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kernel ( member #27035) posted at 12:41 AM on Tuesday, September 10th, 2013
I used to work for The NSA and kernel is a reference to a cover identity I used when I was working in what used to be East Germany, way back before the wall came down. Let’s just say the situation I got into when I was using that identity fit the situation I found myself in after D-day – FUBAR. I lived to never tell the tale of kernel, but found myself FUBAR all over again in a completely different context – infidelity and abandonment. SI wouldn’ t take FUBAR.
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JK! 
After several rejected names, I just put what I saw on my dinner plate – a kernel of corn. But I like the spy story better. My youngest DD would totally get a kick out of it. I really did work for NSA but I wasn’t a spy, there were no cover identities, all very boring. Nothing to see there, but she is so tickled that I used to work there. I got accused of keeping it a secret when she found it out recently. The truth was, it was long before she was even born and just wasn’t ever relevant until all the recent scandals.
"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."
aesir ( member #17210) posted at 12:48 AM on Tuesday, September 10th, 2013
kernel, you missed your calling. Making up shit like that is the job of <redacted agency> not the NSA.
Your mileage may vary... in accordance with the prophecy.
Do not back up. Severe tire damage.
kernel ( member #27035) posted at 1:19 AM on Tuesday, September 10th, 2013
"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."
Clarrissa ( member #21886) posted at 1:40 AM on Tuesday, September 10th, 2013
How I came up with my name is actually kinda boring, at least I think so.
Every once in a while I get the urge to write stories. Clarrissa was a main character in one of them. This was years ago and that particular story is now decomposing somewhere in a landfill, a victim of Dday aftermath.
BH Cee64D - 50
FWW (me) - 51
All affairs are variations on a theme. No one has 'Beethoven's 5th' to everyone else's 'Chopsticks'.
Ostrich80 ( member #34827) posted at 9:00 AM on Tuesday, September 10th, 2013
I'm an avoider of conflict, hard conversations, and calling people on their shit, in every aspect of my life, head in the sand where I can pretend all is well, if I don't see it, its not real, righ??? Headupmyass wasn't available..
BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????
ExposedNiblet ( member #30803) posted at 3:56 PM on Tuesday, September 10th, 2013
Being totally unimaginative with regards to things like this at the best of times, I used the first automatic name generator I could find online.
Looking back now, I wish I would have at least given it some thought and tried to come up with my own.
Oh well, live & learn.
welcome14 ( member #26741) posted at 6:19 PM on Tuesday, September 10th, 2013
Mine was the login for my laptop that he used to contact women and start his affair. Thought it was appropriate, and it sounds kinda friendly, eh? LOL
Bs- me
Someone I used to know- Him
Nothing like a trail of blood to find your way back home- nikki sixx
I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.
better4me ( member #30341) posted at 6:44 PM on Tuesday, September 10th, 2013
kernel, you had me going for a minute gah!
I stumbled upon SI about 5 weeks after DDay. I already knew my course of action but was having so much trouble managing the emotional upheaval. I wanted to remind myself that my choice to leave was what was "better for me" while WXH and his family pressured me to make a choice that was better for "him"...
DDay 11/17/2010 BW:58
Happily remarried!
dameia ( member #36072) posted at 6:48 PM on Tuesday, September 10th, 2013
Mine is similar to Ama...trying to figure out what to do, I look around and see a jar of macadameia nuts. I just shortened it to dameia.
Me: BS
D-Day: 7/7/12
Trust is like paper. Once it's crumpled it can never be perfect again.
Lola2kids ( member #32789) posted at 7:06 PM on Tuesday, September 10th, 2013
The first names I tried were taken. They all had to do with Betrayed I think.
Since the OW has the same first name as me, I didn't want to use it. Not to mention that wouldn't be anonymous.
Lola is the name my nephew called me when he was small since he was mispronouncing my real name.
And I have twins, 2 kids.
Just as and aside, I am so disapointed that Exposed Niblet didn't have some great story behind it. Sorry EN, but I always wondered about your screen name. 
[This message edited by Lola2kids at 1:07 PM, September 10th (Tuesday)]
BS: (Me) 48
Kids: twins DD(11)
D-Day April 18, 2011
Him:out Sept. 11, 2011
He moved an ocean away June 27, 2014.
"They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder but I am growing more and more fond of his absence"
simplydevastated ( member #25001) posted at 7:07 PM on Tuesday, September 10th, 2013
I wanted a name that described how I felt in a nut shell, and simplydevastated covered it. I love my screen name. I like being called SD
Me - BS, 40 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS11, DD8
Getting my ducks in a row for divorce... finally (4+ D-Days too many - listed in profile.)
Tripletrouble (original poster member #39169) posted at 1:17 AM on Wednesday, September 11th, 2013
So many mysteries cleared up! There's one more I gotta know, but etiquette prevents me from saying who...
40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013
Happily remarried 2018
Time is a great healer but a terrible beautician.
gahurts ( member #33699) posted at 2:11 AM on Wednesday, September 11th, 2013
Well PM them and ask them to post their story.
"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie
jrc1963 ( member #26531) posted at 3:16 AM on Wednesday, September 11th, 2013
TT...
Now I'm totally curious as to who it is.
Me: BSO - 56 Him: FWSO - 79 DS - 23 D-Day - 12-11-09, R - he finally came homeYour life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"
unfound ( member #12802) posted at 3:29 AM on Wednesday, September 11th, 2013
I don't care what she says, jrc1963 stands for "just right cantaloupes" (in my mind and how I've always read it). 63 was just a good year 
ka-mai
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Kids on the playground can be so cruel. “Get off the swings you’re like 50, and stop talking about Soundgarden, we don't even know what that is."
jrc1963 ( member #26531) posted at 3:43 AM on Wednesday, September 11th, 2013
T/j
Unfound, how did you know I had good melons?
End T/j
Me: BSO - 56 Him: FWSO - 79 DS - 23 D-Day - 12-11-09, R - he finally came homeYour life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"
CharlieFoxtrot ( member #38010) posted at 4:24 AM on Wednesday, September 11th, 2013
At that moment. Everything was a cluster f*ck.
Weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning.
HeartStings ( member #38017) posted at 5:16 AM on Wednesday, September 11th, 2013
When WH was trying to rationalize his "affair," he said he was overweight and was having heart stings. He thought he was going to die, damn it, and he deserved to have a (fake) subservient third worlder worship him! Not that she wants our money and a green card....no! It's true love.
Vulcanized ( member #33523) posted at 5:27 AM on Wednesday, September 11th, 2013
XH used to call me Spock.
Vulcanization is the process by which rubber becomes stronger. Seemed kinda apt.
Me: fBW/MH 40s
3.26.13: Liberation day: D'd the whiny turd after being saddled with a serial cheating, NPD, jitbag 10 years too long
Now:-----> Everything is as it should be
brokensmile322 ( member #35758) posted at 2:25 PM on Wednesday, September 11th, 2013
Took the name from one of my favorite Maroon 5 songs....
"Look for the girl with the broken smile..."
That's me, I may be smiling to everyone on the outside, but I was a hot mess on the inside.
Thus, the girl with a broken smile.
Me BS 42 Him WS 44
OW Coworker DDay April 7, 2012
EA on a slippery slope...
When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. ~Viktor Frankl
"When you are happy, you can forgive a great deal."
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