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J707, I am so happy she is recovering and so sad she, you and your family are struggling. She is lucky to have you, even though she cannot see that yet. YET... a very powerful word.

I hope can you somehow manage to do self care for yourself...you know: sleep, eat, laugh (not because this is funny but because you can't laugh and be in agony at the same moment), exercise, and breathe....repeat and also calm the fear and anxiety.

((((J7070))))

Her dark thoughts. Her writings. Her 16 page suicide note. Google history. Just blank stares now. I'm not ok. She isn't ok. Wtf. I know I'm strong but wow. Holy shit. I'll be with her every step of the way. She'll make it through this. I will too. Fucking Wow!

(((J707 family)))

(((J707)))

J man I am so incredibly sorry to hear this. Sending you and your family all my prayers and healing thoughts!

J- my daughter's best friend attempted suicide when she was 15.

She did inpatient for a few months. She's 23 now and though she still has her moments of anxiety, she's doing really well. She is still the light of our lives. She's happy and has much better tools for coping.

Keeping you and your daughter in my heart.

((((J707 and family)))))

`Sending prayers and good thoughts!

(((J7)))

Hopefully she will get the professional treatment and support she needs and this will all be in the past soon.

So happy you all got her in and she didn't have issues w/ that much tylenol.

(((And Strength)))

Her dark thoughts. Her writings. Her 16 page suicide note. Google history. Just blank stares now.

Yes, this is so very difficult. I remember going through this when the police searched DS's room and computer - AND I had to translate all that shit for them to see if it turned up any leads. I had NO IDEA he was thinking all this black stuff. NONE. And yet I was with him every day. I felt useless being so clueless. But don't beat yourself up about it. She wanted to hide it all and she did.

DD is in a safe place now, that's all that matters. It is very possible when she goes to the psych hospital that in addition to ADs or any other meds they will also sedate her. (When I went to the psych hospital they gave me haloperidol.) So if you go to visit her she may seem different. That's ok. It's for her protection and it's temporary.

Anyone in a depression has distorted thinking. Her brain won't let her see things in a positive way. She can see suicide as her only way out of her pain. She doesn't want to die, she wants the pain to stop (whether she admits that or not). And she doesn't see any other way for her despair and pain to stop.

The goal here is to keep her alive until she can learn to think without the distortions she is having now. The best thing you can do for her is to be available and to support her therapy. Cognitive behavioral therapy can be very helpful for depression, perhaps that is one of the modalities they will use.

In any case, besides supporting her you need to make sure that you are taking care of yourself. You are reeling. Something inside you is not the same - you have lost whatever you believe about your DD. Not only is your DD suffering from a trauma but so are you.

When DS went missing, one of the hardest parts was taking care of myself. Fortunately, I had friends who brought me food to make sure that I would eat. Drink water and eat healthy food. Even if only a little at a time. You can't be there for her if you're not there for you.

Hang in there J07, it's going to get better. It might get worse first, but it IS going to get better. Keep posting, and accept any and all offers of help.

Sending out strength, love, and positive, healing thoughts.

((((J707))))

(((HUGS)))

I'm sorry. I don't have anything else to say but you and your daughter are in my thoughts and prayers.

Later today my daughter will be released and sent to the psychiatric hospital. Physically she is healthy! All vitals, liver function etc. are good. Mentally she is not. She will be in good hands. Thank you all for your words and support! I means a lot! Thank you

Thank goodness she didn't ruin her liver, it's such good news that she is physically ok!!

More strength for her mental therapy path, sending more positive, healing thoughts and MOJO.

((((J07 & DD))))

J707 - So sorry to hear this, man. Mental illness is no joke. I've had to deal with it, my son has had to deal with it. It sounds like she is in good hands. You are doing everything you can do for her. How are you holding up? Please don't forget to take care of yourself through this. Sending kind and peaceful thoughts to you, your daughter, and everyone involved.

((((( J7 and Precious daughter )))))

For those who asked how I'm doing. Not to good but I know what I need to do. I am eating, little bits here and there. I'm staying hydrated. Last night I actually got some sleep. I contacted my Dr. to go back on antidepressants. I know me and this is just the beginning of a long road. I'll be fine.

My daughter is talking more today and ate last night and this morning, so that's good. She is being transferred in an hour. I won't really be able to see her once she is there. But she will be in very good hands.

Unfortunately, I also know exactly how scary and traumatic this is as a parent. You're doing all the right things.

But she will be in very good hands.

Trust this. She is safe. She is secure and they're going to help her. Now you need to use that time to help yourself. You might even want to contact the suicide hotline for yourself for resources for family members. They will redirect your call to your local area. (((J)))

I'm so sorry. Having lost one child to suicide and having another attempt, I understand the feeling of helplessness. Keep being there for her, and take care of yourself.

I'm so sorry you are going through this, J707. I'm glad your child is getting help now. I helped my boyfriend (now ex, but still a good guy) through it when his young teen attempted suicide a few years ago. You're not supposed to be fine or ok right now - that's natural. She is getting the help she needs and you are taking the steps to get what you need, too. Sending you and your child healing thoughts.

I am so sorry you are going through this. Prayers that she gets the help she needs. Maybe not pandemic related but the extra stress on all of us taking care of ourselves is quite a burden to all of society. Pray she is one of the lucky ones that effectively sent off a warning signal and will therefore get the support she needs.

(((J707 and Daughter)))