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BlueIris ( member #47551) posted at 3:28 AM on Saturday, May 25th, 2019
“Guys like me don’t get girls like her.”
(Or is it just my husband who said this?)
“I only wanted her for her body.”
“...but I couldn’t get it up.”
“They do STD testing for strippers, so she was safe.”
“I don’t remember.”
“She was helping me with our marriage issues.”
“She’s a good Christian.”
“I never told her ILY”
“I just wanted porn sex.”
“I was trying to help her get a job.”
BW | Dday 2-20-2015 + TT for several weeks
"The truth will set you free but first it will piss you off."
sassylee ( member #45766) posted at 4:23 AM on Saturday, May 25th, 2019
I think you’d really like her if you met her....
My R(eformed)WH had a 5 month EA in 2012
In my 7th year of R
“LOVE is a commitment, not an emotion. It is a conscious act of a covenant of unconditional love. It is a mindset and a thought process.” - BigHeart2018’s Professor
sunwillshine ( member #47200) posted at 6:33 AM on Saturday, May 25th, 2019
B I N G O! 
D-day 2/12/15
5 DD (3 his, 2 mine) all grown
married 9/97 together 8/94.
Moved back in 5/30/16 working on R
Skyking ( member #62217) posted at 6:40 AM on Saturday, May 25th, 2019
I’ve had BINGO 3 times over... lol 
Me: BS. 74, Many DDays: The last of many was 40+ years ago.Married 53 years 2 grown sons, 2 grandchildren Reconciled. But still getting triggered sometimes.
tigerlily1 ( new member #62104) posted at 7:19 AM on Saturday, May 25th, 2019
She was so easy!
She really believed me!
Bagelgirl26 ( new member #65748) posted at 7:44 AM on Saturday, May 25th, 2019
I'm not seeing anyone. I just need to go on this journey to find myself.
( what he really meant was " let me have some alone time so I can pursue a coworker and see how far it will go but just wait on the sidelines I believe I am a faithful man"
WowItsReallyReal ( member #46075) posted at 11:16 AM on Saturday, May 25th, 2019
She's a really nice person!
She's a lot like you... 
I thought you wouldn't care.
WE haven't been happy for a long time...
I didn't mean for this to happen!
You don't make me happy anymore.
waitedwaytoolong ( member #51519) posted at 1:31 PM on Saturday, May 25th, 2019
I got a lot of the previous quotes. Adding
That wasn’t real. We are real. Our family is real.
If I could take it back, I would.
You can’t let this destroy a 25 year marriage. I want to grow old with you.
I am the cliched husband whose wife had an affair with the electrician
Divorced
WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 1:57 PM on Saturday, May 25th, 2019
I never thought of the consequences.
I just wanted to be loved!
They (OW) are good people.
I didn't see them that often.
I cancelled dates with them to spend time with you!
There were one or two years that I didn't cheat at all! (Out of 17 years)
I don't remember.
I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural
Lowlow ( member #38653) posted at 2:38 PM on Saturday, May 25th, 2019
"I would never disrespect you by bringing her into our bedroom" (this was said after I discovered he was bringing her you our home for sex...everywhere except our bedroom)
BlueIris “
Guys like me don’t get girls like her.”
(Or is it just my husband who said this?)
Nope, your husband is not the only one who said this... Andy my WH even said that to the Cumdumpster
Me (BS) 41 Him (FWS) 42 at time of confession
Reconciling
J707 ( member #63778) posted at 3:10 PM on Saturday, May 25th, 2019
I never meant to hurt you
I never wanted to hurt you
I swear on our kids lives
You're crazy and delusional
We just met
Stop spreading lies
You're an ass for going through my emails
I wasn't happy anymore
You weren't happy anymore
You never loved me
I haven't been happy in a year
I haven't been happy in atleast 2 years
There was no affair, stop making things up
How dare you contact the AP
You have alternative facts
You pushed me away from us
You're to blame for all this
I never knew him until recently
Lorisa ( member #60939) posted at 4:44 PM on Saturday, May 25th, 2019
It was easy and safe (both married)
[This message edited by Lorisa at 9:17 AM, May 27th (Monday)]
crazycatlady ( member #12849) posted at 5:33 PM on Saturday, May 25th, 2019
I would have very bingo possible!
Love all, trust a few. Do wrong to none.William Shakespeare "All's Well That Ends Well"D-Day: Nov 30, 2006"For I have sworn thee fair, and thought thee bright, who art as black as hell, as dark as night." William Shakespeare
steadychevy ( member #42608) posted at 6:50 PM on Saturday, May 25th, 2019
Before God I'm not cheating
If you think I'm cheating you must be.
I can't believe you would think that of me (and tear up).
ILYBINILWY
I don't love you. I don't know if I ever did.
He was physically attractive.
He was nice to me.
Don't forget about all of the good things in our marriage. They should mean something. (Me: apparently they didn't to you.)
BH(me)72(now); XWW 64; M 42 yrsDDay1-01/09/13;DDay2-26/10/13;DDay3-19/12/13;DDay4-21/01/14LTA-09/02-06/06? OM - COW 4 years; "dates" w/3 lovers post engagement;ONS w/stranger post commitment, lies, lies, liesSeparated 23/09/2017; D 16/03/2020
HeHadADoubleLife ( member #68944) posted at 7:53 PM on Saturday, May 25th, 2019
"You can check my phone, but if you do that means you don't trust me, and if we don't have trust, then our marriage is over."
"I can't believe you think I'm cheating on you..."
BW
DDay Nov 2018
Many previous DDays due to his sex addiction
Hurt me with the truth, but don't comfort me with a lie.
Love is never wasted, for its value does not rest upon reciprocity.
ann1960 ( member #5473) posted at 10:20 PM on Saturday, May 25th, 2019
She’s smart and I respect her opinion.
I thought “if” you found out you’d be mad, file for divorce then I wouldn’t have it.
If you had met under different circumstances you would have liked her (ah, actually I met the skank several times because you claimed she was your FRIEND and it was obvious that she hated me)
She does the real estate too. She gets your job. Truth-she rents a condo I own 5 corps, ummm just a slight difference.
She listens. I probably would have more time to grab a glass of wine like her and listen too BUT I have been driven/ now pressured to run 4 companies, raise 3 children, run a house....
She doesn’t criticize. Wait until she actually lives day to day with him. There will be a dramatic shift.
Thanksgiving2016 ( member #63462) posted at 10:28 PM on Saturday, May 25th, 2019
We slept together but there was no sex
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 12:24 AM on Sunday, May 26th, 2019
You didn’t love me
You didn’t support me
She’s (OW) a really good person
You would like her if you met her
We have an emotional connection but I’m not cheating - we are just friends
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
kickedintheknads ( member #70102) posted at 4:39 AM on Sunday, May 26th, 2019
I can't believe how many of those EXACT phrases I heard from my WW. It's like you folks were listening in on the conversations... 
Me:62
WW:46
D Day: 03/10/19
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 10:29 AM on Sunday, May 26th, 2019
Kicked
It’s funny how the cheaters all tell the same lies and expect the BS to believe them.
That’s why we laughingly refer to the “Cheater’s Manual” so often. The behavior pattern is so typical 
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
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