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I would bet money that D attorneys phones and emails blow-up on a Monday morning because interactions between ex's happen on the weekend.

Thank you purple pages of SI for always being here, anytime, any day, for any reason. And thank you to those other anonymous struggling souls our there who listen and support.

Today you are going to save me some attorney fees because I have learned that family court is a joke and no one really cares about a NPDSACLWH -LOSER DEADBEAT DAD!!!

Troll from the land of Curmudgeon at 7am:

"DS doesn't answer any texts"

Divorce Warrior Apprentice (me):

....NC....Go check DS phone, 4 unread messages, DS sleeping....(HELLO it's SUNDAY MORNING! HE'S 13!)

....wait until son is up......

Son says he doesn't want to see his Troll Dad (TOTALLY UNDERSTAND sweet boy)...........warrior apprentice battles with conundrum.......Troll has not seen DS for days, weeks, months.........Support Hearing is on TUESDAY......Troll is motivated by this fact, doesn't REALLY want to see DS and is only making a half-hearted attempt at 'making a showing'.

Warrior Apprentice asked DS if he would like to have dinner with Troll as DS seems a bit torn......DS says, yes, that would be okay.

YOU'RE WELCOME NASTY ASS TROLL WHOM I DESPISE!

You are lucky I have a HUGE heart, am MATURE, and will do what is right for our DS, DESPITE you being a complete waste of carbon molecules.

Warrior Apprentice texts Troll this information, accommodation.

Troll doesn't respond. WTF?!!!

Warrior Apprentice makes plans to take DS out to dinner. Ding-dong no one's home Troll, YOU SHOULD HAVE MADE ARRANGEMENTS THROUGH ME LIKE THE COURT DICTATES!!!

I told you over and over, the obnoxious Children First class (That I cried the first hour non-stop) even has a WHOLE VIGNETTE about NOT putting your children in the middle, NOT using them as pawns.

BUT NO-O-O-O-O, your selfish NPD can't allow you to think about what is best for your SON, won't allow you to STOP ABUSING EVERYONE AROUND YOU!!!!

God I hate that Troll.

[This message edited by tothineownself at 10:25 AM, December 4th (Sunday)]

I SEE YOU.

You know I see you - and in the light you had to scurry back for darkness.

You do this to women. For the pleasure it gives you. To consume a soul. Momma's boy that's too angry to ever actually become a man. I see you.

You go for the lowest hanging fruit. You feed your need with the apples that life's storms have knocked off the tree. I wouldnt't call you a predator; you are a scavenger. I know this because I know where you found me. Yes...I was vulnerable and that was enticing to you. But I was also on my feet again, gaining confidence in myself again - and that made me delicious, an NPD's delicacy.

Yes...you destroyed me. I was knocked to my knees, too winded to get back up for many years.

But I won. I beat you. Because in all this time, I didn't just break away from your clutches, I actually healed within them. The very actions meant to shatter me instead pointed me in the direction of my path. You were not my defeater....you were the catalyst that spurred me on to my greatness. You didn't leave me. You just simply fell away because my journey has grown beyond you. I am going places that you simply can not tag along. It is beyond your reach.

The unfortunate part of this is the collateral damage - and that's my two sweet boys who didn't deserve this. Those two sweet boys that clung to you sooner than I could have hoped - and who I watched also come to see you throughout all these years - though I didn't realize at the time. They were much faster than me. It was simply their love and respect for ME that gave you any semblance of dad to them. They left you a long time ago.

I hope with every fiber of my being that your next steady OW - you know, the one you pick to play your "straight man" - does not have young children. I would warn her...but I understand the futility. What I wouldn't give now to have listened when that was offered to me! But the children...they just don't deserve it. Because you don't just fuck over women and destroy their souls but you do something much more sinister and dark: You fuck over MOTHERS. And you leave those children not just confused by their own relationships with a man they cannot understand, you leave them with a mother that cannot function in a manner to help them. In that regard, you truly are a motherfucker.

I cannot imagine the darkness in your soul. Yes...I see you. But I chose now to just look away.

God bless every single woman and child that comes across your path...and especially the children.

You have become the monster; the abyss exists inside of you.

But I fought my monsters AND yours, all while living in your abyss - and have come out a stronger warrior. I truly didn't know my worth - until you showed me.

[This message edited by truthsetmefree at 4:11 PM, December 4th (Sunday)]

I watched you today...standing on the stage, part of the big press release. It dawned on me - how great this position has been for your ego...and supply source!

I have sensed this throughout the past year - this kid in a candy shop - and I have felt threatened by it. How could I possibly measure up against the women that now make up your colleagues? But as I also watched one of them today on that video, I actually found myself amused. You stupid fuck. You're over your head and you don't even have a clue. When it comes to NPD - you're playing in the big leagues now. But you can't see - you've grown too old for the game. You're headed straight for the wall and now driving faster because you know you cannot keep up. Not because you have left me...no, nothing to do with that. But because there actually IS justice in Life - even when, in my case, I have had to wait for Her to set the stage. Or, when in your case, you think you can circumvent the rules. Age is your nemesis. You groom and preen, thinking you are ahead of it....and yet your narcissism now announces itself as if George Hamilton's spray tan, betraying you in your worst way. You are me - 18 years ago....under your spell. Did you really think your false self would be loyal to you? Your eyes darted the whole time, flailing about as a drowning man's arms, desperately assessing the room and grasping because you know you cannot keep up. And I know that you know.

