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 thatbpguy (original poster member #58540) posted at 4:32 PM on Tuesday, December 10th, 2019

Realistic and unrealistic. I know we all want healthy marriages...., but I am posting this for the materialist within us.

Unrealistic: a Dawn. [hint- it's a car, do a Google image search]

Realistic: Package tray for my Ford Escape

[This message edited by thatbpguy at 10:35 AM, December 10th (Tuesday)]

ME: BH Her: WW DDay 1, R; DDay 2, R; DDay 3, I left; Divorced Remarried to a wonderful woman

"There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind." C.S. Lewis

As a dog returns to his vomit, so a fool repeats his folly...

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Chaos ( member #61031) posted at 5:06 PM on Tuesday, December 10th, 2019

Unrealistic - AP's head on a silver platter [a la CreepShow] presented to me by WH

Realistic - slippers and fuzzy socks

BS-me/WH-4.5yrLTA Married 2+ decades-2 adult children. Multiple DDays w/same LAP until I told OBS 2018- Cease & Desist sent spring 2021 "Hello–My name is Chaos–You f***ed my husband-Prepare to Die!"

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landclark ( member #70659) posted at 5:42 PM on Tuesday, December 10th, 2019

Unrealistic: All of the dept 56 Harry Potter village pieces

Mid-tier Realistic: Perfume (Gucci Bloom)

Realistic: Fuzzy socks (I love them) and an iTunes gift card (I have a movie problem)

Me: BW Him: WH (GuiltAndShame) Dday 05/19/19 TT through AugustOne child together, 3 stepchildrenTogether 13.5 years, married 12.5

First EA 4 months into marriage. Last ended 05/19/19. *ETA, contd an ea after dday for 2 yrs.

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landclark ( member #70659) posted at 5:43 PM on Tuesday, December 10th, 2019

Unrealistic - AP's head on a silver platter [a la CreepShow] presented to me by WH

You’re awesome.

Me: BW Him: WH (GuiltAndShame) Dday 05/19/19 TT through AugustOne child together, 3 stepchildrenTogether 13.5 years, married 12.5

First EA 4 months into marriage. Last ended 05/19/19. *ETA, contd an ea after dday for 2 yrs.

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Chaos ( member #61031) posted at 7:27 PM on Tuesday, December 10th, 2019

landclark Fuzzy socks are the freaking best!

BS-me/WH-4.5yrLTA Married 2+ decades-2 adult children. Multiple DDays w/same LAP until I told OBS 2018- Cease & Desist sent spring 2021 "Hello–My name is Chaos–You f***ed my husband-Prepare to Die!"

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sewardak ( member #50617) posted at 7:45 PM on Tuesday, December 10th, 2019

unrealistic - ALL my kids home for Christmas.

realistic -a day at the spa

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tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 8:53 PM on Tuesday, December 10th, 2019

Unrealistic - A week or three to Bonnaire to dive, spearfish, and get a sunburn.

Realistic- A new wedding band (I quit wearing my wedding ring many many years ago d/t the mount tearing non-latex gloves at work, since those days my arthritis has destroyed my knuckles and the ring needs resized, but I prefer a band) We went and picked out a channel set white gold 1/2K diamond band this weekend and it is out for sizing. I have been wearing a cheapo 10K gold band from Wal-Mart that I bought in late 90's, for $35.00.

Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.

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Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 9:27 PM on Tuesday, December 10th, 2019

Unrealistic: To have my son, brothers, and mother back. This time of year is hard, emotionally.

Realistic: A $10 gift card to my favorite local coffee shop. My DD's don't believe me when I tell them that is all I truly want!

fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!

You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~

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Chili ( member #35503) posted at 9:39 PM on Tuesday, December 10th, 2019

Unrealistic: The ability to eliminate huge lists this time of year. IOW: a quiet Christmas at home with dog and SO instead of the craziness of 2 different celebrations, traveling, shipping gifts all over the country, baking, candy-making with kidlets, and doing the shopping for several of the men in my life.

Realistic: a quiet day with just SO/pup (to include our gifts/stockings and a nice big fire in the fireplace). Hopefully sometime before the New Year...or maybe a long hot soaky bath. Or shelving for my new garage space. I'm not complicated!

2012 pretty much sucked.
Things no longer suck.
Took off flying solo with the co-pilot chili dog.
"Life teaches you how to live it if you live long enough" - Tony Bennett

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EllieKMAS ( member #68900) posted at 10:18 PM on Tuesday, December 10th, 2019

Unrealistic: xshitbag to get all the crabs and AP's tits to fall off.

Realistic: (Since my D is final in 3 days!!) PEACE and starting a new year with a clean slate.

