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It's done!

Gablestitch posted 2/10/2021 11:10 AM

I received an email from my lawyer yesterday...everything was signed on the 4th so I've been divorced for almost a week and didn't know. I'll be speaking to my attorney later this week about the specifics but it looks like I got everything I asked for plus a bit. Based on the tone, I think I would have been given more if there was more.

I am trying to decide how to celebrate. I can't exactly go out and paint the town with COVID and having the kids all the time. Plus, how do you explain to kids mommy is celebrating her divorce from your daddy?

Honestly I'm just happy it's done and my lawyer is being very generous with settling my debts with him. On to the rest of my life!

grubs posted 2/10/2021 12:13 PM

I am trying to decide how to celebrate. I can't exactly go out and paint the town with COVID and having the kids all the time. Plus, how do you explain to kids mommy is celebrating her divorce from your daddy?

It's a Wonderful Wednesday works well enough. Congrats. Live your better life.

Anna123 posted 2/10/2021 12:55 PM

Whoo hoo! Congratulations! Treat yourself and the kids to a bunch of goodies you normally may pass on? (They don't have to know why you are so happy -- it's Valentines day coming up so attribute it to that :-) ? Just a Covid friendly idea.

EllieKMAS posted 2/10/2021 13:23 PM

Yay!! here's a virtual cake for you!!

barcher144 posted 2/10/2021 13:45 PM

Woo Hoo!

I wonder if Judges ever feel like Oprah:

You get a divorce! You get a divorce!

leafields posted 2/10/2021 14:20 PM

Congratulations!!

Popcorn & movie night or pizza?

Chili posted 2/10/2021 16:17 PM

Huge huge relief vibes sent your way GS.

One thing you can do is think about changing your SI sig line with something that suits....but do find a moment or two or three for yourself in all this somehow. Maybe even a quiet moment alone in a beautiful place with a to-go cuppa something warm. Acknowledge your own strength and goodness.

You will be extra fine with sprinkles on top.

The1stWife posted 2/10/2021 16:21 PM

To paraphrase Maury Povitch —you are NO LONGER his wife!!!!

Cue the cheers 🍻 and beers

BearlyBreathing posted 2/10/2021 17:45 PM

Great night! Enjoy the new found peace!!

squid posted 2/10/2021 17:53 PM

Woot!

Phoenix1 posted 2/10/2021 21:24 PM

Bittersweet congrats! Welcome to the other side. Breathe the fresh air.

Onward and upward!

barcher144 posted 2/11/2021 07:02 AM

I received an email from my lawyer yesterday...everything was signed on the 4th so I've been divorced for almost a week and didn't know.

Sorry to ask a probing question, but what took so long for your lawyer to contact you?

fareast posted 2/11/2021 19:30 PM

Congrats, I know it has been a long slog to get to this point with the POS exWH. He is such an asshat, even attacking your father physically. I hope you celebrate and feel a sense of relief. Best wishes for you and your family. You deserve the best.

Trust55 posted 2/11/2021 23:06 PM

Congratulations!🎉🍷

Gablestitch posted 2/12/2021 08:53 AM

Tag line changed. I think it still needs tweaked but it's better now.

Thank you to all that responded and read my posts.

Barcher, to answer your question, his office received the notice on Monday. He didn't see it until Tuesday when he emailed me. I didn't see his email until the day I posted. I know he normally has court time Mondays. He has been very good to me and has been very good at judging what he thinks the court will do. When there is pressing issues, he contacts me as soon as he's able, sometimes later at night or on the weekends. This isn't the first time the courts here have signed something but took days to actually inform my lawyer and myself.

But this process is so lengthy and expensive. I'm so glad it's over.

barcher144 posted 2/12/2021 09:03 AM

Barcher, to answer your question, his office received the notice on Monday. He didn't see it until Tuesday when he emailed me. I didn't see his email until the day I posted.

Oh good. He did let you know promptly.

This issue is a slight trigger for me. When the judge made his ruling on a Thursday in June 2019, he gave me 7 days to vacate the marital home.

My attorney's paralegal sent me the decision on Monday morning without comment; my attorney did not call me until Monday afternoon. Meaning, I was given 7 days to move out, but my shitty attorney#2 pissed away 4-5 of those days being asleep at the wheel. This will be part of my ethical complaint against her.

WhoTheBleep posted 2/12/2021 09:35 AM

Yaaaaayyy!!! This gives the rest of us hope! Onward!

Gablestitch posted 2/12/2021 09:43 AM

Fareast, I just saw your comment. He really is an asshat. My family is doing as well as can be during these times and happy to get this off our plates. Thank you for the thoughts.

Barcher, I remember your attorney troubles. I'm glad to see your new one is working out.

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