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when they went NC: "She respects you."

On Dday after WH told me about how fat I was and all of the ways that I could lose weight, how he was having the best sex of his life with his stripper AP, and how a life of strip clubs and sex with girls his daughter's age was how he wanted to live from then on, I told him to sleep in the other room and he said.......But I want to be near you.

WTF.

I heard some jaw dropping shit but the one that really made me laugh came from OW2. Not really sure what she thought she would accomplish by contacting me but she did and seemed to be fishing for information.

She told me she thought H had been lying to her for 6 months. Um, yeah he’d been lying to everyone especially himself. She also thought my suggestion to block my husband was a ridiculous suggestion after telling me he was mean and manipulative.

When we were separating and it became clear he was coming up with ideas based on what OW and her ex had come with. He said something to the effect of “but it works so well for them” and I just laughed and laughed at him.

[This message edited by KonaGal at 9:31 PM, September 19th (Saturday)]

After 3 days of lies, more lies, and even more lies...

"Why don't you believe me? I'm an honest person."

🙄

But I always put more kisses on the end of texts to you than to the other women (at least 6 that I know of - stopped counting then!). That shows you meant more to me than they did.

Gee thanks dear

Cheating husband #1: I began to suspect that the an employee in our office was a problem, and I confronted him about her. He incredulously looked at me and said, " IF I was going to cheat on you, don't you think I could do it with someone a little prettier, younger, and a LOT less trashy?"

I thought he could . Turns out, she was the OW for a year at that point, and he eventually married her.

In the first MC session, we were instructed to make a list of things that we were really struggling with in our marriage, in order of importance. #1 on his list: I never had the coffee ready when he got up in the mornings. It was brewing, should be ready...

The look on the counselor's face was priceless...

When I asked WH why in the world would he sleep with a prostitute…

He said that she ask him for a ride to a drugstore and once he let her in his van, she asked if he wanted sex. He told her “no” many many times, “but she just kept on and on asking, and when she told me that she needed the money for her kids, I said ok”.

I asked if he was so worried about her kids, why he didn’t just hand her the $40 and kick her ass out of the van. He said he didn’t think of that.

I fond myself reading all these and hear myself repeating "OMG!" over and over again.

It's as if infidelity causes insanity, mental deficiencies and a whole lot of brain deterioration in the head of an mind of a cheater.

Since Unstuffed Giraffe opened this up to ridiculous things the AP said, this one is my very favorite.

After our false R blew up and my H was in a psychiatric hospital because he threatened suicide in front of our MC, I called the OW to let her know where he was and that she was welcome to him because he wasn't coming back to my house. She said, "He don't love me. He's a good, good man and I love him with all my heart but he loves you."

Seriously? I always wanted to make a T shirt that said, "I know my husband loves me because his girlfriend told me so."

I was fortunate enough to not hear anything quite so stupid come from WH. He did get me an “under these stars” or whatever poster for valentines, commemorating our wedding night. That was pretty stupid, since at that time, I had vowed to hate that day for all of eternity. (I’m better now lol)

After a bullshit song and dance about how he had to keep the LTA going to keep her from doing dastardly things.

I said "Let me get this straight. You were fucking HER to protect ME?"

And that dumbass WH of mine looked at me and [after he picked his jaw up off the floor] said "actually...yes"

[This message edited by Chaos at 1:16 PM, September 21st (Monday)]

He told me:

"We thought we were dating" (When I asked him what he thought he was doing with a married woman)

I had to explain to him that sneaking away on your lunch hour to fuck isn't dating. When I then asked him where they went on "their so-called dates", I got the deer in the headlights look. I guess it finally hit him. They never went on "dates",,,,,

My favorites from my exdouche were:

"If you would just take the time to get to know her (her being the 18 yo trash), I know you would just love her." Yeah i don't love human garbage as it turns out.

"I feel like she (18 yo slutcake) is my true soul mate. I've never felt a connection like this." I cannot even.

"She is so wise." Fuckin-a... I'm just smh still...

"I need to date other women. You better just get on board with that." No fucker, I don't think I will.

"I've always been polyamorous, I just denied myself to make you happy." (calling 1000% bullshit on this one - not once in 8 years had it ever come up, e-v-e-r).

(When he supposedly cut contact with her after dday1) "You need to give me room to grieve this relationship. Letting go of someone I love this much is really hard." Bear in mind this was a just-turned-18 yo girl that he had known for 7 weeks at dday1. She sent him a picture of her tits 'on accident' and that's how their star-crossed "wuv" started.

The thing that gets me looking back on it now is how often I bought into and supported all his stupid ass bullshit. The me I am today would slap him right upside his big dumb noodle and tell him to gtf outta here with all that horseshit.

36, refresh my memory, what did your wife say to you after you confronted her saying to you that " AP was a better man than you"?

Or did you ever confront her about it after you moved back home?

36, refresh my memory, what did your wife say to you after you confronted her saying to you that " AP was a better man than you"?

She tried to explain that he really cared about people, unlike me, That he wanted to help their patients/clients because he cared so deeply. There was more, but the general idea to me was that she had totally lost her mind.

It didn't seem to matter to her that he was screwing every (or nearly every) woman in their headquarters. He was basically a walking petri dish.

The hole (pardon the pun) situation was beyond anything I could have ever imagined. She told me that as a black man he really felt his call was to serve white people. I found that to be one of the more bizarre things she said. He confirmed that when he showed up at my house late on the Friday even before D-day.

But now, she says she was confused and didn't know what she was doing. I've told her she was not so confused that she didn't know how to take off her close and screw the guy.

Waywards are an odd bunch. They sell their integrity, honor and character cheaply.

I also got the "I really didn't think you'd mind."

Mind? Nah, I love the thought of a POS screwing my wife. NOT!

She mostly has her head out of her ass now. Another place he'd been.

[This message edited by 36yearsgone at 2:12 PM, September 21st (Monday)]

Seeing as how stupid shit coming from the AP is included in this discussion. She said, "I'm not gonna stoop to that level"... because I said the word fuck. Yup. This creature not only deliberately pursued a married man, but also fucked him in OUR car, blackmailed him, faked a pregnancy and when a pregnancy test blew that out the water, faked a miscarriage and then tried to extort him for supposed medical costs. She relentlessly harrassed and threatened him, but oh no. Swearing is completely and utterly against her moral code

Thanks 36.

Just crazy and I understand not being able to forget she said that (along with all the other stuff she said...and did)!!

OMG, intothefray!! Me too!

I said something about her screwing my H and she said, very primly, “It wasn’t so common or lowly as that.” And proceeded to tell me that my foul mouth was much worse than their “love”.

@ HFSSC it's crazy! My jaw dropped when she primly announced that my use of language was 'stooping'. I still can't wrap my mind around her audacity. I just told her, "oh, but you will stoop to the level of fucking my husband." They truly are in a league of their own considering what they deem acceptable and what not. I mean, it's perfectly acceptable to coerce someone into having sex with them, to hike up her skirt and get on top of him in another woman's car to ride him in a public park, but hearing the f-word offends her delicate sensibilities. You can't make this stuff up