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DragnHeart ( member #32122) posted at 2:33 PM on Thursday, June 9th, 2016
In the cooler at work. Ya know the kind that keeps food cold/frozen (yuck!). I was surprised he even got it up in such a cold place...
In MY car although I can't prove actual intercourse or just bjs.
I suspect at her house since GPS caught them there plus he did admit to going there to "talk" (ya right, if his pants could speak maybe...).
Ummm I have to wonder if they did have sex at her house IF she had pets (the cat comment above). WH cannot have sex if someone/something is watching. Totally couldn't do it when my pet rat Sat quietly in his cage, paws on this bars staring at him lol.
We moved all the small reptiles to our room over the winter. Some are nocturnal and well need to be fed before I go to bed. Take out the mealworm bin and EVERYONE is awake and staring out their enclosures. Pretty much guarantees WH won't bug me for sex hahaha
Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.
Itstime ( member #45679) posted at 3:25 PM on Thursday, June 9th, 2016
He made sure that he can track me where I was so when I'm not home, he would bring his OW to our house, had sex in my bed while our small children were only few steps away sleeping for couple of months. And oh, he let me use all the towels and bed sheets they used. Jerk! Their fucking grand vacation in Florida.
Yup, that's my STBXWH, no boundaries and you could just tell, he doesn't have any respect and hate me so badly.
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DDay-11/17/14
DDay 2 - 7/1/18
DS - 11 and 9, DD - 5
Status -divorce
" You don't fuck a woman you barely met over the internet in your marital bed while your small children were only few steps away"
treborwi ( member #52323) posted at 4:34 PM on Thursday, June 9th, 2016
After having me rearrange my schedule so she could join a "look for a job" network group run, she went to his place where they had sex AND then took a shower together where I believe they had sex agin. This was their first time. Every suggestion for us to shower together was rejected over the years.
At least once more at his place. Then again at his rented studio space b/c he's a photographer, where she donned catcher's gear, chains and a dog collar. My bet is there was bj through the mask.
She has drawers full of lingerie that I mostly bought that I have NEVER seen her in. Really fun sexy stuff because I have GREAT taste.
Once more at his place after I discovered but had not confronted. The PI was following her. I knew where she was going and what she was doing.
There aren't words that describe this pain.
thstruggleisreal ( member #53266) posted at 4:48 PM on Thursday, June 9th, 2016
well this is quite the thread...
make out sessions in other rooms of the homes we were at together with friends (OM was one of those friends in the group) for card club...so pretty much only a door or two away from me and a large group of others...how about that for a punch in the gut..I have never confirmed this, but I am guessing someone in the group caught them or at least was highly suspicious and never told me...and I of course was a trusting oblivious moron, still feel just peachy about that...
other than that they met for lunch, countless times...and skipped the lunch part..and never left his/her vehicle...
damn this makes mad....
Me-45
Her-44
D-Day April 7th, 2010
R? Well,I did not leave her does that count?
Still Struggling
ReconcilingWife ( member #44420) posted at 4:49 PM on Thursday, June 9th, 2016
Sex: her apartment.
Makeout sessions: once, on a street corner near her apartment. Which is in our neighbourhood, where any number of our friends or acquaintances might have seen them. Once in an empty room at work.
Me: BS, now 42
Him: WS, now 49
DD: May 30, 2014 (2 month affair)
2 children
Naively optimistic username (chosen in frustration when everything else I could think of was taken or too close to my real name)--but 2 years on, R is truly going well
devastedone ( member #46585) posted at 5:02 PM on Thursday, June 9th, 2016
First was a bj on a park bench...
Then, since she wouldn't have intercourse anywhere but a bed (how holy of her), in my house, in my bed.
After that...wherever they found an empty parking space, in the back of her car.
Puke.
BS (me)
WS (him)
Married 24 years at DDday
DDay 10/1/14
EA/PA 5 months
DD, DS (16 and 14 on DDay)
Each new day brings the gift of deciding who you are, who you want to be, and who you want to be with you.
