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Wait, wait, wait...

First she tells the court "Yes, OM and I have just begun dating..." then minutes later says "Well what if OM and I want to get MARRIED as soon as the divorce is final???"

OMFG. Unbelievable! I hope the case worker made a note about THAT in the file. She's a liar AND a loon!

[This message edited by tulipcitymadman at 8:13 PM, October 20th (Wednesday)]

Sorry friend, she is sick. Get yourself out of that relationship as soon as you can. Let the children know in some discreet way that OM is not to be near them and to tell you if he is.

TCMM,

You are to be congratulated! Awesome work on your part!

You came across as a mature adult, a loving father, a fiscally responsible man while your soon(oh God let it be soon!)to-be-ex came across as the spoiled, vindictive, unable to postpone gratification bitch that she is.

I cannot believe she tried to pretend she had just started dating and is also ready to be married when the ink on the divorce decree is barely dry!

And as for her foot-stamping, breath holding "I won't sign it and you can't make me!" act...way to show how mature you are....NOT!

Sorry, I asked this question on p.1, but didn't see a response. How long do you have to reside with your WW?

[This message edited by tulipcitymadman at 8:15 PM, October 20th (Wednesday)]

Dude... You are doing an amazing Job! ! ! I'm sure you have moments of doubt and overwhelming sadness, but You are so special. You are doing everything right. I hope you continue to do so.

All I have to say concerning your STBX, is she is tying her own nuce, and placing her neck right in it. Those Social Workers are trained to pick up on the craziness she exhibited. Are you using the var during those meetings?

I think it may seem a bit over the top, but I sure would be tempted to.

Remember to keep telling those kiddos that you love em, and they are your priority.

(((((And strength))))

I've been following for a while. I haven't said much because you've just been handling things so well. I still don't have much to say except that when she finally pulls her head out of her ass, she's really going to regret this. She has no idea at this point what she's losing. You deserve much better.

You aren't even D'd yet and she's aleady married to the OM. Once he finds out that she isn't as well of as she seems, he'll drop her and find someone else. Wait for it.

I don't have any experience with divorce proceedings, but I have to imagine that she is going to be looking like a lunatic if she keeps on the way she is.

I wonder if it would have been worthwhile to rebut her statement about the relationship with the OM having just started, and pointed out that it was the cause of these proceedings.

I guess that is not a fact that can be proven, though...

TCMM, as an outsider, the scenario you described is very satisfying. I'm sure, IRL, it's tough to watch unfold as the BS, but it really feeds the vengeful part of my personality, as someone removed from the situation.

Having witnessed a bit of self-destruction by my own WW, I know the smugness you expect to feel isn't as sweet as you want it to be. However, as someone who has followed your story, I can say I'm happy to see that she is entering into a downward spiral of her own doing.

Still impressed. You are doing a bang-up job.

Awesome work TCMM, way to stay focused on the prize.

[This message edited by tulipcitymadman at 8:13 PM, October 20th (Wednesday)]

You did such a terrific job at the FOC meeting. You showed true maturity while your wife showed herself to be like a kid. She really is self-destructing...sit back and continue to carry yourself in the same manner that you have. Soon, this nightmare will be over.

Wait till OM finds out he's getting married...I'm sure he really wants that responsibility asap.

Not-in-a-million-years.

Id call him up and congradulate him on his pending marriage. Im sure he will be in the wind in no time. He will be off on his next conquest. I mentioned this on a previous post of yours. But you need to out him to the community. Let his business suffer cause of what he does. Let everyone know that a POS home wrecker is teaching their children.

Another huge advantage you have over your cheating WW is staying calm and documenting everything. Your ordered logical approach to this ordeal will stand you in good stead in the months to come.

These are the times when I could get petty so easily. Just got a call from the STBX asking if we had an extra set of keys to the car. We don’t and I asked why. She said that she had left the keys in the car and blamed my youngest for locking the door.

Do you have any idea how badly I want to tell her that she is screwed until I get home? Unfortunately, that would not only hurt my daughter who would miss her gymnastics meet, but also go against my current path of not being a dick to her no matter what she accuses me of. So, here I go, running home to unlock the car door for her. Damn, I want to be petty and vindictive. But at this point, she is doing the damage to herself in other areas; she doesn’t need my help with that. Good thing for her I have a flexible job that allows me to do this type of thing. I may wait a half hour to make her sweat it, maybe just a little childishness!

TCMM....

Holy crap my man... I'll bet you don't even recognize that woman! You're doing good by staying calm and collected while standing in the eye of the hurricane...

Betcha the OM has no idea he's getting married here in about 6 months! Wouldn't surprise me if he's thrown that out as bait but all it most likely is is bait...

The crazy batshit ideas and thoughts that roam through these fools heads simply is remarkable.... Watching it reminds me of the hormonal craziness of high school..... without any maturity...

WB

I'm just speechless, TCMM. It's like she's on another planet. Does (did) she think she was simply going to replace you in her bed with him, keep all the support and stuff from you, and really nothing much would change? Wow.

Well, sure seems like the FOC messed up her little dream scenario...

Keep the faith, brother, I'm pulling for you!