea he was in an affair with her. He told me she is just a lonely widow and he feels sorry for her loneliness, and that he met her at the gym and invited her.

During R, I asked why did he invite AP to our house for supper:

"I invited AP to supper at our house because I wanted her to see that I was happy in my home." was his answer.

I stared at him when he said that. I just stared. I will never forget this answer. Sheer lunacy.

Oh and the affair continued until D-day, for another 9 months.

fBW. My scarred heart has an old soul.

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