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Ahh yes, the "romance" and "love" in an A. Stairways, cars, behind the dumpster. How on earth people believe the fantasy of "love" coupled with the reality of an A is difficult to fathom.

O.M.G.!

I am supposed to believe that the one and only time they had sex was at her ex/AP's home, er, her elderly mother's home (AP was 59 at the time and lived there because she can't handle a place of her own) on the one and only day they spent there that her mother was home! Apparently after my wife finished a long-winded tour of the place with AP's mother (who did not like her the 14 years that they were together), AP pulled her into her bedroom stating she hadn't gotten her hug yet (gr-r-r, she got hugs!), and planted a big ol' deep-tongue kiss on my wife. My wife said she responded "Ew-w-w, who have you been kissing?" before she kissed her back. I guess she had to refresh her memory on how they used to kiss or something. Must have been some kiss, because AP stripped naked, climbed on the bed, spread her legs, and asked "Would you?" meaning, oral sex. [Deep breath now . . . ] And my very wayward, stupid, selfish, cheating wife obliged. She said after a couple minutes her ex tap-tap-tapped her on top of her head and said it wasn't working. I guess they agreed from then on that there was no spark and agreed to "just be friends." Of course, that included kisses and cuddling on the couch, even though my wife claims there were no more sexual encounters.

Good-god what a horrible image that leaves in my mind. Diving into that while her ex's mother is sitting just a few feet away in the living room watching reruns of who-knows-what.

That, and the disgusting image of my wife in the bathroom afterward, washing her ex off her face.

Mostly at OM’s House. His wife worked days, he worked nights. His kids were at school all day. He basically had the whole house to himself from about 8-3 everyday. That’s how he was able to have so many fuck buddies. They also banged once in our minivan, because his wife was unexpectedly home that day. They parked in some woods on a back road and screwed in the van she drives my children in everyday. Apparently the van sex didn’t work out very well. Classy.

Let’s see...several different parks, during the day, in his truck or her minivan. They did step it up a notch and WH got them a room at a chain hotel where they spent the morning one day. Thinking of telling WH to take me to all the various places and we’ll have sex, like they did, in broad daylight in public. My guess is he’d tell me “no”. Not sure I could even stoop that low but I’d really like to “take back” all those places that continue to trigger me on a daily basis!

They did step it up a notch and WH got them a room at a chain hotel where they spent the morning one day. Thinking of telling WH to take me to all the various places and we’ll have sex, like they did, in broad daylight in public. My guess is he’d tell me “no”. Not sure I could even stoop that low but I’d really like to “take back” all those places that continue to trigger me on a daily basis!

What's stopping you?? Sex is fun, go have fun. I'd want/did want exactly the same thing, I think it's totally normal, especially if you want to have some "broad daylight parking lot sex" like I do/did.

In a red tent. She hated camping. But, this was a fetish / fantasy.

The night they went physical they sat on a blanket on the beach and then moved it to the hotel room. ( I believed with a group on a running trip, but she booked them into a room on their own)...then it was BJs in cars for 2 months following. His car, her car and her work ute (at a railway car park, at the airport lookout, in the local shopping centre carpark).

I now get triggered at the beach, near the airport, driving past the supermarket carpark. I also cannot go in his car. It also grates on my soul that their first hookup was interstate. My home state. Of all places

God, all these places are so predictable. I've been reading and laughing to myself about the 'unique' love going on.

My fWH really excelled himself. We live in a beautiful part of the world, with lots of hills, lakes and coastline. My fwh and AP started the A running around in lots of these hills. Now when we go out and about I can spot all the hills where she gave him a BJ. Very nice. They also used a few laybys. They used our car, and her car. Her car is the one she uses to transport her 3 kids. It is full of nappies, rotten fruit, and stinks of sh*t. How romantic! They also used my sofa, in my house, whilst I was in hospital. They used her house a couple of times. AP's house is one of the filthiest places I've ever been to. Her and her family are the only people I know that caught a rare disease from dog faeces. The front room where they frolicked stinks of piss as her children have pissed all over the floor. They used a travelodge. They used a Premier Inn. They managed to go upmarket with an Airbnb for their final f*ck. It's all so pathetic. It actually makes me laugh when I look at what he was willing to go through for a BJ and some sex. AP is trash tier though.

