 
				    				Skan ( member #35812)		posted at 7:59 PM on Thursday, December 5th, 2013	
				Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
  		
	 	 			 
				    				Dyinghere ( member #41313)		posted at 12:15 AM on Sunday, December 8th, 2013	
		 			 
				    				Skan ( member #35812)		posted at 12:15 AM on Saturday, December 14th, 2013	
				Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
  		
	 	 			 
				    				damaged1 ( new member #41651)		posted at 2:56 AM on Saturday, December 14th, 2013	
			 
	Thanks for this post!  It will help me find my footing.  If I see my WW on the right hand column I'll know where I currently stand. 
 
			 			Me: 43
WS: 51
D-Day: 11/26/13
S:13
Married 14 years
Where I'm at: Trying to get through this life altering event and keep my marriage but not blind to where this road might lead to.		
	 	 			 
				    				damaged1 ( new member #41651)		posted at 2:57 AM on Saturday, December 14th, 2013	
				Me: 43
WS: 51
D-Day: 11/26/13
S:13
Married 14 years
Where I'm at: Trying to get through this life altering event and keep my marriage but not blind to where this road might lead to.		
	 	 			 
				    				Jrazz ( member #31349)		posted at 3:39 AM on Sunday, December 15th, 2013	
				"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom		
	 	 			 
				    				Simple ( member #18814)		posted at 12:54 AM on Tuesday, December 17th, 2013	
				Love is a choice.
True love is harder to come by than soul mates.  True love requires work.  
Ignorance can be cured with knowledge.  There is no cure for being an idiot.
-October 3, 2007
-February 18, 2022		
	 	 			 
				    				Simple ( member #18814)		posted at 1:07 AM on Saturday, January 4th, 2014	
				Love is a choice.
True love is harder to come by than soul mates.  True love requires work.  
Ignorance can be cured with knowledge.  There is no cure for being an idiot.
-October 3, 2007
-February 18, 2022		
	 	 			 
				    				Simple ( member #18814)		posted at 8:13 PM on Tuesday, January 7th, 2014	
				Love is a choice.
True love is harder to come by than soul mates.  True love requires work.  
Ignorance can be cured with knowledge.  There is no cure for being an idiot.
-October 3, 2007
-February 18, 2022		
	 	 			 
				    				Simple ( member #18814)		posted at 8:46 PM on Wednesday, January 8th, 2014	
				Love is a choice.
True love is harder to come by than soul mates.  True love requires work.  
Ignorance can be cured with knowledge.  There is no cure for being an idiot.
-October 3, 2007
-February 18, 2022		
	 	 			 
				    				tushnurse ( member #21101)		posted at 8:06 PM on Friday, January 10th, 2014	
				Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16  at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years.  Old Vet now.		
	 	 			 
				    				brohl5 ( member #13440)		posted at 2:10 PM on Thursday, January 16th, 2014	
				I'm not going to let this define me anymore.  He's gone and I couldn't be happier. 
You couldn't have told me in July and December of 2006, but there really is a life after this mess. 
Breathe, just breathe.		
	 	 			 
				    				spond ( member #41686)		posted at 1:43 PM on Friday, January 17th, 2014	
			 
	First time seeing this. 
 
 
	 
 
 
			 			BH(me) | fWW
2 Kids - Married 2002
D-Day TT & EA | D-Day #2 PA
Reconciling		
	 	 			 
				    				norabird ( member #42092)		posted at 5:36 PM on Saturday, January 18th, 2014	
			 			 
				    				Kitty70 ( member #41939)		posted at 1:50 PM on Sunday, January 19th, 2014	
				Me: BGF, 43
Him: WBF, 35
Together 9 years, moved in 8/15/2013		
	 	 			 
				    				DLP50 ( member #40232)		posted at 5:12 PM on Sunday, January 19th, 2014	
			 
	Most of the right side is us. 
 
 
	However, I've heard "I'm sorry for hurting you". 
 
 
	I guess since he never admited to an A, why apologize for hurting me? What did he do to hurt me? 
 
 
	He's a pro at rugsweeping. He should be nominated for the rugsweeing award. 
 
			 			Me BS-50ish
WH (not according to him)- 50ish
M - 18 yrs together 21 
No kids together- DD and DS from my 1st marriage
5 Beautiful GD's		
	 	 			 
				    				shatteredapart ( member #41978)		posted at 11:55 AM on Monday, January 20th, 2014	
			 
	I'm booking marking this to show WH. I think he may be turning the corner ever so slowly. But afraid to hope much should I be devastated once again. 
 
			 			Me-BS 
Him-WS
EA(PA?) 10 months with COW
3 ddays-Sept '13, Oct '13, Dec '13
Attempting Reconciliation...time and actions will tell
		
	 	 			 
				    				ascian ( member #40304)		posted at 7:29 PM on Wednesday, January 22nd, 2014	
				Me - BH 41
Her - FWW 38
D-Day: 8/13
Reconciled		
	 	 			 
				    				totallyconfused1 ( member #42030)		posted at 7:30 PM on Saturday, January 25th, 2014	
			 
	This is a great thread.  I'm glad I can see my ws in the remorseful side. 
 
			 			Me - BS
Him - WS
DD Jan 8 2014		
	 	 			 
				    				Simple ( member #18814)		posted at 11:24 PM on Wednesday, January 29th, 2014	
				Love is a choice.
True love is harder to come by than soul mates.  True love requires work.  
Ignorance can be cured with knowledge.  There is no cure for being an idiot.
-October 3, 2007
-February 18, 2022