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I, too, had to keeping looking to make sure it really was you posting this. I'm shocked. SHOCKED.

((Gaby))

We all know you are a strong woman and that you will get through this.

Sadly, I know all too well what it's like to support someone out of love and then have them do this shit behind your back.

Please lean on us to help you get through this. I'm so sorry.

Hello everyone,

Thank you for your kindness.

I just spent the last several hours sorting through the email accounts (there was more than one), the FUBAR account, the Adultfriendfinder accounts (at least 2 that I know of so far), and searching through various files and anything else I could think of.

I am absolutely sick to my stomach. This fucking asshole is sending emails like "in a sexless marriage. would like to get laid at least once this year". Huh...sounds like the same things I've been saying to HIM for the last year.

ETA: He also commented in a couple of emails that he thinks I'm cheating on him. Nice try, asshole.

He got bolder over time. Instead of just sending pics of his genitals, he started including a face pic or two. One was of him during horseback riding a few years ago- a gift I got for him.

I want to out him to his family but I doubt it'll make a difference. I emailed XWH to see if my son can stay there again today. I have to try to get some sleep even though food is a distant thought.

I'll try to check in later. Attempting a nap...

[This message edited by GabyBaby at 11:05 AM, July 13th (Sunday)]

((gaby))

I'm so sorry. Focus on you.

It pisses me off after all you've been through. On what planet did he think that this is ever ok?

(((Gaby)))

I too had to check a couple of times to make sure I was reading the member name right.

Every BS's worst nightmare.

You know the drill, remember to eat a little and drink fluids too and sleep.

What made you check his phone?

We're here for you.

Yeah...that whole nap thing isn't working out well.

What made you check his phone?

I was actually looking for an email string between him and his mom. He'd forwarded part of it to me earlier, then went to take a nap. I wanted to see the rest before responding to an email she sent to me.

I saw an email address in scrolling through that was an offshoot of his name, but "dirty". So of course I looked.

He's always on his phone. He likes playing video poker or other stupid iPhone apps. I didn't think much of it...at first. I think that phone activity was in the back of my head when I was scrolling through his messages.

This fucker was taking erect pics of himself in his truck at stop lights. So to do that, he's driving around town masturbating. And I'm at work paying for his cell phone bill. And the gas in that truck. And the truck.

Lovely.

He kept saying over and over that no one ever responded but there are multiple emails that go back and forth. SOme of the "women" sent pics, but they weren't attached to the emails that I saw, so it may have been linked directly through Craigslist. I'm thankful that I haven't seen those pics (so far), but I'm sure he's got them somewhere. Why ask for them if you aren't going to save them for later enjoyment.

Dammit Gaby, I am so so sorry.

We will see you through this Gaby. I don't know what it will look like on the other side, but I can pretty much assure you that it's going to be better than this moment. One foot in front of the other.. we have your back.

I'm so very sorry. I can't even begin to imagine how devastating this must be. Please take care of yourself.

I'm so sorry.

(((((Gaby))))))

Ah gaddam it. I'm so freaking sorry, Gaby. Yeah, right, he was "only" sending photos so he could "talk" to OW. Like any self-respecting woman needs a photo of a penis as a conversation starter. I hope you still have the phone and, after getting what you need from it, smash it with a hammer. And that your days of paying any of his expenses are over. (((hugs)))

I have the phone in hand.

I've forwarded a good sample of the emails from the sent/trash folders to a personal email address as well. I was going to send them all, but there are over 320 of them.

I've shut off the phone via Sprint. If he wants a phone, his ass can go pay for one. If he wants to R, I suggest he start learning how to send smoke signals or use the landline, because it will be a very long time (if ever) before I see myself trusting him with a smart phone.

We have a mortgage and our vehicles are in both our names. Other than that, we have no shared debt. I'm trying to put together Plan A and Plan B, but I'm so scatter brained right now...

I already moved funds and shut down what joint accounts that I could. If he wants this, he's going to have to do the heavy lifting.

I'm all tapped out.

(((Gaby)))

Baby steps, it looks like you are moving forward and protecting yourself.

I'm also not buying the "he never met anyone" but hope that it is true.

The amount of disrespect is amazing.

Oh no... I'm so sorry to read this, Gaby. Sending you strength and hugs for the days ahead. We are here for you.

(((GabyBaby)))

((Gaby)) I'm so sorry.

Just awful Gaby. Very sorry to hear this. Strength pane courage to you.

(((Gaby))) I'm so sorry.

shit Gaby ...

(((gaby)))

(((Gaby)))

Th is is shocking and I'm angry for you.

I know beating the holy he'll out of him is not a good idea but damn girl I admire your strength!!!!

It's overwhelming, but you are at an advantage here, since this ain't your first rodeo. Start making to do lists. Get organized.

Focus on you! Remember the pain will not last forever and you already have a great support system here.

Take some deep breaths. Do one nice thing for yourself every day and don't forget to get some protein in a get some sleep.

((((And strength))))

I can't even believe who this is happening to. I am so sorry and so pissed off right now.

(((Gaby))) I am sorry and absolutely pissed for you. Be strong and lean on us as you are awesome and deserve better!