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I had dropped the kids off a couple days ago and I wasnt talkative. She text me after saying

"Why were you all short and whatever. Is everything ok?"

Double fuck you bitch...lol. I showed my mom when she came over today and she was pretty flabergasted. She may be acting normal for a WW, but this is not how you treat people. When you treat people badly there are consquences. Her biggest consequence is she doesnt get me. She may not realize it now, but I was the best thing that ever happened to her. I will find a person worthy of my love.

[This message edited by RockstarDad at 6:25 PM, January 6th (Saturday)]

She text me after saying

"Why were you all short and whatever. Is everything ok?"

Typical cheater script. They blow up your marriage, life and family and then expect friendship?

Just because they serve you a shit sandwich doesn't mean you have to eat it.

Text or email kids/D only. Short and civil nothing more. Never answer phone calls direct. Anything not related to kids/business no reply.

Pickups/drop offs should be a 5 minute exercise with zero engagement.

Do this for yourself and you'll be fine. Only you can keep yourself in this. No one else has control over you.

The STBXW really is clueless.

Did she think you were going to chat over a cup of ☕️ coffee?

Wow! She needs to have a reality check. And soon.

Look at it this way, she appears to be batshit insane. The affair was the best thing that ever happened to you.

You were living with blinders for so long but now you have the (albeit painful) blessing of seeing what she really is.

I guess in a way maybe...

I was so in love and happy with the situation that doing all the stuff never bothered me.

If I am honest...I would love to to feel the way I did again. Having a happy family was everything, but it can be be better. I can have some help.

I was always exhausted. I am exhausted for other reasons but even with 2 kids 80 percent of the time, the house is cleaner...more shit is getting done.

With ambien. And meatonin and a half a cocktail I get some sleep.

I was so in love and happy with the situation that doing all the stuff never bothered me.

Download or buy "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie and start reading like yesterday. You can have a better life than that.

What I predict for your future is...

Within the year or two timeframe you find a wonderful woman. She becomes the stable mom our kids will need. When the kids hit teen years and can determine who the live with, it will be you.

Your WW will be in and out of relationships unless she gets the help she needs.

I ordered the book.

STBEW and Ahole musta went out and got bombed last night. Both there cars were gone last night. Hers was in the driveway this morning. They must have taken one back from the bars. Good for them. Keep getting bombed and not dealing. I actually could care less what they do, but there not dealing and immaturity is nice to see.

Meanwhile I have lost 25 pounds eating right. 20 more to go and then I start to build up the muscle :)

I hope that is the future. Looking forward to misses right, my 10 outa 10, but thinking of getting back in the dating scene is intimidating not gonna lie.

Ran into my 9yo biological father. He is a semifunctional and drinks too much. He was hung over when I saw him. His ex had cheated in him and then her AP sexually assaulted his daughter. He is in prison now. Bio dad worked with my stbew and had dated after his divorce and she got pregnant shortly there after.

So bio dad was supposedly told, but found out she didnt really tell him anything. He said he was not surprised given her character. Agreed to remain quiet till after the divorce and then he will just deal with me after.

[This message edited by RockstarDad at 11:40 AM, January 7th (Sunday)]

Still following this thread religiously, way to go rockstar!! I noticed the comment about losing weight and getting ready to pack on the muscle, if you need any help with a bodybuilding and nutrition plan pm me, I'll be glad to help!💪🏻

Appreciate the offer. Screwed up my back a little so no really hard workouts right now. I was 601 240. Going to hit sub 200 and then lift heavy. Wasnt in horrible shape but going to get in great shape now. Quiting smoking to, but thats not going to be all cold turkey. Going to be me 2.0. Same dude, better shape and better habits. Dont need to change everything, just a couple tweaks.

I cant pm yet but will hit ya up later. Doung weekly meal prep. Low carb fish and chicken with vegetablea. Just eating real lean and healthy.

That's a great start man, I know the quitting smoking thing is a bitch, I had quit for 8 years then the stress got me and I started again, what a dumbass! But it sounds like you got a good hold on your nutrition, don't forget the healthy fats like avocado and nuts, and as far as supplementing goes, I can help you with that too. Rock on!🤘🏻

[This message edited by Holdfastdad at 12:17 PM, January 7th (Sunday)]

Meanwhile I have lost 25 pounds eating right. 20 more to go and then I start to build up the muscle :)

Stellar job! I did the same thing after DDay. Dropped 50# and became very disciplined with my workout. Went on a cruise over the holidays and I won't lie, it felt real good to hear the comments about how good I look. I think it surprised WW, who has never been good at giving me compliments. I'm 58 years old, but people usually guess my age at around 45.

You're going to be fine. Just beware. While you're making all of these improvements, WW is in a spiral. You're going to begin looking very attractive to her at some point. That will require some strength from you to resist.

If I am honest...I would love to to feel the way I did again

Me too, brother. Me too. But you have to remember that it wasn't real.

Great job. 180 no matter.

Join a new gym. Sign up for MMA or start running. You’ll meet new people and get in shape. Win win.

I hope I do look attractive to her. If I have a weak moment I will remember her coming home from work the day after I found out. I tried talking to her as she walked into the bathroom and primped herself up with makeup and then said she had to go accross the street. Huh, really bitch.

Or the next day when she vs walked across the street back here to watch the kids with her hair messed up like she had been fucking all night and smirked as she walked in the door. I aint going to forgive her for that...ever. My wife died, this bitch just looks like her.

I tried talking to her as she walked into the bathroom and primped herself up with makeup and then said she had to go accross the street. Huh, really bitch.

Or the next day when she vs walked across the street back here to watch the kids with her hair messed up like she had been fucking all night and smirked as she walked in the door. I aint going to forgive her for that...ever. My wife died, this bitch just looks like her.

Pretty bad but use that to harden your 180 no contact resolve.

It's your best path right now.

Will do.

Realize I got some anger left reading over my posts. Its way more controllable now though. No more punching doors or screaming in the car. I dont want to stay angry forever, but for now I will use it to motivate me. Fuel for the 180, fuel for the everyday tasks and fuel to be the fucking man for my kids.

Get the D quick while she's wanting out. What she's in will get old quickly. Then she'll be changing her tune and wanting more.

Dude, you are my fuckin hero