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MBB-

For the record- I am a fWW (or whatever variation of that you prefer) and I *really* hope you don’t stop posting. I’m sure it doesn’t always feel like it but you are an incredibly strong & amazing person and your posts inspire so many! I would hate to see that gone and for you to lose the support of so many because of some bored, twisted jerkoff (or jerkoffs). You deserve to be here and I am always rooting for you even though I don’t post often.

Some of us don't really talk about our infidelity story,because we believe the AP is a member.

And,no. I won't reveal who I believe she is,so please don't ask.

As a moderator on one of the "other" relationship sites, I can tell you that this is a regular problem.

In an extreme case, we have one former user who was actually banned on over 50 different accounts over a three year period.

Others cannot accept they were permanently banned, and have attempted to find legal recourse for their removal.

Ultimately, people are just freaking weird.

[This message edited by farsidejunky at 12:41 PM, February 6th (Thursday)]

Malibubaybreeze please know that your posts have helped many people here. I for one miss your regular updates and have been wondering how you are doing since this is your"season". Also been curious how your son is healing.

I actually took a little solace in the navy troll being unmasked, I actually was envious of the main character's discipline. I was not nearly so when my XW actions became clear.

Discord, well that writer made an early error that was caught several peoples that raised the flags of question.

There shall always be charlatans in the world, one cannot help but to surprised by them from time to time. Simply move on from them, they are not worth the time.

I just thought about the amount of the time the troll put into this....wow

I had a stressed out one hour therapy session because of some things that Buzzy said on here. He was a shit stirrer for sure.

DebraVation

You know, I think the same about myself sometimes. The time I've been here has been rife with circumstances happening in my life and I sometimes worry that someone reading it is thinking yeah, right. Troll.

I would love for none of those things to have happened as it sounds like a dope opera, but they have and being here has helped me in several areas.

cptprkchp

I appreciate that, especially coming from a WW. I have had many heated comments about waywards when emotions are running high so your words mean a lot. Thank you.

I don't judge posts if they are long. God knows I've written many long winded ones myself in an effort to give as much info about whatever trigger, incident or vent is being posted about. I figure the more detailed the more help can be received. I cannot see the Wayward forum when signed in due to an issue in one of my posts but can read when not logged in. The mentioned thread that was locked was indeed very suspicious. I don't read any other infidelity forum outside of SI as it seemed to be the best one out there.

It's just an incredibly sad statement yet again about integrity which seems to be sparse these days. I value it tremendously which is likely why the troll revelations jarred me. But to go into such detailed stories and for it all to be lies is stunning. Lost's post was 50 pages long of people caring. Discord likely would have continued as well. The only thing that bothered me with that one was that there was never an answer as to why they posted on an infidelity forum yet kept mentioning a trip. I just assumed the motivation was worry over the alleged squash partner.

As Felix Unger said so perfectly in The Odd Couple "You must never assume. Because when you assume, you make an ASS out of U and ME.

I had a stressed out one hour therapy session because of some things that Buzzy said on here. He was a shit stirrer for sure.

Gosh, Jimmy, I had a similar experience though not therapy. I had a terrible morning after reading his post, how he always went on about his hot AP and being in Seville with her. Well, I'm about 3 hours from Seville and it just sent me in a tailspin! I wanted to throttle him in a reply but I had to get a grip and walk away.

And MBB, please take the time you need but please don't leave. Your wisdom carries me through. You have no idea.

Seems like folks have too much time on their hands.

LCDRLOST.... so much for honor and integrity. I doubt he is really in the navy.

Sigh.

Well at least LtCdrLost told us quite an entertaining story. That was some highly skilled trolling.

Mod or poster who caught this troll out, wow, well done!

LtCdrLost you're probably reading this fuck off you loser.

I, too, am feeling incredibly hurt. I just don't understand the logic behind people who do this.

And that's ok. I don't want to understand because I'm not a completely depraved asshole.

It's just disheartening and disappointing.

Not to mention, very disturbing.

But I won't let this change me. I will still reach out to those I feel I can be of some value to. And I do agree that just because these people lied about their everything, our collective responses can still be of great value to others.

MBB, I cherish and respect the hell out of you. Don't let the bastards get you down.

When I first started posting here I had someone message me indicating that my story may be made up because of my WHs weird job that I cannot talk about (or at the very least should not)...I guess I post enough on here that people assume I am either the most bored troll in the world or I'm actually living this fucking ridiculous life.

