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Jesus - but she's got some serious projection issues. Give her crickets.

Make sure your attorney is aware of the reaction.

Try and keep copies of everything.

Yea, yuck. Even knowing that it's coming and that it is nothing but twisty-thinking ranting, that shit still stings.

No blocking yet. Use silent or something and keep it all. She's so busy lashing out at you that she'll say all kinds of stuff that may end up being helpful.

Thanks I expected to have her mad but not like that. I guess I was hoping against hope it would be ok. I know its hitting her cause I didn't tell her I filed. Maybe that was not a cool move of me but I didn't want to deal with it. Now I am anyway.

I called my lawyer and she is in that case she is working on so I left a message. Her assistant said in the meantime to not delete any of the texts and put her to voice mail so I can keep that too.

I did email my sister as she has been asking to keep her updated. She told me I should probably tell both my bosses at my jobs in case she tries to do something or contact to screw me. I don't think I want work involved but I will ask the lawyer to see what she thinks. My sister thinks the worst when it comes to my wife and since they had that big blowup on facebook she might be thinking things that are not there.

She has gone off the deep end. The monumental level of entitlement and galacticlly huge size of her narcissism is beyond belief... If you had even a tiny amount of doubt about her suitability as a spouse or prospects for reconciliation hopefully they are all cleared away now.

Also all empty threats... It has been a comparatively short marriage and the child is not yours. She has an education and the ability to make her own way in the world.

Agree with the others above. Time to block her and go 100% no contact other than through the lawyers. As hard as it it is for you that means her family, the friends, and (I know you don't want to hear this) her son as well. By now you have to see that she will NEVER allow you to have a relationship with this child that is normal or health for you or him.

Do not ever be alone with her without unbiased witnesses around and always carry a VAR on you. She will now be beyond desperate and probably at this point vengeful... Waywards in that mindset are the ones most likely to make a false DV charge.

BTW... The quote was from the one of the best sources of positive life lessons in the world... Winnie the Pooh! See.. I'm not a total hard ass... I do have an inner child... Good old Christopher Robin and Winne the Pooh have most of life's answers...

Stay strong brother!

Wow! So let me get this straight you work 2 jobs and she sits on her ass all day. So much so that she thinks she is ignored and she starts screwing another man?

Is there a woman in this country who would marry a man who had a child, work 2 jobs so he could sit at home, and let him screw other women in her home? Yet, you as a man are expected to do this.

You need to read "No more Mr. Nice guy". You are in the fight for your life. Guys like you that roll over get destroyed. I would first blast it out to everyone that she cheated. Start preparing for a battle.

My brother just got custody of his daughter. I sent him a VAR to protect himself. The day after he started using it the police showed up at his home. He was removed from his home even though it was his for 10 years before he married her.

She accused him of sexually assaulting their daughter. I won't go into all details but she wanted him destroyed. Came out that his daughter wanted to live with him since her mom is mentally and physically abusive. He ended up with custody because he did not roll over.

Your wife has told you she is going to destroy you. You best start believing her. She thinks she can not work and screw other guys and take all your money.

I am here to tell you after reading your posts that my money is on her getting what she wants. I can't emphasize enough that she is the enemy now.

She wore the pants in your relationship and you need to see how one sided your marriage really is. But you are going to get slaughtered if you keep being so passive. She should be out of the house not you. She has had her foot on your balls your whole marriage.

You have rights too. Stop being Mr. Nice Guy and take back your life. I hate to see good people treated like this.

Best of luck I am pulling for you.

It might not be a bad idea to tell the bosses something because you really never know what may happen. I attend school in a secured building but when I told the Dean that I had started D proceedings the first thing she asked me was whether there was any need for "concern" and if we needed to keep an eye out for him.

It's a safety issue -- for you and everyone in your workspace.

Avoid panic. You have legal representation. This will be OK.

There is little she can do at this point. Make sure you document and keep a var. I would tell your bosses as a precaution.

Now that there, is an example of olympic level mental gymnastics. Responding to that mess must be so tempting, but it's probably best not to. It's not like she will suddenly begin to understand your perspective anyway, so ignoring her may be netter for your sanity.

It's all you promised me this and that What about her promise to forsake all others, and her promise to love and honor you? Where do they stand in her self made drama?

I've said it before and I will say it again. Your unfortunate story is so sad because you were so willing to work on R, yet she threw every chance you gave her in your face. You did everything you could, so you can walk out of this situation with your head held high. One day, she may realize this too, but by then it will likely be too late. Stay strong brother.

