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slowlymending ( member #26454) posted at 5:01 AM on Tuesday, February 2nd, 2010
BW-me
Slowlymending....
Live your questions now, and perhaps without even knowing it, you will live along some distant day into your answers. Rilke
m334455 ( member #26893) posted at 3:25 PM on Tuesday, February 2nd, 2010
Out the OP to their spouse if they have one right away.
BW 38, 5 kids
Dday Dec. 2009
JustKeepSwimmig ( member #19269) posted at 8:50 PM on Saturday, February 6th, 2010
Mr. JKS - EA/PA
DDay - April 2008
still confounded ( member #7826) posted at 12:31 AM on Thursday, February 11th, 2010
"Sometimes, the rest of your life starts with goodbye."
D-day April 2005
(Married 33 years, together 35)
Divorced Dec. '05
Life is good, but it took a long time to heal.
still confounded ( member #7826) posted at 4:47 AM on Sunday, February 21st, 2010
bump 
"Sometimes, the rest of your life starts with goodbye."
D-day April 2005
(Married 33 years, together 35)
Divorced Dec. '05
Life is good, but it took a long time to heal.
trumanshow ( member #25624) posted at 1:14 PM on Monday, February 22nd, 2010
I wish I had told OW H right away-and I wish I had forwarded the evidence (skanky e card) to myself before H deleted it.
remarried 11-15-15
Her prize is a man who ran out on his wife and children. His is a woman who is too stupid to understand that she is not special, she is simply there.
JohnTP ( new member #27677) posted at 1:27 PM on Monday, February 22nd, 2010
katherine41 (original poster member #5792) posted at 5:01 AM on Tuesday, March 2nd, 2010
Bumping for Mr. Vanguard.
CryingGreenEyes ( member #24753) posted at 7:10 AM on Tuesday, March 2nd, 2010
This is perhaps the best advice I've seen!!! Thank you for posting it and giving some perspective!
I followed a lot of that advice without even knowing it was posted here. I carved my absolutes in the sand and did not negotiate on those things. I'm glad I did.
[This message edited by CryingGreenEyes at 1:15 AM, March 2nd (Tuesday)]
"The truth shall set you free... but first it's really gonna piss you off!"
"Love is a fire. But whether it is going to warm your heart or burn down your house you can never tell."
still confounded ( member #7826) posted at 2:20 AM on Saturday, March 6th, 2010
bumping for new-to-SI folks
"Sometimes, the rest of your life starts with goodbye."
D-day April 2005
(Married 33 years, together 35)
Divorced Dec. '05
Life is good, but it took a long time to heal.
PiQue ( member #17575) posted at 6:27 PM on Sunday, March 7th, 2010
Me/BW 50+
Him/WH 60+ Long Distance LTA
NEVER ignore your gut.
ThriveNotSurvive ( member #22093) posted at 7:07 AM on Thursday, March 11th, 2010
Strength, Courage, and Wisdom, it was inside of me all along - India Arie
Some women are Angels, and when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick if we have to...cuz we're flexible that way.
still confounded ( member #7826) posted at 3:03 AM on Wednesday, March 17th, 2010
... bumping the best (most strengthening, clarifying) advice I got on SI ... I still read it to remember the validity of the path I chose. The more time goes by, the wiser and better it becomes, too ... for me.
"Sometimes, the rest of your life starts with goodbye."
D-day April 2005
(Married 33 years, together 35)
Divorced Dec. '05
Life is good, but it took a long time to heal.
ThriveNotSurvive ( member #22093) posted at 5:07 PM on Tuesday, March 23rd, 2010
Strength, Courage, and Wisdom, it was inside of me all along - India Arie
Some women are Angels, and when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick if we have to...cuz we're flexible that way.
whiteflower99 ( member #13937) posted at 9:09 PM on Wednesday, March 24th, 2010
What are you pretending not to know?
me FBS
him idiotic sex addicted, hormone addled, porn watching, post pubescent male with a walking hard on for anything without a penis
4 kids 15 13 12 8
Earned my *F* the hard way.
jjct ( member #17484) posted at 7:37 PM on Sunday, March 28th, 2010
always-hope ( member #27814) posted at 8:14 PM on Tuesday, March 30th, 2010
SI is a Godsend and this post is priceless.
Thank you Katherine41.
BW me- 51
WH 50
3 DS
M 27 yrs
STD/PA? in 91 Many EA's, LT(10 yr)EA/PA
DDays: many -started 2005
TT never stopped, don't think I will ever have the full truth
SOW- WH's former HS 'friend/whore'
Limbo
Yumskers ( member #28095) posted at 12:48 AM on Wednesday, March 31st, 2010
So what other minimums would you set down? I am getting really frustrated and ready to file for D with my husband because the minimums I already set down he refused half of them and complain about the other half... I am just curious what other minimums you can think of!
Me(BS)-33
H- 38
Married- over 11 years
A started- Superbowl sunday 2010
Forced Confession March 8th 2010
Reconciliation always in progress
hurting2much ( member #25643) posted at 1:02 AM on Wednesday, March 31st, 2010
The bare minimums right now:
1. NC with OW
2. No drinking
3. No clubbing/strip clubs
(...but WH is overseas so no real way to "validate" if he is adhering to these minimums) 
SuspiciousWife ( member #18108) posted at 5:54 AM on Thursday, April 1st, 2010
Me - BW, 44
Him - FWH, 44
OW - former co-worker
3 great kids
DDay - April 25, 2008 - mostly EA with one make-out session
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