AP#1? I'm not really sure. He said he went to her apartment, but who knows.

AP#2 They started making out and heavy petting on her front porch, she gave him a bj in her car, then she left OBS and got a hotel, so they screwed there, until she found an apartment, then it continued there.

[This message edited by doigoordoistay at 11:13 AM, July 26th (Thursday)]

Always at her home that she shared with her husband.

Either during their lunch hour or later in the afternoon before her husband came home

Not sure if there were any BJ's in the car or not. I didn't ask, but my H is kinda weird about doing shit in a car but who knows.

The can only speak about the APs I know of, so here it goes:

OM1 Guest Bed

MOM2 His House

OM3 Couch

OW1 Her House (x1 or x2 depending on which story WH tells)

OM4 His House

An unknown # of “rub and tugs” by on the way home from or work. And at least two other APs at their house (Google confirms, WH denies...)

[This message edited by CurseBreaker at 1:28 PM, July 26th (Thursday)]

OW1’s barracks room

OW2 was fucked in his hotel room on the night before he returned home from a military leadership course

In the family van, on my children’s blankets and pillows.

OW house and hotels on 3 or 4 business trips she went to with him..

My WW's ONS was at a party (I was out of the country) and the guy basically asked her "want to F?"...and she did....in a carport, how romantic

The irony for this was we had just fought about me not committing to marriage. We fought then I left the country for the weekend. While away, and basically the exact same time she had her ONS, I was propositioned by two women to join in a threesome...I was 21. I said thanks but no thanks.

Her PA was one time, at the POSOM apartment. Once done, he almost rushed her out the door, again, how romantic.

The floor and couch in my house.

Behind a trashy bar behind a dumpster, not in a car.

Behind our old workplace, in her car.

His work, in the bathroom.

His work, in the warehouse.

His work, in someone else's office, on their desk and in their chair.

In a car in a car wash.

Its all so disgusting.

I guess it pretty much begins and ends for me with "in our bed". Actually I think that was the subject of my first post here, what seems like years ago (but was January).

ETA I probably should have listened to those who said that such a sign of disrespect was nearly impossible to overcome. In the end, it was.

[This message edited by Lazarus at 1:47 PM, July 26th (Thursday)]

I'm not sure if I said this already in this thread but will say it again because of the shock factor it has on me.

My WS and his whore MOW had sex on my son's little full size bed with a Pixar Cars blanket.

Doesn't get much sicker than that

My WS and his whore MOW had sex on my son's little full size bed with a Pixar Cars blanket.

Wow, that might take the cake.

I guess it pretty much begins and ends for me with "in our bed". Actually I think that was the subject of my first post here, what seems like years ago (but was January).

That's the common "take the cake" one. What level of hate/disrespect does that take?

This is an interesting topic. GLad to know I wasn't the only one who was curious where this all took place lol.

I know my WW and her AP had sex, a lot, get ready,

Our house

His house

His pool

His trampoline

Showers ours and his house

They also worked together so, everywhere at their work

Also they would meet up for lunch at Walmart, Atwoods, the public park etc. Pretty much where ever they could get to for quick stuff.

I know I am either screwed up or it will hit me later but these details didn't bother me as much. For some reason the physical side of it wasn't what hurt the most. It was the emotional connection. Don't get me wrong, it hurts like crazy that my wife was deceiving me this whole time but the actual physical act of sex does not hit me as hard as the other stuff.

Oh yeah, we were over at their house for a 4th of July BBQ with about 30 people and while everyone was outside swimming and having fun, they snuck into his bathroom for a BJ and quickie all because this asshole was leaving for two weeks the next day for a family vacation to Hawaii

That one kind of pisses me off.

One though that makes me laugh, because sometimes laughing helps people just saying, we were over at their house chaperoning an after prom party for a bunch of high school kids and my job was the official cock blocker. I even had shirts made. I stood outside while the kids were in the pool and hot tub just to make sure there wasn't no funny stuff. Later on that night the kids were upstairs watching a movie and again, my job is to make sure no shenanigans take place and my WW snuck downstairs and gave him a BJ. Reason why I say it made me laugh is because I felt so good about myself that I cock blocked a bunch of high school kids in the days after and felt I accomplished my mission. Only to find out now, I failed miserably lol.

I know, screwed up, but it got me chuckling.