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Ok. another bomb just went off I have a gapping hole in my head. It feels like one thing after another.

Am I alone in this. ??

Right - Left - Right. Repeat until the end of time.

Events.

Unhappy marriage

Massive infidelity. Go big or go home I guess.

3 ddays

2 years of limbo and roller coaster. Ready to try again

Son suicidal At times.

Massive work restructure. Job is up in the air for 8 months

Covid. For us all

WH says he wants to end the marriage. Great timing dude. this past Sunday.

Start OLD exploration.

Massive cuts at work are pending for sure Now

stbxh lost his rental.

And has to move back into the house. Literally no options are available. He is not happy.

I know this is a pessimistic view. But really. Right now. All at once.

Feel like The gut punches keep coming.

Fuck.

I need a lot of wine and chips. i know there is a positive side to this. Maybe. Gonna have to dig really deep

If you eat a lot of Garlic it keeps vampires away so it should work on your WH too I’d think.

He may reside with you but doesn’t mean you are his wife.

Act like he’s not there.

And he wants out of the marriage - I don’t believe you are obligated to take him back.

Get a financial separation agreement in place now.

He sleeps on the couch. Or the basement. Or the garage.

No meals for him. No laundry done for him. No favors or errands or any type of kindness. Let him know this is a financial crisis/ arrangement only.

^^^what The1stWife said.

And Marz

Do you have to let him back?

Only this past weekend he wanted out, he didn’t want to snuggle up for the Covid lockdown,

All of a sudden there is no other option?

Have you got a shed?

What about the dog house?

Forget the wine, grab something much stronger 🍹

Hugs lovie

[This message edited by BigBlueEyes at 2:33 PM, April 3rd (Friday)]

I don't know about where you live, but in most places, you can't be kicked out of a rental that abruptly. I would think he could get at least 60 days before lockout, and probably much longer. Even criminal proceedings are being held over due to closed offices, so a sheriff is unlikely to prioritize an eviction during a pandemic. If you let him back in, it may be hard to get rid of him for the same reasons.

Want to echo my agreement. Do the hard 180. Do what you can to get rid of him...

I feel for you TG— it just sucks all around.

He made the choice to cheat, he made the choice (during this Covid mess) to want to exit the relationship. I think he should have to deal with the consequences of his actions.

Hold your boundaries, look after you and your alone, and let me know if you need more wine.

Sending mojo for the whole thing, especially the job situation.

((((Tallgirl)))

The financial agreement is a great idea. Especially as he may lose his job.

Good ideas all

Must find a lawyer fast.

I hate this and I am chipless.

He rents a room in a house. Not sure if that applies. He has to be out I think end of May. We are talking tonight. I have talked to him a lot for getting a divorce.

I am trying to shift my head to being single. Now this. Argh.

He really has nowhere to go. I keep suggesting that now he can be with his prostitute. It is not going over so very well.

I sense another sleepless 4 months.

TG, I wouldn't trust at all that his rental fell through. Sounds like a new OW kicked him out when she realized he was no longer bringing in an income. Can't he stay with friends or family? Does he have savings to get another short term rental or even a longterm stay at a hotel?

I believe she really is only renting him a room. But what do I know.

I have been wrong about so many things.

Money is tight.

No friends. Just us.

I think Marz has some of the "Yogi Berra" genes

If you eat a lot of Garlic it keeps vampires away so it should work on your WH too I’d think.

Why not rent him a room!?

We made too many wrong mistakes.

Yogi Berra

I'm hope the wind comes around to your aft quarter -

He does not know one other person???

End of May? He has two months to find a cheap AirBnB. No way you should agree to this. It is not a sound decision, and it's not your problem. Don't allow this.

No is a complete sentence.

Why would you want to make his problem yours?

You really don’t need a hopium addiction.

That’s all this is.

If I save him now “he’ll get it finally”!!!

Um, not really. I don’t think this’ll end like a Disney movie.

I’m in Brazil on a rural property with my house and a guest house. Divorce is stalled because of this pandemic and shut down of everything. My STBXWH is freaking out thinking this is the end of the world just like he predicted. He currently lives in a nearby city with my older sons. He has told me he is thinking of moving back in to our guest house. Because the court is not in session, I have no recourse. He says this is his property and he can do what he wants. This had me really scared for a few days until I talked with my counselor who said that I need to take charge if I can’t prevent him, and lay down the rules with him, if he ends up coming back. You need to do the same. I have had to call the police on my STBXWH last time he lived here. I will tell him that if he doesn’t abide by my rules, I’ll call the police again. Of course, they took an hour to get here last time.....so....

If you are not legally required to let him back, I would not do it. Please check with an attorney ASAP.

Maybe the positive side is that you finally let him face the consequences for his choices.

Financially I understand the hole you are in. Is his job up in the air or yours or both?

Maybe having him live with you is detrimental to your child.

I just would explore every option before allowing him to return to your residence. You need to do what is best for you.

it's not your problem

Exactly! He left you. You are under no obligation to help him even if he ends up homeless. Guess he should've thought of that before he left.

He's out. Do NOT let him back in.

Guess he should've thought of that before he left.

Also, he probably should have thought about that before letting his dick wander. Just sayin.