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Yesterday one of the dogs got out. Luckily he's just a puppy and tried to get back in instead of running. I don't know why I decided to ask you about the gate, I should have just called someone or tried to repair it on my own. Instead I opened up to a conversation with you and you decided to try and be flirtatious. Why? Why even pretend like that's something you want? I know you've been talking to OW every night for hours then when you're done with her you try texting me. It shouldn't upset me nearly as much as it does. You're more shady than any tree I've ever seen of course you're talking to her and then turning around and trying to talk to me. You'd probably be having sex with us both but I've at least got it together enough to say no to that. I wonder at what point I become the OW to your budding relationship? You claim she's the only one keeping you optimistic that we'll work out? I'm 1000% positive that's not the case (for any part of that statement).

To my 1st Cheating Mother Fucker Ex Husband-----I tried to warn you what exactly would happen with her....Except it has worked out much more horrible than I ever could have predicted. You two drunks are train wreaks and I'm happy to be OUT! Don't ever try to contact me again because I'm DONE! FINISHED!

you are such an asshole!!!! I just can't stand being married to you anymore. you're an arrogant selfish mother fucker and I hate you i hate you!!! I can't stand that this bullshit is still in my head!! it's killing me that you are off livign your life with OW what a mother fucker bitch she is. stealing my husband; although i would never want you back. but god. what the hell happened to you!>??? I was a good wife to you. seriously wtf!?!????? you had this affair for YEARS fucking years and i was in the dark. how could you do this, and then blame shift, smear campaign and now still love and live with her. UGSHHHHHHSHHHHH!!! I'm so fucking mad and hurt and furious....uggggg...

You had a little sympathy from me when you called. I mean you just found out your dad has cancer so of course. But then, in typical fashion, you made it about you. I do still check up on what you're doing occasionally, I do realize that you're still talking to your lovely married 21 year old coworker. No, I don't trust or believe that you 'won't do anything'. That hasn't gotten me very far up till now has it? Shockingly I don't particularly care anymore. Like I told you, when you left you told me I had to "learn to let go", meaning I had to learn to let you do your shit and not worry about it of course. You're surprised that I did just that and you still can't come home? I've gotta say, your determination to have your cake and eat it too is impressive. But I don't care how down you feel or how much of a hard time your having, you're not coming back here.

Edit to say: I also don't care if your mind is wandering in regards to what I've been doing. My argument from the beginning still stands, I never broke our marriage vows, all of this still falls on you.

[This message edited by Howlingatthewind at 6:36 PM, April 5th (Wednesday)]

Why do I still love you, you stupid selfish asshole?

You're probably with your whore COW again, while I am here with our three kids, taking care of them, running them to activities, feeding them, helping with their homework etc. etc. Do you call them? No. Do you email and ask about them? No. You take your whole every other weekend and that makes you dad of the year apparently. How did I choose so wrong??!! I hate that I still shed tears over you, you don't deserve them. And you don't deserve us. Fuck you!

It's strange how my life is so calm now. I come home and I feel glad. Sometimes I wonder what you're doing, but for the most part I don't care. I wish I could tell you that I didn't care because that seems to really impact you - the not caring the lack of any kind of connection. For a while I think I was going no contact in order to punish you, but now I know that I'm doing it in order to take care of me

[This message edited by grayskull at 9:03 PM, April 5th (Wednesday)]

How can you sit there so calmly and eat your fucking supper while I try not to cry. Do you have any idea the pain you've caused me, you motherfucker? In hindsight I always knew you were selfish but I never thought you'd do this to me...twice. Like Alex said you're a repeat offender, and you're worthless. I should just write you off but my heart aches to save our marriage. I know you could give a shit less. Sometimes I hate you. I can't wait to get through this part of it so this pain will be behind me. By the way, how can you kiss that meth mouth on your new woman? How can you be proud to be fucking that?

From your extreme, over the top reaction to me finding those two photos on your phone, I presume that I've caught you fucking around again.

Guess what?

I don't really care.

Are you panicking because you've lost control?

Your behaviour is ridiculous..... you know that I'm divorcing you anyway.

Why all the histrionics?

I already knew that you're a lying cheating piece of shit arsehole.

You've fucked dozens of whores on the side, perhaps this one was more serious?

I don't know if you think your 'punishing' me, or what with your reaction - but you're only making yourself look even more pathetic with your spiteful little mantrum.

I don't care.

Roll on the divorce matey-boy, and you'll see just how much I don't care.

Eat my fabulous dust.

Sometimes I get weak and start to miss you and wonder if we could fix things and have a future together. Then I remember what you did and it knocks the breath out of me all over again.

Not enough peace on this forum

hey, I've been thinking about you a lot today. I wish things were different... I miss you, but not who you are now. I miss who you were, I miss who I saw you could be.

