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"you are a bad father"

After all what I have done and still do

You are a bad father

I slapped the shit out her face she nearly

got knocked out

Call me anything and everything under the sun no problems

NEVER DOUBT MY LOVE AND DEDICATION TO MY KIDS

Max,

You are a better man than I. I probably would have done more than slap. As you are right, no one gets to doubt your fatherhood.

Raised by a man who told me

Your kids are what you're worth in life

Fail them and you're WORTHLESS

[This message edited by max2018 at 9:19 AM, March 29th (Friday)]

If it will make you feel better, go have sex with someone else...get over it...

SHes a nice girl...

I don't even know her name...he hired her..he worked with her..he traveled with her...took her to lunch often...office parties...

SHe must be on drugs, I don't know why she was trying to kiss me in front of you...

All lies...time has passed...I have learned so much about cheating, cheaters, NPD, and alcoholism...I can look back and remember the insanity...and really see he was more cruel then I even knew.

"She's a 61 year old woman and overweight!!!" The age was right, he lied about her weight ( go figure). I had already seen the pictures she sent him. Still have copies of them to this day, have copies of everything in case I ever need them.

I slapped the shit out her face she nearly

got knocked out

You are a better man than I. I probably would have done more than slap.

Gonna stand up to this one. Nope, nope, nope. Physical abuse is a hard, bright line. I realize that it can unfortunately happen in the heat of passion, but justifying/excusing/bragging/cheering about it it afterwards? NO. WAY.

And yes, I'm a WW, so I realize you may flame me for commenting. At least I know you can't reach through the screen and slap the shit out my face.

[This message edited by BraveSirRobin at 9:31 AM, March 29th (Friday)]

Women here...

I slapped the shit out my husband when I found out that he took my kids to OW's house.

Not sorry at all.

Couldn't care less who wants to judge me.

When I relayed the story to his mother...I told her " I slapped him. and I am proud of myself for only doing that. He deserved worse."

I give no fucks about she or anyone else felt about it

[This message edited by prissy4lyfe at 9:32 AM, March 29th (Friday)]

I heard a bunch of lines but mostly ILYBINILWY speech.

I vividly remember him telling me “she’s a good person” Hahahaha!!!! Really?!

His ego was so big during his Affair I don’t know how the two of us fit in the same house.

Funny how now I’m the best thing since sliced bread.

This is basically my story with the pronouns changed.

One of the most hurtful things she ever said to me was during the affair.

She told me that she felt like I had raped her.

That's a tough pill to swallow for anyone. I've never hurt anyone purposefully.

After I found out by reading her secret emails, she told me that it wasn't her but someone else with the same name.

She then tried to tell me that I had brought it all on myself.

Then she just totally denied anything ever happened. It didn't matter that I had everything she'd been emailing right in front of me.

Then later we see the POS in his police car going past us in the opposite direction. I noticeably got upset. She said to me, but I didn't choose him, I chose you.

I made it abundantly clear that I was doing the choosing and that I was the prize.

prissy4lyfe

You abusive horrible person

He was introducing them to the LUV OF HIS LIFE

HOW COULD YOU

I have lots..As I am sure most of us do.

He told me that OW would be a good mother to our young children.

He told me that OW would be a good mother to our young children.

THE FUCK

Him (yelling through the door because he and OW are still naked in our bedroom): Go away, you’re making my daughters cry!

Me: Our daughters are crying because they just found out you’re cheating on the only mother figure they’ve known for the past 7 years.

Him: Fuck you, you’re no mother to them, I raised them all on my own!

Yeah, OUR daughters would beg to differ. Step or not, I raised those girls, and they know it.

Yeah LUV of his life....

When I pointed out that OW lived in a 2 bed apt with her father and her daughter but never spoke to her father. She never let her daughter sleep in the living room because he was a pilot and would get in at different hours without notice. She just didn't "trust" her father but never elaborated.

And where did my babies sleep...on the fucking sofa in the living room. His excuse " he was in there too". This man sleeps like the dead.

If the mans own daughter doesn't trust him....why would you leave my babies to potentially harmed!