Dang, Gary, she is throwing an epic tantrum. Just wow. I suspected she would.

Yes, it's time to tell your bosses.

Sending tons of strength. Don't let her words get to you. She's desperate. Desperate people do desperate things.

Protect. Your. Flank. VAR on you. Protect yourself.

So sorry. I know this sucks. Keep calm and carry on. Eventually this will be in your rear view mirror.

If you are able to not block but ignore the calls (go to a movie and don't bring the phone) that would be best. While you might not like seeing what she is writing it might help you in the divorce (the threats).

Remember this when you are trying to make things "fair" during the divorce.

Don't feel bad about not telling her you filed. She would have reacted this same way...but you would have had several more days of it. Are you financials safe? Does she know your paycheck isn't going into her account? Worried she is going to go crazy buying things to teach you a lesson...

You are worse than them cause I loved you and gave you all my love and effort.

...all my love and effort? Wonder if she sees the Irony? That this is all because of her having sex with someone and putting no effort into fixing it.

Hugs Gary,

Feeling sad and furious for you.

Like you've already been advised

Record ALL and ANY interaction with / from her.

Document everything.

VAR at the ready at ALL times, just in case she ambushes you somewhere.

Stay no contact.

Now she's been served, all communications to go through your legal representative.

In all honesty, I have concerns about you turning up for your son's game.

This is EXACTLY where you can absolutely guarantee that she will instigate attack / offensive - and where you may become unstuck or have a public meeting blow up out of control, that could be misinterpreted.

I know that you want to support your son, but this situation has 'll the potential for swinging way out of control. Ultimately, that is only going to hurt both you and him.

Careful.

Stay strong, hugs to you. MOB

Please stay away from her sons baseball games. There is NOTHING good that can happen for you there.

As the others have said, her reaction is predictable .

I cannot emphasize this enough. DO NOT BLOCK HER!!!! When your enemy is doing Their best to destroy themselves, get out of the way. Let her continue to telegraph all of her plans to you. Let her calls go to VM. She is giving GREAT evidence for a judge to consider.

Strength

ETA Sadly, yea, it's time to curtail the time with your son. It would be way to easy for her to fabricate a confrontation. She has already told you she will not permit further contact. Don't give her cause to harm you legally.

[This message edited by 5454real at 3:41 PM, May 4th (Wednesday)]

Gary, your wife is unrepentant. She is trying with all her might to project her infidelity on to you. Like no matter what she did, you should be accepting it as your fault.

You should listen to Spaceghost007. He is an authority on dealing with cheating wives. And yours is one of the worst of the worst.

Move on with divorce, she is blatantly unrepentant. She is telling you to your face she screwed another man in your marital bed, and if you don't accept that, then your a bastard. That logic is seriously flawed and you should never accept it. She has no remorse, and even seems to still feel entitled to her affair, I'm sure her rotten girlfriends see to that, so leave her to her girlfriends and her rotten attitude, and divorce her. Stay strong.

Gary...SpaceGoast007 weighing in---WOW. Plug his link into your browser & see how he handled the s**t storm he was dealt.

http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=552588

You are doing the best you can. Hang in. Sending you my prayers.

Save every abusive text and email. Do not have contact without a VAR going this entitled nut thinks she can bully anyone. She will soon learn otherwise.

Get ready for a new level of crazy

Gary...SpaceGoast007 weighing in-WOW. Plug his link into your browser & see how he handled the s**t storm he was dealt.

Pfffft!

You look out for you Gary.

Stay strong, take care

MOB

[This message edited by MadOldBat at 4:12 PM, May 4th, 2016 (Wednesday)]

Gary, people here like you. We do. Re-read this thread. You're sitting at the popular kids' table (LOL). Folks here dig you man.

Some here would say that having Spaceghost weigh in with advice is like getting a batting tip from George Brett.

Good golly! What a flurry from the WW. So sorry you're in this. So, she's pissed you're standing up for yourself? Imagine if you'd been fucking around on her in the community. Sorry. Couldn't help myself. True colors are showing.

She gave you nothing you needed. Nothing but "me, me, me"

Be strong bud. You're doing good.

Well there's the rage (with a lot of guilt thrown in for good measure).

Two words: Emotional dysregulation. Sheesh.

She's really going to try and push your buttons. Be prepared. Keep your cool. Don't be emotionally blackmailed by her. It's clear she is going to use guilt against you. Don't let her.