"No, it's you mothafucka, here's a list of reasons why." – Iliza Schlesinger

"The love that you lost isn't worth what it cost and in time you'll be glad that it's gone." – Linkin Park

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dreamlife ( member #8142) posted at 10:20 PM on Tuesday, December 10th, 2019

Unrealistic: Its 1967 Summer of Love again in San Francisco.

Realistic: a massage

~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~

"He called me a bitch.
I called him an ambulance."
Linda H.)

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cptprkchp ( member #11719) posted at 10:43 PM on Tuesday, December 10th, 2019

Unrealistic - that all of your unrealistic wishes come true!

Realistic - that at least ONE person’s unrealistic wish comes true.

Edited to say - CHAOS - WHERE IS MY FATHER’S DAY CAKE?????

[This message edited by cptprkchp at 4:45 PM, December 10th (Tuesday)]

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StillLivin ( member #40229) posted at 12:01 AM on Wednesday, December 11th, 2019

Unrealistic, every single thing on my to do list completed by someone else for me.

Realistic, to accomplish the most important tasks on my to do list and then a nice massage!

"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB: 7/2/2014

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nightowl1975 ( member #32212) posted at 6:02 AM on Wednesday, December 11th, 2019

Unrealistic: Any gift other than whatever I buy myself

Realistic: I’ve bought myself a book, an umbrella, a few outfits, and I have a massage left on a package deal I got a few months back.

I do miss having someone buy me gifts of any kind, but not enough to seek out a partner. So, I buy my own stuff. Merry Christmas to me!

Me: 44
Ex: 52
D Day: 4/2010
Divorced: 7/2010

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ibonnie ( member #62673) posted at 6:23 AM on Wednesday, December 11th, 2019

Unrealistic: no gifts! At all! None!!!!! I have enough stuff, and I'm trying to declutter my life as it is. I find it more frustrating to have to find out how to donate and/or recycle what's been given to me, which most years is what I do with the majority of the tchotchkes I receive and extremly questionable sweaters and accessories my MIL gives me every year. It's gotten to the point where I loathe Christmas, because my WH has a large family, and they either go to the dollar store or CVS every year and buy our kids a ton of cheaply made plastic toys, and I know this makes me sound ungrateful, but when they break almost immediately, or they get the same racecar from three different people it's just... ugh. Please don't. Save your money, throw $5 in an envelope and I'll put it in the kid's piggy banks.

Realistic: two pairs of jeans and new sneakers.

[This message edited by ibonnie at 12:24 AM, December 11th (Wednesday)]

"I will survive, hey, hey!"

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Followtheriver ( member #58858) posted at 6:40 AM on Wednesday, December 11th, 2019

Unrealistic - to walk into every local animal shelter in my area and give a forever home to the dog that is always overlooked, never wanted and has been there way too long.

Realistic - to sponsor a few of these glorious fur babies, visit them, take them for walks, car rides and be their friend, until the day they finally get adopted or I win the lottery.

FWW
D-day 2015




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JanaGreen ( member #29341) posted at 6:45 AM on Wednesday, December 11th, 2019

Unrealistic: all the walls in my house painted and all the floors replaced

Realistic: some lowe's gift cards

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nscale56 ( member #60270) posted at 8:53 AM on Wednesday, December 11th, 2019

Unrealistic- A Nikon D5 with a full assortment of lenses and accessories.

Realistic- Tools lots of tools (every year I lose screwdrivers, pliers, wrenches etc.) also a stud finder.

"If it ain't broke you're not tryin'"
The mans prayer--"I'm a man, but I can change, if I have to, I guess"

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jadedangel ( member #26979) posted at 11:42 AM on Wednesday, December 11th, 2019

Unrealistic: For my bro in law to not have terminal cancer.

Realistic: Whatever my son and hubby get me is fine with me. Probably something DC Comic related or whatever tickles their fancy.

Divorced 2007.
EXWH died 2011
Remarried 2018!

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ShatteredSakura ( member #70885) posted at 1:56 PM on Wednesday, December 11th, 2019

I'm so sorry to hear about your BIL jaded angel

The first thought that popped in my head for unrealistic is the scene from the princess bride where Inigo Montoya fights the six fingered man. I want to fight infidelity itself and get my vengeance.

I don't really have a material realistic want to be honest (I'm hard to buy gifts for). But while looking for the above GIFs, I came across an interview of Mandy Patinkin telling a story that his character personally resonated with him...and it absolutely made my day to learn. He lost his father to cancer and imagined killing the six fingered man was him killing his father's cancer. I always loved his sub plot, but now that scene is even more powerful to me (I almost lost my mom to cancer).

[This message edited by ShatteredSakura at 8:07 AM, December 11th (Wednesday)]

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