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yearsofpain25 ( member #42012) posted at 8:56 PM on Monday, April 14th, 2014
Thoughts and prayers are with you.
(((Phoenix1 & son)))
"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll
Please1983 ( member #35894) posted at 9:05 PM on Monday, April 14th, 2014
BS me 30
WS him 31 (thankyou1981)
OW 19 year old at his work
Together 9 years
3 boys. 4, 3 and baby.
D-day 20 aug 2011
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 9:11 PM on Monday, April 14th, 2014
(((Phoenix & DS))) 
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
MissMouseMo ( member #38562) posted at 9:44 PM on Monday, April 14th, 2014
Like everyone, my words fail so I will send you my thoughts.
We are ALL behind you, Phoenix. We are all holding you.
"I edit, therefore I am." -BionicGal
jadedheart ( member #32046) posted at 11:36 PM on Monday, April 14th, 2014
Me 45
FWH 47
DS11, DD18, DS21(they know nothing about A)
Married 23 years together 25
Dday 09/24/2010
"You can't control how others behave, you can only control your reaction."
sad12008 ( member #18179) posted at 11:58 PM on Monday, April 14th, 2014
(((Phoenix1)))
There just aren't words, but I want you to know you're in my thoughts and I'm hoping you get good news soon.
You can't fill a cup with no bottom.
woundedby2 ( member #18522) posted at 12:00 AM on Tuesday, April 15th, 2014
(((phoenix)))
Praying and praying.
In 2010 I divorced the NPD assclown who cheated on me with my best friend.
Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson
suckstobeme ( member #30853) posted at 12:22 AM on Tuesday, April 15th, 2014
Oh my God - I am so sorry. There are no words. I just hope and pray with all my heart for you, DS, and your whole family.
BW - me
ExWH - "that one"
D - 2011
You get what you put in, and people get what they deserve.
Hard as it may be, try to never give the OP any of your power or head space.
Stay_Or_Go ( member #29532) posted at 5:24 AM on Tuesday, April 15th, 2014
My heart goes out to you. I can only imagine how devastated you must be. Praying for your dear son's safe return.
wheredoigo ( member #42327) posted at 6:06 AM on Tuesday, April 15th, 2014
No, no, no, no, no….he has to be safe! I had to read your topic title three times to read it correctly. After everything you've been through! May it be just his way of needing a break and as my retired military FIL says "going off the radar" for a bit. I wish there was more we could do for you than just wait and read. Sending prayers for his safety. Hope he contacts someone soon. We will be here when you get news and are ready to post again. ((((Phoenix)))
1st marriage BS to a xSAWH (36)
2nd marriage WW (36) to BS(Jt8d, 40)
I will face what hurts me and my actions that have hurt myself and others rather than hiding behind fearful justifications of why I should never heal or grow.
Phoenix1 (original poster member #38928) posted at 9:20 AM on Tuesday, April 15th, 2014
We have been at the command post as soon as we arrived in WA. Just left around midnight after everyone else left for the night. Sat in the car and cried knowing he is out there another night alone. The Army is contributing resources and that has helped the manpower.
As some have speculated, no he did not just go dark. His motorcycle was found today along with his helmet, neatly parked with plenty of fuel left in the tank to get him back to the base when he was done. Once they found the bike they brought in dogs. The dogs followed his scent for about an hour then lost it. He is an AVID runner, and putting in 15 miles is just a warm up for him. The last cell ping came in around 3 in the morning last night, and his cell is now dead. Unfortunately, that ping had an accuracy of about a 7-mile radius, which is a lot of ground. Another round of dogs are being brought out tomorrow morning before people move into the area, then search teams will move in at 9. Dozens are Army soldiers are going to be here tomorrow to supplement the volunteer searchers. They have been using thermal cameras on a plane with no results and hope to bring in a helo tomorrow. Weather may be problematic is it is supposed to rain tomorrow.
I am sick to my stomach with worry and heartache. Can't eat, can't sleep. Been up since Saturday at 2:00 a.m. Haven't eaten in two days as it makes me physically ill. Feel totally helpless, just as I have been feeling the past three weeks with bro and SIL. If the media puts two and two together they will be all over this and that circus will begin again. My brain is just all over the place.
I am on the edge right now. My father is a wreck. We are all just having trouble wrapping our brains around this. I am at my limit but trying to hold it together for my girls. This just can't be happening. I feel like I have been in a living nightmare for almost a month now, and I can't wake up. I.JUST.CAN'T.TAKE.ANY.MORE!!! My baby is out there! 
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
knightsbff ( member #36853) posted at 9:42 AM on Tuesday, April 15th, 2014
Phoenix,
Knight and I are praying specifically for your DS to be somewhere safe, waiting to be found; that he is being comforted and ministered to by angels. We are praying for the right searchers and rescuers to be guided to just the right place for his benefit. We are praying for peace and comfort for you and your family. That you will be reunited with your son soon and your relationship will be strengthened because of this trial.
I wish we could all be there in person helping to search and bring your baby back to you safe and sound.
I'm here. I've been thinking and praying for y'all all night.
(((Phoenix)))
fWW 40s, BH 40s
D-day 27 Aug 2012. Kids 25, 17, 13. 2 dogs.
I edit often to fix stuff ☺️
Profoundly grateful Every. Single. Day. that I am blessed with an H with strength, integrity, and compassion, and that he decided to try.
Pentup ( member #20563) posted at 12:28 PM on Tuesday, April 15th, 2014
^^^^^this. Praying this for you as well.
Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)
metamorphisis ( member #12041) posted at 12:37 PM on Tuesday, April 15th, 2014
I wish there was something I could do for you . Sending all my love and strength.
Go softly my sweet friend. You will always be a part of who I am.
sadcat ( member #8637) posted at 1:34 PM on Tuesday, April 15th, 2014
(((Phoenix and family))))
Never let your fear decide your fate.....AWOLNATION
If this isn't what I consider soulmate crap, I don't know what is.
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 1:46 PM on Tuesday, April 15th, 2014
((((Phoenix)))))
Prayers and MOJO headed your way.
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
ArkLaMiss ( member #14918) posted at 2:28 PM on Tuesday, April 15th, 2014
Praying he's found today and is ok. Hugs to you at this trying time, too.
Just HOW stupid do you think I am, exactly?
sunandmoon ( member #10180) posted at 2:41 PM on Tuesday, April 15th, 2014
I am praying for you and your son. I am so very sorry Phoenix.
sunandmoon
hexed ( member #19258) posted at 2:59 PM on Tuesday, April 15th, 2014
((phoenix))
there really are just no words.
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
TrustNoOne ( member #16591) posted at 3:03 PM on Tuesday, April 15th, 2014
I continue to hold you up in prayer; covering you and your son with all the blessings possible.
As a Mother, my heart absolutely aches for you.
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