In R for now.
99lawdog99 ( member #42615) posted at 5:05 PM on Thursday, June 9th, 2016
His place, or should I say the place his mother rented and he lived with her. After the mother would go to work, she would stop down there first thing in the morning.
Me 54
WW 45
Married 25 years, together 27 WW's first and only til A
In R
"Sometimes we have to be knocked down to our lowest point so that we can reach our highest Level"
HoneyMe ( member #40613) posted at 5:13 PM on Thursday, June 9th, 2016
OW #1 pa began when she took him to her favorite high school sex hideaway, the freeway cloverleaf on ramp of highway 5, multiple times and it is back-lit from all directions. Then her house with her 2 babies there. His truck, a construction site, hotels and parks. Pretty much anyplace a high school kid would do it. She was 35 and he was 44, and reliving their glory days.
OW #2 her house he was working on, once camping with a large group, "but no-one saw," yeah right.
OW #3 She paid for all hotels, he offered to, but she wouldn't settle for the cheap places he would pay for. Also included a day in his work shop, a few outdoor parks that are our family favorite spots for our children.
Claims never in our home, but there lots of opportunities with #1 and #2.
This all sounds so horrible when I type it out. He is a changed man now.
3 A's
Blinded-sided DD 9/2011
Again 11/2011 and then more truth the next day. Separated 4 months. 2012, the year of truth and reconciliation.
FightingBack ( member #34770) posted at 5:43 PM on Thursday, June 9th, 2016
A related question here. It is not meant as a T/J.
It seems the vast majority of affair sex, consists of blow jobs. Perhaps this is due to limited venues and time, but it also seems to me that is a form of control - on both sides.
It is quick and easy and can be accomplished in tight spaces such as a car, and I get how the urgency and spontaneity can be exciting. But let's face it - unless there is some mutually satisfying stimulation going on as well, BJs can be used as a manipulation tactic.
When my WH couldn't meet his MOW's desires to meet up at a hotel due to family commitments etc., she would promptly drop to her knees (she kept knee pads in her desk). That way, she was sure to send him home thinking about her. In fact, this is what happened in their first physical experience. Knowing that her H or son could possibly come home and catch them, after their first kiss, she "got the job done".
On the other side of the coin, when going to a sleazy hotel was inconvenient, my H would request this of her instead. "I need you so badly, but we're out of time". Control and manipulation on his part .
Apparently she was "very skilled" at this. Perhaps it was because she had no teeth.
Me 53
WH 58
Married 25 years
4 children S30,D24, S23,S21
D-Day Nov. 29, 2011
15 year affair with married employee.
Together trying to make sense of it all!
Dorothy123 (original poster member #53116) posted at 6:45 PM on Thursday, June 9th, 2016
well this is quite the thread...
This thread's time has finally come.
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NaiveandDecieved ( member #51105) posted at 6:56 PM on Thursday, June 9th, 2016
With his girlfriend
her house once
hotels he did this only a fee times then stopped he sais hr saw ehat she was about and so...he moved to
his office on the floor (mainly) and chair.
OW2 her house on her bed
Me:BS 31
Him WS: 35
D-day: Aug 7 (my birthday)
PA: 2 years 6/2013 to 8/2015
PA #2: off and on 8-9 months 10/2014 -7/2015
EA: 2 months 6/2015-8/2015
Just trying to survive
prissy4lyfe ( member #46938) posted at 7:38 PM on Thursday, June 9th, 2016
The skank lived with her father...so they screwed in his bed while he was out of town. How classy of them both.
They made out in the truck we brought our daughter home from the hospital. She didnt have her own car.
I mean how screwed up do you have to be to see that basket case as attractive.
