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Crumbled324 ( member #33902) posted at 10:30 AM on Tuesday, September 24th, 2013
My life, and the date it happened. Not very original I'm afraid. 
BH: 47
fWW: 46
Beautiful 9 year old daughter
Married 23 years, Together 29 - High School Sweethearts
Reconciling
Save yourself. I've taken off my cape, and the only thing the S on my chest stands for is SURVIVNG this.
LAFA ( member #31868) posted at 4:45 PM on Tuesday, September 24th, 2013
A look back at the first tjme I was faced with infidelity. Long Ago, Far Away.
When you put someone on a pedestal, they quickly learn two things. The view is mighty good from up there, and it is a fine vantage from which to kick.
SBB ( member #35229) posted at 12:05 PM on Wednesday, September 25th, 2013
I suspect "ICannotFuckingBelieveThis" was rejected. I remember trying several before this one.
I was in so much shock and rage when I joined I'm amazed my name isn't BallsInABlender.
I don't love it but it is good to be reminded of where I was then and how far I've come now. I'd love to be able to change our names though. Not that I can think of one.
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
confused615 ( member #30826) posted at 4:46 PM on Wednesday, September 25th, 2013
Im boring.
I was confused..and we were married on June 15.
Still married..no longer confused. 
BS(me)44
FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
sadcat ( member #8637) posted at 12:32 AM on Thursday, September 26th, 2013
well I was sad and I like cats....
Pretty simple really. I even forgot to capitalize the "S"
Never let your fear decide your fate.....AWOLNATION
If this isn't what I consider soulmate crap, I don't know what is.
cantaccept ( member #37451) posted at 3:29 PM on Saturday, October 5th, 2013
I believe it was very soon after dday, maybe within days?
I was in shock, I couldn't accept that this was possible.
I remember thinking, "h would not do this, this can't be real"
It just popped into my head.
Everytime I type it I remember how I felt then...
Kind of wish I could change it now. Maybe to, never mind, it would probably be rejected! 
"I'm still standing better than I ever did. Looking like a true survivor, feeling like a little kid" Elton John
I would now like to be known as Can!
dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh deleted
I attempted R, he was a lie
trappe25 ( new member #38513) posted at 3:54 PM on Saturday, October 5th, 2013
Mine is so ridiculous.
I type really really fast and HATE to edit.
So being that I am trapped financially and that we had been together for 25 years it was supposed to be Trapped25, but because I didn't edit it is Trappe25....uggh
HurtButHopeful? ( member #25144) posted at 3:56 PM on Saturday, October 5th, 2013
H and I had just spent a week together at a hotel together to begin R, and and I became hopeful but was still deeply hurt. Others already had variations of HurtButHopeful, so I added a *?* to mine, since I was tentative whether Mr. HBH had it in him to endure the rollercoaster ride of R.
HBH
Resources for R:
His Needs Her Needs, by Dr. Willard Harley
Love Busters, by Dr. Willard Harley
(for husbands) Becoming the Ultimate Husband, by Reb Bradley
cmego ( member #30346) posted at 5:55 PM on Saturday, October 5th, 2013
c~letter of my first name
me
go
Of course, "see me go" as the double meaning, and yes, he did see me go. 
me...BS, 46 years old.
Divorced
Peaches2013 ( member #40852) posted at 10:00 PM on Saturday, October 5th, 2013
I didn't want a user name associated with anything else I do. So I picked something I like and the year.
Plus, if this is google-able, I suspect you're going to get about 25 million fruit hits before you ever get to a user name.
Me: BS
Him: WH ONS/short EA
Married 11 years
Together 15 years
2 children
Tripletrouble (original poster member #39169) posted at 9:19 PM on Monday, October 28th, 2013
40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013
Happily remarried 2018
Time is a great healer but a terrible beautician.
ninebark ( member #24534) posted at 2:59 PM on Tuesday, October 29th, 2013
Well during the A I was working for a landscape company, one of my jobs was plants stock manager.
I chose Ninebark because it is a very hardy plant that can withstand extreme situations and has a bark that peels off to reveal something new and wonderful underneath. So I feel like a Ninebark.
BS (me) 40
WH - 48
Married 12 years
DS - 12
D-day 06/21/09
Separated....hopefully divorcing soon.
karmahappens ( member #35846) posted at 5:13 PM on Tuesday, October 29th, 2013
Mine is easy...
When I got here I was still consumed with the karma bus hitting the OW.
I now know I was way off. I intend to get my membership so I can change it, just not sure to what.
I am so not creative.
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd
2ndbest ( member #32446) posted at 7:56 PM on Tuesday, October 29th, 2013
It was exactly the way I felt at the time. As though I had been merely filling in for the one he really wanted
simplydevastated ( member #25001) posted at 7:57 PM on Tuesday, October 29th, 2013
I wanted something that summed up how I felt in a nutshell. Simplydevastated seemed perfect.
Me - BS, 40 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS11, DD8
Getting my ducks in a row for divorce... finally (4+ D-Days too many - listed in profile.)
No12turn2 ( member #40996) posted at 8:08 PM on Tuesday, October 29th, 2013
I picked mine because I felt like I didn't have anyone who understood what I wanted with our marriage. All of my family and friends want me to just pack her shit and tell her to kick rocks. Sucks when you have plenty of family around and you feel like you have no one to turn to (No12turn2)
[This message edited by No12turn2 at 2:09 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)]
Me/BS 35
WW 32
M 12 yrs 2 Girls 10 & 7
Phone/Cyber Affairs (3 D-Days)
Status: DIVORCED 4/24/2014
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
chipmunk41 ( member #40694) posted at 8:16 PM on Tuesday, October 29th, 2013
I am 41 and the day I registered my account I was looking out the window and saw a chipmunk run by...
Me: BS
Him: ExH
DD 9-13-13
Divorced 7/9/15
Dark Inertia ( member #30727) posted at 8:19 PM on Tuesday, October 29th, 2013
It is from the Bhagavad Gita. I like the combination of the words, although it has a negative meaning.
Tred ( member #34086) posted at 8:20 PM on Tuesday, October 29th, 2013
I was looking out the window and saw a chipmunk run by...
Glad I didn't use that methodology. 2DogsScrewing would be pretty awkward 
Married: 27 years (14 @JFO) D-Day: 11/09/11"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)
Marathonwaseasy ( member #40674) posted at 8:24 PM on Tuesday, October 29th, 2013
I ran my first marathon in May during his A. That was a sinch compared to getting out of bed every morning since dday
Me BS, 41
Him WS, 45
EA and PA (PA for 11 months)
DDay 13/9/13
3 children - 15,12,3
WS has bipolar, no excuse...
"We're not broken, just bent. We can learn to love again."
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