I am so sad and so angry and I miss my best friend and this just sucks. You threw it all away. You triggered me on purpose and then blamed our problems on my reactions. I want to hate you. I want to feel nothing. I want to not love you anymore. You don't deserve it.

You're an asshole for abandoning the dogs, too.

Your daughter isn't speaking to you because you are a really, stupid arse.

She can see it for herself, I didn't have to point out ANYTHING.

What did you think was going to happen?

Arsehole -> meet -> consequences

I am so angry at you I don't even know where to begin. I know that telling you anything will just feed your monster so I communicate only around what I have to for logistics, but you try and slide the rest in.

I'm not playing victim here so why the hell are you? I own my story. I can say whatever the fuck I want to to whomever the fuck I want. My saying it doesn't make it true, your DOING IT did. Get it through your thick thick skull. I am not ruining anything. I am not putting you through anything - not violating your privacy, not ruining your reputation. Nothing. YOU did that. YOU made those choices.

How dare you?

How dare you expect ANYTHING from me? Let alone for me to give a shit about your precious "privacy", which is nothing more than a covering for your shame...

So no, I will not give you a "yes or no" about that or anything else. Just tell me when's a good time to come pick up the cat and then go fuck yourself.

Today I tried to reach out...tried to empathize, tried to explain, to ask for peace and offer mine. I battled my own fears, I made myself vulnerable and I tried, and now as the tears stream down my face, I keep wondering why I'm the only one that ever tried. And when will I be smart enough to stop trying?

You're angry at me. Because I remind you of all your failures, screw up's, problems and lies. I remind you of who you really are and that you're too cowardly and self righteous to face it. It's easy for you to point out everyone else's flaws. You'd rather keep lobbing grenades at me because it's a nice distraction from facing who you are. Are you proud of who you are? Do you like the fact that everyone tells you how great you are while you know they all see a fake facade of lies and deceit? I know you. I know you probably sit alone and cry as much as I do, maybe more. I know you're extremely hurt and feeling great shame. And I've held out hope for all these months that maybe you'd learn how to be a better man in all of this. But instead you keep making the same angry, selfish, entitled, justified and painful choices. I don't have a single ounce of anger towards you anymore, but I'm frustrated with myself for letting you pull me down this week. I'm frustrated for continually believing in you when you've done nothing but choose to hurt me again and again.

Back to business only. Time to start a countdown to a new dday - divorce day, when I can really be free of your toxicity. Vulnerability takes more strength than you'll ever have, and I'm turning my strength towards more positive and productive ventures. You're a lost cause.

I,hope u burn

I didn't know....

I bet you didn't know.

I'm talking to our children..... they've all got your measure.

Absolutely,They still "love" you - you're their Dad.

I had no idea that they see you for what you are.

I've kept this buttoned down for so many years...... and yet they ALL SEE YOU.

For exactly what you are.

Tough shit

I pray this is the last time touch the hot stove....

Furthermore, you can financially ruin me for 3 years, i expect that, but is it really any worse than the last 3? Nope Like i said, my bad for not leaving you the first time. Your threats about the home are threats on your sons too, and that says it all. But eh, we will make it through, and in three years, ill be just fine, with a wondeful, honest, healthy, respectful wife capable of real love, devotion, and compassion. Youll be wondering what happened to that true love...oh wait we shouldve learned that in high school, its called infatuation and it isnt real. See i can still play your games, you get off on this fight... well save these and enjoy, you get no more kibbles from me. This nonsense is over. You dont scare me. Just like the night you were sure the police were going to take me down.... The future without you and your lies and hurt is brighter, even if it is in a cardboard box. Current need of Kids, finances, and logistics, dont talk to me about anything else.

Finally, enjoy getting your hair snipped and pissing in a cup tomorrow you proud, lying, sack of dirty, cheating, jailbird cum stained panties. Enjoy my dimes for three years, cuz after that, youll live the life youve really deserved. I cant even look at you without feeling sorry for just how blind and lost you are. You never grew up and you dont even realize that youre 15 in your head, but you have 3 amazing sons in pain feeling like they " dont even have a mom". Youve ruined everyone, but the 4 of us will see a happy future, even though your sickness will be a tear stained on our faces forever.

[This message edited by solost17 at 10:14 PM, April 12th (Wednesday)]

You cant believe me????? You would never leave me stranded????? Welcome to your life as a divorced adultress. Find your own way to your drug test. Not my job.

What did you do to our son today?

I've just heard him muttering under his breath that "you are a stupid fucking c*nt... and he hates your guts"

You'd better stop throwing your (considerable) weight around and buck up... you're going to lose your children.

...... and if you do, I'll silently rejoice.

None of us deserve your narcissistic power-game crap.

Just PISS OFF