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Would you ever get married again?

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elKAPPYtan posted 11/14/2019 18:25 PM

My dad has been married 4 times now. after his third failed marriage he told me he is never getting married again. I think if he met his 4th wife first he would have never divorced


I am confident I will never marry again after this. I don't feel like men benefit from marriage, and this one has left a rotten taste. I also wish that I never married my WW, moving in with her and raising our daughter? fine. what is the point of marriage these days?

PSTI posted 11/14/2019 18:32 PM

Marriage, to me, is about making a public commitment that you want to have someone as your life partner.

I'm a hopeless romantic. Yes, I did get married again. Was it the smartest decision on paper? No. But I'm okay with that. My husband is a wonderful man and an amazing partner and co-parent. I feel so lucky to have him in my life.

Marriage, to me, is not just a piece of paper. I wanted to show him that I value him that much, to tie my life to his. That I'm committed to making our relationship work.

Did my ex leave a bad taste in my mouth about relationships? Yup, once bitten twice shy. But I don't think it's reasonable to treat other people worse because my ex was a douchebag.

Still have stars in my eyes for my husband now :)

Chrysalis123 posted 11/14/2019 18:33 PM

I never say never...but, Something earth shattering would have to happen for me to marry again.

1. I have only been married once for 18 years and it was not a good experience. And after I filed for divorce it was complete hell for 9 years.

2. I am 60, and at this point what is the point in remarrying? I would lose financially, and unless I spent money to protect my assets I would risk my children's inheritance if I married again.

3. Divorce is expensive and stressful and why would I risk going through that again?

4. I can see no benefit at all to marrying. Is there a benefit at my age?

You are so much younger. One day you may want children and the protection marriage would provide their mother and them. I think it is certainly an interesting question.

silverhopes posted 11/14/2019 18:37 PM

Who in hell would want to marry me? I'm a mentally ill single mother who doesn't know how to wear makeup and who weighs 190 lbs. According to society, I'm not a catch. So, that would be a no, I doubt that'll be happening, if indeed my H ever grants me an on-paper divorce, which is getting way ahead of myself right now. I'm just happy walking away from the abusiveness, I don't care about what's on paper.

Anyway, that's OK. I have my son, and I have my own company (plus the voices). I'll be fine.

Darkness Falls posted 11/14/2019 18:40 PM

Yes.

crazyblindsided posted 11/14/2019 18:40 PM

No

cancuncrushed posted 11/14/2019 18:49 PM

Iím not sure. At first it was hell no. And as time passes and I find myself again. I remember itís what I wanted most. Ever. I hate that my dream has been ruined for me. I have times of loneliness. Iím 61. This isnít fair. I didnít ruin his dreams.

Iím so afraid of a repeat. Itís getting very hard to find nice people. Maybe companionship. It took years to realize Ex Wh was Npd. Literally years. Thatís scary. Thatís very scary.

DashboardMadonna posted 11/14/2019 19:07 PM

Hell no. There isnt a point. I'm done having children.

My entire life, I've been abused, I'm an easy target. I need to learn how to love myself...I'm not quite sure that is possible. Its depressing, but statistics are not in my favor.

EllieKMAS posted 11/14/2019 19:14 PM

I never say never. But I would definitely not ever get married again without a huge prenup with a cheating clause in it.

Can't picture it right now TBH.

Bleu posted 11/14/2019 19:24 PM

Absolutely!

I picked the wrong person for the job.

OrdinaryDude posted 11/14/2019 19:45 PM

Married? Hell no.

Doesnít mean I wouldnít have a lady friend though.

WhoTheBleep posted 11/14/2019 20:26 PM

It's not something I'm looking for, and I can be completely happy never marrying again.

That said, my heart is softening a bit. Therefore, I am changing my "never again" to "never say never."

Maudlin posted 11/14/2019 20:42 PM

No way. I am building a strange mobile life for myself and I canít imagine ever finding anyone who will want that with me, Iíll never compromise what I want or who I am again for a man. Marriage is about compromise a lot of the time, and I no longer have it in me.

Tallgirl posted 11/14/2019 20:45 PM

No, prefer a pet.

Striver posted 11/14/2019 21:08 PM

Really unlikely. I see no point.

I am dedicated when I marry. Others are not. If they are not, they will still lie and say they are, so I won't be able to tell.

BrokenheartedUK posted 11/14/2019 21:20 PM

Maybe. Which is more than I ever thought Iíd say. An ironclad prenup would have to proceed it. But Iím definitely considering it. I have an amazing SO. But Iím incredibly cautious.

Time and work and optimism are powerful forces. I would never look at entering a marriage again without due thought and consideration but that isnít a bad thing. Iím much better at being forthright and forthcoming to myself and others as to what I need and am looking for. In my 20ís I skipped into the whole thing like someone barrelling into a glass door.! I feel Iíve learned some hard lessons. Does that protect me from future pain?? No. But I donít want to live a life that would.

The1stWife posted 11/14/2019 21:23 PM

No one is getting their hands on my $ or assets. I know there are pre nups but I do not want to be legally bound to anyone.

[This message edited by The1stWife at 12:34 PM, November 15th (Friday)]

Phoenix1 posted 11/14/2019 21:23 PM

I used to be in the firm "no" camp. Now, I am open to the idea. That does NOT mean I am ready to jump in! I'm perfectly content not being married.

I've been with my SO for six years. We live an hour apart, and often go weeks between seeing each other. It currently works for us. We both get our alone time. But who knows what the future holds! 🤷‍♀️

Smjsome1 posted 11/14/2019 21:48 PM

Nope nope nope

20yrsagoBS posted 11/14/2019 22:20 PM

Hell no

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