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Skan ( Member #35812) posted at 7:59 PM on Thursday, December 5th, 2013

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Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012


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Dyinghere ( Member #41313) posted at 12:15 AM on Sunday, December 8th, 2013

Need to read this

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Skan ( Member #35812) posted at 12:15 AM on Saturday, December 14th, 2013

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Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012


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damaged1 ( New Member #41651) posted at 2:56 AM on Saturday, December 14th, 2013

Thanks for this post! It will help me find my footing. If I see my WW on the right hand column I'll know where I currently stand.

Me: 43
WS: 51
D-Day: 11/26/13
S:13
Married 14 years
Where I'm at: Trying to get through this life altering event and keep my marriage but not blind to where this road might lead to.

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damaged1 ( New Member #41651) posted at 2:57 AM on Saturday, December 14th, 2013

Thanks so much!

Me: 43
WS: 51
D-Day: 11/26/13
S:13
Married 14 years
Where I'm at: Trying to get through this life altering event and keep my marriage but not blind to where this road might lead to.

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Jrazz ( Member #31349) posted at 3:39 AM on Sunday, December 15th, 2013

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom

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Simple ( Member #18814) posted at 12:54 AM on Tuesday, December 17th, 2013

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Love is a choice.

True love is harder to come by than soul mates. True love requires work.

Ignorance can be cured with knowledge. There is no cure for being an idiot.

-October 3, 2007-

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Simple ( Member #18814) posted at 1:07 AM on Saturday, January 4th, 2014

bump

Love is a choice.

True love is harder to come by than soul mates. True love requires work.

Ignorance can be cured with knowledge. There is no cure for being an idiot.

-October 3, 2007-

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Simple ( Member #18814) posted at 8:13 PM on Tuesday, January 7th, 2014

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Love is a choice.

True love is harder to come by than soul mates. True love requires work.

Ignorance can be cured with knowledge. There is no cure for being an idiot.

-October 3, 2007-

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Simple ( Member #18814) posted at 8:46 PM on Wednesday, January 8th, 2014

bump

Love is a choice.

True love is harder to come by than soul mates. True love requires work.

Ignorance can be cured with knowledge. There is no cure for being an idiot.

-October 3, 2007-

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tushnurse ( Member #21101) posted at 8:06 PM on Friday, January 10th, 2014

bump bump bump

Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 21 &23
Married for 28 years now, was 16 at the time.
D-Day Sept 26 2008
R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.

posts: 18918   ·   registered: Oct. 1st, 2008   ·   location: St. Louis
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brohl5 ( Member #13440) posted at 2:10 PM on Thursday, January 16th, 2014

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I'm not going to let this define me anymore. He's gone and I couldn't be happier.

You couldn't have told me in July and December of 2006, but there really is a life after this mess.

Breathe, just breathe.

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spond ( Member #41686) posted at 1:43 PM on Friday, January 17th, 2014

First time seeing this.

BH(me) | fWW
2 Kids - Married 2002
D-Day TT & EA | D-Day #2 PA
Reconciling

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norabird ( Member #42092) posted at 5:36 PM on Saturday, January 18th, 2014

Bump

Sit. Feast on your life.

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Kitty70 ( Member #41939) posted at 1:50 PM on Sunday, January 19th, 2014

Bump

Me: BGF, 43
Him: WBF, 35
Together 9 years, moved in 8/15/2013

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DLP50 ( Member #40232) posted at 5:12 PM on Sunday, January 19th, 2014

Most of the right side is us.

However, I've heard "I'm sorry for hurting you".

I guess since he never admited to an A, why apologize for hurting me? What did he do to hurt me?

He's a pro at rugsweeping. He should be nominated for the rugsweeing award.

Me BS-50ish
WH (not according to him)- 50ish
M - 18 yrs together 21
No kids together- DD and DS from my 1st marriage
5 Beautiful GD's

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shatteredapart ( Member #41978) posted at 11:55 AM on Monday, January 20th, 2014

I'm booking marking this to show WH. I think he may be turning the corner ever so slowly. But afraid to hope much should I be devastated once again.

Me-BS
Him-WS
EA(PA?) 10 months with COW
3 ddays-Sept '13, Oct '13, Dec '13
Attempting Reconciliation...time and actions will tell

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ascian ( Member #40304) posted at 7:29 PM on Wednesday, January 22nd, 2014

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Me - BH 41
Her - FWW 38
D-Day: 8/13
Reconciled

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totallyconfused1 ( Member #42030) posted at 7:30 PM on Saturday, January 25th, 2014

This is a great thread. I'm glad I can see my ws in the remorseful side.

Me - BS
Him - WS
DD Jan 8 2014

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Simple ( Member #18814) posted at 11:24 PM on Wednesday, January 29th, 2014

bump

Love is a choice.

True love is harder to come by than soul mates. True love requires work.

Ignorance can be cured with knowledge. There is no cure for being an idiot.

-October 3, 2007-

posts: 942   ·   registered: Mar. 25th, 2008
id 6662550
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