I smacked him. And then called his mother to come get his ass because my blood was BOILING and would have done much worse if he stayed in my presence.

hurtful statement after she kept popping up in FB thread" "She isn't like that! She doesn't do drama!"

Fast forward 2-3 weeks later after he ghosted her. I have a very unique name IRL and I work at a university. She started calling my job. NONE STOP. People were coming into the office asking for me and then leaving. I had to have my information buried on the website. I had to have security walk me to car. And it was summer so my kids were in a day camp. I had to remove everyone including WH from the pick up list. I didn't want my kids to see her(because the had spent time with her) and leave with her. Or her say WH's name and the front desk let her take them.

She never let her daughter sleep in the living room because he was a pilot and would get in at different hours without notice. She just didn't "trust" her father but never elaborated

OK I THREW MY PHONE AFTER THIS ONE

AND THEY SAY WSs CAN BE GOOD PARENTS

FUUUUCCCK

What hurt the most was his disregard for our son's feeling. He told me when he left that he and AP said it would look bad if he immediately moved in with her - they worked together - so he would go stay with our son. WTF - it's ok that his wife and kids know - but God forbid their co-workers know. He said it would make them look bad - well, if the shoe fits!

When he talked to our son the first time after he left he told him he just wanted to be happy - my son asked "what about my happiness?" - to which he replied "Welll, I guess I'm just an asshole." BINGO!!

He told me the kids would understand - they would want him to be happy and "they know how you can be." Told him the next time one of the kids came to me to when they needed something I would tell them "You need to talk to you Dad because we both know what a crappy mother I am." Also told him he could say I was a horrible wife - which he never mentioned in 30 years of marriage - but he was NEVER to tell me I was a bad mom.

I applaud max2018 - a slap on the face is NOTHING compared to the physical and emotional trauma of being cheated on and then blaming the A on you because they say you are a crappy parent. It took every ounce of self restraint I had not to hit him - only because he wasn't worth going to jail for domestic violence. I needed to be there for my kids - ironic coming from such a "crappy" mother.

It astounds me how they can act so concerned about their kids' welfare when they are the ones that are blowing their kids' world apart.

- “ILYBINILWY”...

- “He (AP) is suffering too”...

And when AP showed his true colors, and she wanted to break NC to go and confront him about one situation alone, and I told her "you go, this is over":

- “Why not? Are you not my friend?”

I answered to this one: “This (showing my ring) is not a friendship ring, this is a marriage ring”.

[This message edited by BetrayedPR77 at 12:55 PM, March 29th (Friday)]

She told me that I was too hard on her all those years. Mostly because I complained that she didn't pull her weight in the relationship. She worked a day and a half a week and stayed at home with the kids. I would have to come home from work, then clean the house because she "Got distracted and lost track of time". Funny how I never got to lose track of time. Now as a single mom, she has to be 100% responsible during her weeks. That means doing all those things I did quietly in the background, taking out the trash, cleaning up the house when no one was home, shovelling the drive, etc. Just life stuff. Now I do all that, take care of the kids, and work. And it goes smooth like butter. Her week is a shit show. Even the kids complain. Funny thing, this is the life she asked for.

"She was the best thing in my life this year." She was a subordinate who blew him at work, a job we had moved 1000 miles for. He started his affair right after we moved and our kids were early teens and miserable and I felt like I was failing them, trying to be 2 parents to them. He came home whistling and happy and invalidated all of there struggles. They were unhappy because they CHOSE to be unhappy - and he was choosing happy! He was behaving manically and weird - like his narc mother, putting on an over the top frenetically happy show. Disturbing.

Oddly, he had spent most of that year telling me that I was depending on him for my happiness (I wasn't) and that there is no joy to be found in searching for happiness in another person. It was a conversation that never made sense, but he yelled it at me often. Pure projection. He wasn't happy and his affair wasn't making him happy either.

It still stings, 5 years later.

Northerngal

What does he say now ?

Wow, just wow. These stories. Tell me, how did we end up with these fucked up people? I wanna know cuz we must be pretty fucked up, too, for choosing them.