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All of her family has taken my side. I know they will rally behind her very soon.

But it's still funny to hear their reaction to the news. All of them have said, let know if YOU need anything. They are pretty cool and totally treated me like a son in the family.

This can, and most often does...change. The blood/water thing... I'm going to quote myself from the first page goose - keep doing this:

What you get to do in this little sunshine window you have is protect yourself in all ways.

Do you know where the W works? Perhaps a letter there will get through easier.

If this doesn't work you may need to make that drive to his neighborhood... Don't give up until she knows.

My hubs ow#2 spouse tried to find me for a month.

My hub had given his wife a fake last name but she knew where he worked and what he drove since she had fucked him in that car. He wrote down his tag number, had a police buddy get his info.

He knew I worked for the school system and he called every single school, which took him a week.

I got the call at my desk asking if my hub drove a ford xxxx and I said yes . The rest is history...

I would never have known without him spending a month to find me..

I am so grateful to him!!

Good, keep exposure going. Make sure that you verify that OMW gets that letter. The OM shouldn't get a free pass on this one.

28M single women over 35 and only 18M men

Don't put too much hope in that statement, it's incorrect. There are approximately 103 male babies born to every 100 female. Granted men die earlier, but not in their 30's. Granted, in your 70's, this number may be accurate. Just sayin'

Don't put too much hope in that statement, it's incorrect. There are approximately 103 male babies born to every 100 female. Granted men die earlier, but not in their 30's. Granted, in your 70's, this number may be accurate. Just sayin'

You need to go back to your demographics class. It's true that more males are born than females, but they equalize by age 8, and girls already outnumber boys by age 12, and then it's downhill all the way from there.

So I kicked her out tonight. She packed some boxes! The fog is lifting a little, her voice sounds pretty somber! She took her oldest and the youngest is home with me.

Whoa.....

I know it's tough, but hang in there. Have the attorney serve her ASAP. And go as NC as possible.

Are you ok?

I'm doing ok tonight. It's VERY quiet in the house! It probally won't hit me until all of her stuff is gone....

My attorney is in full swing.

Keep on keeping on. You are doing well. Continue pressing until she is out of the fog completely.

Goose -

Have a process Server deliver the letter!

Hell, For a few bucks he will track her down!

Your attorney modt likely knows one - or call the local court clerk's office - they usually know all the servers in the area.....

All of her family has taken my side. I know they will rally behind her very soon.

But it's still funny to hear their reaction to the news. All of them have said, let know if YOU need anything. They are pretty cool and totally treated me like a son in the family.

Just keep in mind that blood is thicker than water. Even though you're in the right, she is still their daughter. Just don't be surprised when they change their tune after the D.

My first in laws were like that when my first wife had her A. They said they were telling her not to do that shit and couldn't understand why she was acting the way she was.

After the D, they did a 180, and became just as bad as the XW.

Even my current in laws are like that. At first, they said my fWW would never do anything like that, then after I showed proof, my MIL told me to chew out the OM. Yet, after going through the records, there's no way on earth that they could not have known. They were here living with us when they were visiting. She was calling the OM so many times during the day right in front of them that they had to have known what she was doing. And they DIDN'T rat her out to me. And that really pisses me off. Blood really is thicker than water.

No wonder my fWW encouraged me to take the boys to the zoo, movies, and fishing.

Just keep in mind that blood is thicker than water. Even though you're in the right, she is still their daughter. Just don't be surprised when they change their tune after the D.

I think he gets that, which is why he wrote:

I know they will rally behind her very soon.

Goose-

You are literally doing everything right here except the one thing that might very well be the MOST IMPORTANT thing - somehow, someway, this dude's BW has got to be informed, like NOW.

How long has it been now, 3 weeks? I'd have staked out the house by this point and waited to watch her walk into the door if I had to.

This is just such a key point to this whole thing, and even though you say you understand it, your actions don't show that. I know you are taking steps, email, certified letter, etc., but just seems like you aren't giving this 100%.

I very well could be wrong that you aren't giving this your all (I admit my confrontation happened with the BW was the very next morning, 7 AM, after the night I found out because it was a supposed friend of mine that lived a couple blocks down the street, so it was quite easy.) but no matter how difficult, I can't imagine it taking this long to make this contact.

That being said, you are doing well, keep up the strength. In the overall scheme of things, you are VERY early in the process, even though your situation took a fast track of sorts. Hang in there man, hoping for the best for you.

-IHTop

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[This message edited by kdny at 4:37 PM, March 9th (Wednesday)]

Find yourself a nice Asian woman and be happy

Yes, I'm sure Asian women don't cheat and that their moral are so much higher then ours. Just go to Thailand and you'll see.

As a caucasian woman who has been faithful to her white WH for almost 26 years I find that comment highly offensive. Gee what race of MAN should I look for that wont cheat?

Find yourself a nice Asian woman and be happy

Yes, I'm sure Asian women don't cheat and that their moral are so much higher then ours. Just go to Thailand and you'll see.

As a caucasian woman who has been faithful to her white WH for almost 26 years I find that comment highly offensive. Gee what race of MAN should I look for that wont cheat?

I'm not even a caucasian BS and I find that comment highly offensive too! I call bullcrap.

Find yourself a nice Asian woman and be happy (Preferably not a North Americanized version, lol).

WHOA there, bud. My WH cheated with a "nice Asian" bitch. Yes, Asian. From Japan. Yes, Asian. As in, NOT Americanized.

Let's not be racist or prejudiced, here, please.

And I won't even go into how that quote is wrong on so many other sorry levels. GEEZUS!

The other BS has been a little harder to track down than I first thought. She isn't on Social media, I don't think she works and so far she doesn't have a cell phone. I have already spent like #200-300 to track her down. I didn't really want to go over to their house because of safety issues and it's IN THE HOOD. BUT I WILL!!!! IF THAT IS WHAT IT TAKES>>>>>