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PricklePatch ( member #34041) posted at 5:11 AM on Wednesday, July 11th, 2018
lilies21 ( member #35833) posted at 1:44 PM on Wednesday, July 11th, 2018
(((ZenMumWalking and DS)))
Mojo sent!
Me: BS, 30s.
One son.
Many D-Days for excessive porn, Craigslist ads, and EAs/PAs.
Happily divorced since September 2015.
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 3:30 PM on Wednesday, July 11th, 2018
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
Chaos ( member #61031) posted at 5:23 PM on Wednesday, July 11th, 2018
Sending mojo, strength, hugs and everything else I can muster for you and DS.
BS-me/WH-4.5yrLTA Married 2+ decades-2 adult children. Multiple DDays w/same LAP until I told OBS 2018- Cease & Desist sent spring 2021 "Hello–My name is Chaos–You f***ed my husband-Prepare to Die!"
Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 5:27 PM on Wednesday, July 11th, 2018
MOJO MOJO MOJO and hugs
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
deena04 ( member #41741) posted at 10:23 PM on Sunday, July 15th, 2018
Thinking of you all. I hope these guys are caught and severely reprimanded. Serial criminals need that.
Me FBS 40s, Him XWS older than me (lovemywife4ever), D, He cheated before M, forgot to tell me. I’m free and loving life.
ZenMumWalking (original poster member #25341) posted at 7:51 PM on Monday, July 16th, 2018
Short update:
DS went back to the police again on Friday. Another man was attacked. Thank goodness he reported. As far as we know, this makes 1 woman and 3 men (including DS).
They asked him some more questions, showed him some more pictures. The police believe that they have narrowed down the area where these attacks are initiated. They are trying to find the car.
They wouldn't give a lot of other information, but then one of the police officers said to DS that she was sorry it was taking them so long. I think that was a very kind thing to say.
The police are taking this very seriously, it seems to me that they are devoting quite a lot of resources to these attacks.
DS went to his EMDR right after this, he said it was very helpful. I don't know very much about EMDR, but he told me it's a lot of work for him and he sweats a lot during it. The office has a sauna and shower that he can use afterwards.
DS and I also talked about how hard it was for men to report, and I mentioned again how brave he and these other men are for reporting. I told him that it used to be difficult for women as well, but that these days rape complaints are taken more seriously than they used to. I think that we have also evolved to where this is the case for men as well. Men have a whole different set of issues surrounding rape and I am so grateful for those who have stepped up to the plate.
In this country, until about 2 years ago there wasn't even a crime called 'rape' against a man, it was 'sexual assault'. I think it is important to put this kind of attack on the same footing as rape against a female. Using the term 'sexual assault' minimizes the actions of the attack (imho).
I am more hopeful than I have ever been that these fucking bastards will be caught. Once they are, their case should be a slam dunk (if anyone can say such a thing in the law). There is no jury trial, it is in front of 3 judges. And a room full of attack victims.
OK, this was longer than I thought it would be!! I guess the update part was short, the rest is just my musings on the whole situation.
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
DragnHeart ( member #32122) posted at 8:37 PM on Monday, July 16th, 2018
Well I'm sorry there's been another attack but dammit they will screw up and get caught. When they do I wish they could be put in a room with all their victims and just let happens happens. But alas....I'm old school lol. And today the criminal is treated better than the victim sometimes. Ugh!
I cannot think more highly of your DS than I do. Such an amazing man for all he has gone through and done. Hugs and prayers and mojo for both of you!!!
Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.
ZenMumWalking (original poster member #25341) posted at 9:35 PM on Monday, July 16th, 2018
Well I'm sorry there's been another attack
Sadly, I think this is what is helping to close in on them.
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
DragnHeart ( member #32122) posted at 10:09 PM on Monday, July 16th, 2018
I wonder if they could do a sting operation where a cop under surveillance goes to a bar. Wouldn't it just be the cats ass to have this creep try to attack a cop then get taken down but a bunch of them.
Breaks my heart that this vermin is getting away with more attacks.
Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.
thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 10:39 PM on Monday, July 16th, 2018
Yes, so sad that there has been another victim in this. I agree that it is very brave of them to have come forward like your son. I wonder how much the fear of disease that can be deadly adds to the mindset that they do report. I'm sure in many if not cases they need to overcome fear and embarrassment to do so besides.
Huge hugs to DS and all the victims of these attacks. There and anywhere. And MOJO for the police to close this ASAP. I'm glad your son received a compassionate sort-of apology for the time this is taking. They should be very thankful that he has continued to cooperate in the investigation.
Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?
Shockedmom ( member #44708) posted at 3:57 AM on Tuesday, July 17th, 2018
It breaks my hear that another person has been attacked by this serial rapist. Thank God for their strength in reporting the crime. You and your son are doing an amazing job of facing this head on. Hopefully the police find this sick person before another person is raped.
PricklePatch ( member #34041) posted at 5:41 PM on Tuesday, July 17th, 2018
Your DS is being very brave. Sending, mojo for,the capture of these animals.
caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 3:51 AM on Wednesday, July 18th, 2018
oh, ((((Mum)))
Sending strength and love.
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
ZenMumWalking (original poster member #25341) posted at 6:22 PM on Thursday, August 2nd, 2018
Police called again today, DS going in tomorrow. To me, this either means that they think they have caught the guys or there has been another attack. It's also possible that some other evidence has turned up from the previous attacks though.
I'm leaving in the morning to go to Japan, but I'm hoping that he will be done with them before I have to get on the long flight over.
Please send mojo for DS and for the police.
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
DragnHeart ( member #32122) posted at 7:01 PM on Thursday, August 2nd, 2018
Mojo mojo mojo!!! Praying they have caught the bastard.
More prayers and mojo for DS and you.
Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.
Bigger ( Attaché #8354) posted at 8:48 PM on Thursday, August 2nd, 2018
Every time you post I hope it’s to tell us the SOB have been caught.
Just give us a call and tell us where and when and your friends on SI will converge wherever you are with our torches, pitchforks, tar-and-feather….
"If, therefore, any be unhappy, let him remember that he is unhappy by reason of himself alone." Epictetus
StillStanding1 ( member #40144) posted at 11:07 PM on Thursday, August 2nd, 2018
Please, Lord, let these monsters be caught and punished.
Me: BS50s Him: WH50s
M 25 years - DD DS DS
LTA = 2+ yrs, Dday - 2/13, S for 1 year, now R
Shockedmom ( member #44708) posted at 11:29 PM on Thursday, August 2nd, 2018
Sending mojo his way! Hope this is finally a good sign that the attacker (s) have been identified and caught.
thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 3:37 AM on Friday, August 3rd, 2018
MOJO to DS that this is good news and MOJO that you get his good news in time to give you peace of mind for your trip.
Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?
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