Gloomyfish77 ( member #50540) posted at 8:46 PM on Thursday, June 9th, 2016
My WH decided to be decent and only have sex with his husband and wife duo in our log cabin at the end of our garden.....they crept down our side gate so never through the house.....how considerate
......oh....did I forget to mention it was whilst I was at work and my WH was supposed to be in our house looking after our sleeping children......well I bloody hope they were sleeping!!!! The thought of them waking up and wondering where Daddy is......creeping up the log cabin because lights are on and seeing him being fucked by a another guy of fucking another woman will haunt me forever
He also went to their house occasionally although he was so pissed he can only tell me the road not the house number!!!!!! He can't remember........aaarrgghh ...I'm mad tonight ......
"The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too."
needfriendshere ( member #43350) posted at 8:48 PM on Thursday, June 9th, 2016
Everywhere!! And I have mind movies of each and every location...
Me: early 50'sWH: early 50'sMarried: 23 yearsDS: 21 years oldOther DS: 18 years oldD-day: 2/14/2014H's LTA lasted 6 years, his EA's lasted during most of our M, but we are both trying hard to R.
Skynet ( member #51604) posted at 9:25 PM on Thursday, June 9th, 2016
First time. In the back seat of OM truck on some hunting land he owns - property near a creek. WW lines creeks so yeah he too that opportunity to put her in "comfortable" surroundings in order for him to make it easier to score and satisfy his Narrsissistic supply need of pu$$..... Couple of other times here as well.
Other places: alternating between hunting camp and a second home OM has. Never in our place.... Why, I installed security cameras before the As started!!!! LOL at this one! I had no idea it would help me in this way. I was just trying to deter home break in.
"An affair is a dagger in your heart, that is never removed." - me
"Devastatingly betrayed" - confused615
DebraVation ( member #51156) posted at 9:35 PM on Thursday, June 9th, 2016
In her house, her garden, his parents' house when they were on holiday, and under a bush.
But my absolute favourite is - in the houses of other parents from our children's school who'd lend them keys, they actually had sex in their beds. Who does that? Would you lend your keys to other people so they could have sex in your house? And how do you even start that conversation?
My mind was blown by that, and honestly I wonder if I am the only person in the world who isn't carrying on like this. Maybe I am hopelessly naive.
Itstime ( member #45679) posted at 9:43 PM on Thursday, June 9th, 2016
they actually had sex in their beds. Who does that? Would you lend your keys to other people so they could have sex in your house? And how do you even start that conversation?
I totally forgot to add this, his first OW, had bunch of friends that they lend their houses if they're not home to their girlfriends so they bring their lovers to have sex. They went to couple different houses of course to have sex.
Who would something like this? This whore and her girlfriends I guess. There's no respect to other people's houses even though that person is your closest friend, you do not do that.
DDay-11/17/14
DDay 2 - 7/1/18
DS - 11 and 9, DD - 5
Status -divorce
" You don't fuck a woman you barely met over the internet in your marital bed while your small children were only few steps away"
nonexttime ( member #53286) posted at 9:49 PM on Thursday, June 9th, 2016
No clue. Don't want to know. They did. That was enough for me.
Even if it was in my house. It was in my marriage and that's as bad as it gets.
It's rude to say I love you with a mouth full of lies.
Gary1995 ( member #52479) posted at 9:53 PM on Thursday, June 9th, 2016
Some crazy places people are listing on here. I don't know of any odd spots cause after I knew it happened in our bed that was enough for me. Not that it would have made it better but I would have rather heard it in the spare room, kitchen or living room. Anywhere but our bed.
For me that is the ultimate FU to the marriage and I don't care about you in the slightest move. Since my wife was not big on housework I don't even want to think if she even had the courtesy to wash the sheets on those days before I came home and went to bed with her.
Dorothy123 (original poster member #53116) posted at 11:12 PM on Thursday, June 9th, 2016
I second what Gary said about
Some CRAZY PLACES people are listing on here
"I’ll get you my pretty, and your little dog too!" Wicked Witch of the West.
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