I generally don't post on the threads that seem too outlandish to me, but maybe it's simply because by the time I get to them they have like 15 pages of comments and I try not to post w/out reading what others have said and there is no way I have the time most days to read everything.

You're hurt or disturbed?

Yes this troll stuff is totally beyond my sense of reasoning too.

Is the posting under false pretense so different though than the stories some BS or WS spin on this site? So many of us try to paint ourselves in a better light at the expense of our spouse. Human nature unfortunately.

SI did a good job of shutting things down once they were sure, but they did a better job of giving everyone a benefit of the doubt through the lens of infidelity which encompasses so much lying.

Kudos to the staff, volunteers, and contributors for doing the right thing in a difficult situation. Nuff said.

[This message edited by MrCleanSlate at 2:21 PM, February 6th (Thursday)]

Re ltcdrlost... it may be sad to say it but I still want that story to be true, lol.

I did not read it as it was being written, so I have less invested in it than those of you who commented actively through the thread to the now identified troll. I heard about ltcdrlost as SI legend, found the story and read it. I even told two people about that story. Now, I am a well developed skeptic, so when I told them about it I prefaced it with "I'm not sure this is 100% true". But I wanted it to be true even if it did sound a bit too good to be real, like urban/internet legend.

Besides the (in retrospect) obvious fact of everything being so well planned and only minor references to personal pain and emotional upheaval, two things stood out to me. One, I think at least 75% of people you don't know that claim to be a SEAL are lying, lol. Ever since Bin Laden's death and the attention SEAL teams garnered I have heard of many stories about people passing themselves off that way.

And the next one was just an odd little part of the story...the fact that the WW went for a weekend visit to USNA with her AP, which was where ltcdrlost supposedly graduated from. It was a painful little detail to read about and it made me wonder how a WW could do something that blatantly but then want to R immediately upon hearing her A was found out. But of course there are so many terrible real examples here I put this aside as another crazy WS action and another example of a deal breaker behavior. And then you'd see occassional comments from the troll here and there in other threads, lending credence to the fact he was "real".

One last thought.... (hopefully not justifying fictional stories from trolls)... I wonder how many BS were strengthened to take some kind of action by that account? Maybe it did some good even though it was a lie.

I can't help thinking that the ltcomlost real persona was closer to his WS posting. I just keep thinking about the load of what were basically ego kibbles this person got by pretending to be a take action BS, no matter how fake!

[This message edited by Justgetitoverwith at 7:30 PM, February 6th (Thursday)]

LtCdrLost, i do not remember if it was on SI or

another forum. it was over 1 year ago.

2 red flags.

First red flag, story from D day to divorce was to

detailed and it happened to fast. I never saw any

other BH whose story that had so much happen in

such a short time. and I have been reading on

infidelity forums for decades.

The amount of military information was also

extremely high. i never saw BH'S that were in the

military give 1/10 of military references

as did LtCdrLost.

Second red flag a poster that was in the military

caught and called out LtCdrLost that he was not

in the military based on many incorrect statements

made by LtCdrLost. After that I never felt that

whatever LtCdrLost had to say was valid.

[This message edited by oldtruck at 2:36 PM, February 6th (Thursday)]

I recently picked up on a term about something I thought I had heard somewhere before that a member claimed was well documented in (unnamed) "Studies".I googled the term to find the "study". I didn't find any studies. The only place the term was used on a regular basis was on sites for The Red Pill.

It suddenly made all the sense in the world. What better place to recruit men to a misogynistic group than a forum full of hurt, lonely men, who have been wronged by a cheating wife. It explained why although he dishes out advice about acting swiftly and decisively to get out of infidelity, he never actually follows his own advice. He needs to stay on this forum and act like the bro who understands what newly traumatized BHs are going through.

I could be wrong, but after checking threads on subjects that Red Pill Members would have strong opinions about, he was on all of them with multiple posts.

MBB I even PMed him and told him not to put so much personal info on here. When he ignored it I began to get twitchy. There was too much military jargon for him to be real. Two of my friends are pilots. One Air Force, one Navy and they never use that language. Still, I was like everyone else, I took him at his word because so many people are in pain and need this forum.

Don’t give up. This is a worldwide group therapy session. You can’t beat it.

Dang IT!

I really F'ing hate when I stand up for someone like Buzzy and he turns out to be a troll.

The main thing that threw me off about him was he "Came to Jesus" so fast.

Also, he wouldn't talk about his wife's affair, just his. Like he was proud of it. If he really had been cheated on he would have been deflated by her more.