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Rella ( member #21136) posted at 10:52 PM on Sunday, March 10th, 2013
Eleven years later, I never could have imagined how much happier my life has turned out!
thisissogross ( member #30294) posted at 8:59 AM on Friday, March 15th, 2013
i edit frequently because i have to
kernel ( member #27035) posted at 2:52 AM on Thursday, March 21st, 2013
"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."
isadora ( member #29130) posted at 2:09 AM on Saturday, March 23rd, 2013
Me: BW Him: who cares
Divorced: 4/2015
2 DDs and 2DSs
Who knows how many affairs at this point
Multiple D-Days
I can only control myself, no one else. I do not have that kind of power.
Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 7:46 PM on Tuesday, March 26th, 2013
Bump 
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
kernel ( member #27035) posted at 4:07 AM on Sunday, April 7th, 2013
"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."
HardenMyHeart ( member #15902) posted at 6:48 AM on Thursday, April 11th, 2013
Me: BH, Her: WW, Married 40 years, Reconciled
jjct ( member #17484) posted at 3:24 PM on Tuesday, April 16th, 2013
kernel ( member #27035) posted at 1:03 AM on Sunday, April 21st, 2013
"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."
Ashland13 ( member #38378) posted at 10:45 PM on Sunday, April 21st, 2013
I like the posts about acceptance and forgiveness. My thought is that acceptence is a term for moving out of denial. For me as a BS, for a long time I boated down the Denial River, so to speak, and would not accept the possiblilites that STBXH became the person he did.
I think the term acceptance is just a tool for us all to begin moving on. If we can't accept, we can become very stuck.
Forgiveness is a different term and different concept for me and one that will take a very, very long time. It's a goal for later in life.
Besides the physical side of sharing bodies while married which goes against my core being, the other part about forgiveness for me is that STBXH was fully aware of my core values and went completly against them and showed me tremenous dishonor.
He also dishonored our daughter and continues to do so and lying and deceiving kids is something I simply cannot fathom or understand enough even to process enough to move towards forgiveness. He continues to lie to our daughter but says he's a good father.
So many concepts of A's make forgiveness nearly impossible, even when the anger and denial finally ebb and flow completely away.
This post was much food for thought, though, and I work constantly on the 180 and NC daily.
Thanks, SerJr.
Ashland 13
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.
-George Washington
AttemptStrength ( member #27947) posted at 3:45 PM on Monday, April 22nd, 2013
BS me
WS him x2 A's
1 autistic DS
I'd never have spent the money on a wedding dress if I knew I was just going to a costume party.
kernel ( member #27035) posted at 11:29 PM on Sunday, April 28th, 2013
"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."
kernel ( member #27035) posted at 1:02 AM on Thursday, May 9th, 2013
"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."
Jpapageorge ( member #31800) posted at 5:01 AM on Sunday, May 12th, 2013
"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF
kernel ( member #27035) posted at 2:03 AM on Friday, May 17th, 2013
"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."
1Faith ( member #38975) posted at 12:05 AM on Wednesday, May 29th, 2013
Sometimes my life feels like a test I didn't study for
WakingFromADream ( member #33934) posted at 6:35 PM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2013
Me(37) DS(9) DD 11/16/11 EA(PA?) M 11y D 9/3/13
Don't make anyone a priority when you are only an option.
BlindSighted2013 ( new member #39423) posted at 1:55 AM on Thursday, June 13th, 2013
D-Day 5/7/13 discovered his 12 year affair
BS - Me 50
WS - Hubby 51
Married (do I still call it that after this?) 33 yrs
jjct ( member #17484) posted at 12:30 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013
SuperDuperWonderboy ( member #34716) posted at 5:43 PM on Wednesday, June 19th, 2013
My Friends call me Wonderboy--That's Mr. SuperduperWonderboy to you Tred.
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