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As always, thanks for the update.

I am glad he's doing so well, at least it sounds like he's doing well, after a horrible trauma.

DMW,

You sound wonderful as a supportive mom.

You’re both blessed to have each other.

My prayers for you both for justice and healing.

I'm glad that the two of you are getting some "normal" days again. And that you're able to be there for him, when he has those horrible nights.

And soon the both of you can enjoy seeing yet one more English club leave the competition...

Another mini-update: DS got another phone call from the police a few weeks ago, they want him to come in and look at some more stuff.

He only just told me about this, and I have a feeling that he is putting this off.

Anyway, I will start bugging him about it if it doesn't happen soon. I'm glad the police are still on it.

Awe I just want to hug you both. How is he eating/sleeping?

How are you doing?

And yes it's great that the police are still on it. From bgers crossed that they catch this creep.

Glad tests came back all clear.

I pray they catch that monster(s).

DMW--you are doing an amazing job supporting your DS through this. I just wanted to reach out and say that and I can only imagine how traumatic this is for you. Your DS is lucky to have you and we're all here for you in whatever way we can be. Is there a trauma counsellor where you are that may be able to help him? Just a thought.

His eating is normal - ie, he is eating me out of house and home!!

His sleeping is mostly ok. He only has occasional problems, but it doesn't seem to affect his functioning at school or cooking or exercising.

I think that he is stressed about going to the police again, but I am talking to him about how last time it went much better it went than he thought it would and how well he has done cooperating with them already.

He is still doing IC, once every 1-2 weeks depending on his school schedule. He's not taking the sleeping pills anymore and it seems that he doesn't need to.

Thanks guys for holding me up. There are times where it STILL doesn't seem real, you know? And then my mind goes racing to all the things that did happen, and all the things that could have happened but didn't, and I don't know how to feel about all of that. I am angry and devastated about what happened, and yet at the same time grateful that it didn't turn out even worse. Because it really could have.

The way you feel is exactly how you should feel. He was far from lucky, but he is still alive! THAT is ultimately what you both have to hang on to. Sometimes bad things just happen to good people. There's no fair or justice about it. The key thing is to pick yourself up, be gentle with yourself, and start slowly moving forward. Many of us on here have been raped. Some of us were consistently sexually abused. You CAN heal. He will still be able to have a wonderful life going forward, he just needs to heal first. Ask me how I know. He has you, which is more than what I had when I was a child and young adult. I wish I did have you or someone like you in my life when I was so broken.

Hugs DMW for both of you!

I can't imagine his pain...or yours.

From across the sea, there are those of us who think of you often.

Much love to you both. 😘😘😘😘😘😘

Get the message across to him that the last time he went was the tough-time. That was when they had to tick the box in the investigation where they doubted his story. Had to do it, didn’t want to do it but HAD to do it. One of the main reason being to be able to tell a judge that they also investigated possible false-claims.

NOW they believe him.

NOW they want him in because there is progress.

NOW they are working WITH him.

NOW they are working FOR him.

ANY help he can offer = maybe 2-3 months from now there won’t be another young man in his shoes.

He’s going in there as part of a team – not as a subject or suspect.

I'm so sorry. Recently my mother was raped. It really does affect everyone, not just the victim. He's blessed to have you in his corner. Stay strong, many prayers.

I have nothing to add other than I am so sorry.

My prayers are with you all.

DS is planning to go visit with the police this weekend. Mojo much appreciated!!

Thanks guys.

Ok. Good to know.

Of course it will be unbearably hard...but perhaps one step closer to catching this monster!

Huge hugs to you and DS!!!!!

Sending mojo to (((you and DS)))

I was literally just thinking about you guys and logged in to see if there were any updates! Major (belated) mojo and hugs!

How did the police go? Thinking of you guys.