Sounds like a soap opera scene.
Oh, i still want to go out on Friday though"
My husband thinks we had sex, but not yet she said. But, i did promise you something."
He said,"i think it's too late for that."
I dont know what to say, it sort of sounds rehearsed or just that nauseating.
Do not leave your house.
Keep your cool and temper in check.
Do you want to try and R after this. Yes, she is in some stupid fantasy fog. But, you never know. The thing is, this guy is single, so she could leave, but doesn't want to.
In this day of divorce, there is not much to keep her from leaving with him, except her kids. Which is a strong reason. So in a sense you are left with wondering what is she really thinking.
You need to decide if you can R or not. For you, today and in the future.
Unless this is rehearsed, I would say they did not have sex. Why would she promise him sex...that is rather odd. Were they waiting for Christmas.
She wants to be friends with him, and cannot. But still wants Friday.
If you want to stay married, your wife does not leave the house on Friday. If anything, that is the day she fulfills her promise...I am only guessing.
If it were me and I wanted to try and R, I would confront her tonight with all of this. Since I think you have enough, have heard enough and it is time this affair ends, immediately.
If financially possibly, she quits her job,
She does not go to work Friday,
She tells or writes this SOB a NC and you see her send it.
The risks will be she then knows you know her every move and she might take the affair underground. But that would mean with the constant worry of you watching.
If it were me again, I might consider contacting the OM myself and putting the fear of God in him. That is not for revenge, just to let him know you really do exist and are fed up with him interfering with your life.
If you cannot R after her words.. then after talking with your lawyer, file divorce papers, have her served, see how she reacts within the time frame before the divorce is actually done.
I recently heard some states have a short window between filing and actual divorce.