So yes...distract yourself now...focus instead on feeling good because I am attending your performance. Tell yourself how desperate I am to pay so much for such tickets. Though understand too - there is a reason beyond a good view that I am sitting now on the front row, where you can now see me. Sure, it's about you...and yet, it's not about you at all. You are a performer - completely dedicated to your craft; nothing more.

It's the final scene and the music has started...this beautiful, bittersweet, painful melody - and I intuitively understand...this is your swan song. I see what you cannot; the things you've never understood. So dance little tiny ballerina...dance your heart out because you know your fans are counting on it. And I will cheer wildly when the curtain closes. This is what I came to see - and there couldn't have been a better ending. You will be memorialized for your performance. That's what you wanted, isn't it? Do know that I will remember your dance long after I've forgotten your name.

As it turns out, Life is an excellent composer.

For God's sake...... why the fuck to you keep lying?

Do you really think I believe you?

You absolutely know that I can see where you are

where you've been

You bloody well KNOW this...... and still you

LIE TO MY FACE.

You are pathetic

I know it

You know it

.... just give it up and divorce amicably.

You are a piece of shit..... and that's why I'm divorcing you.

Whatever is the point of denying it?

Twerp

You narcissistic lying conartist! Fuck off! Seriously just fuck off. Sorry it is your birthday and you have chased off every single human being that has tried to ever be nice to you. But its my fault you are sad on your birthday? That is rich after you gutted me like a fish.

FUCK YOU.

Why don't you just

PISS OFF?

You're weak. As soon as you are called out on something you play the guilt game- weak. As soon as you're told you have to put the work in there is excuses- weak. Every time you try to avoid, don't answer for days, don't answer at all or say you were "thinking about it" when it comes to the hard conversations/communications- weak. Every time you lie- weak. All I see is you doing a whole lot of nothing because you are weak.

I hope your whole week is filled with a sense of dread as you have to once again take whorebag around your family. I know you can hear them gossip about her, none of them really having much to do with her. Bet you thought they would accept her like they did your brother's rich OW. Big difference, she's gutter trash compared to your brother's wifetress. She can't give them grandkids to ohhh and ahhh over. All they know her for is she's the woman that engaged in a 5 yr LTA and destroyed your marriage to me.

I will be having lunch tomorrow with your other brother's wife. She sees you both for what you are. I hope when I pick her up they can see what they lost and the POS whorebag you replaced me with. So Merry Fucking Christmas you POS. I am happy now, I have a guy that loves and cares about me and thinks I am wonderful. I no longer have to walk on eggshells, play the pick me dance, play the marriage police, or sit alone on holidays. You got a cheating, lying, crazy whorebag and I got an honest man with integrity and my freedom from you!!

JUST.BACK.OFF.

I don't want to hug you

I am not your friend

I don't even like you

*** LEAVE ME ALONE ***

PISS OFF CREEP

I hate you. You are such a fucking moron. Unless I'm missing something, how are you going to pay for the baby with your whore. You can't manage money. So many fun surprises coming your way...

You truly are the world's biggest waste of space.

Three hours is how long you spent with your children for Xmas! You haven't seen your son in months. We had a blizzard today and son needs a ride but it's more important to you that you take your third vacation in months.

I truly hate you.

Hello psychopathic tapeworm. Just to say I'm loving life without you, you soulless bloodsucking leech. And I feel truly sorry for whoever you're bleeding of life right now. That is all you know how to do. And it's never enough, is it? Yes. I see you. I know what you are. Do the world a favour and jump off it. Please.

Over the last 6 years, i begged you to get a job and help make ends meet. You refused time and time again. I worked my ass off with seasonal jobs and whatever else I could pick-up after my full-time job. My additional efforts never made a dent because you stole money from the family to support your affairs. I recently discovered that you were also on probation for theft during the end of our marriage and that you exposed children to your recklessness.

The divorce is not even final. You emptied the home of furniture before we had even started on an agreement. Then you had nerve to call cps that children did not have beds to sleep on in my home. You called county because spousal/child support check was not in full the first two months even though courts accepted communal costs deductions while we shared home.

Yet, you moved into a 1m home purchased by OM. You pick up kids in new car. You don't report this this to courts.

You are a lying, crooked p.o.s. Things will catch up to you.

leave me alone

For someone who's about to marry the mistress that made him her fourth baby daddy in 2 years, I'd say you should stop wishing my future husband luck with ME and concentrate on your own luck. The future isn't looking too bright for your dumb ass.

So, are you happy now? Living in your mom's fifth wheel with your new wife, wind chill 12 below, still waiting for someone to come up with the means to buy the rocky dumpy land you've been saying your buying for two years. Was being single worth walking away from our new home, security and the family life we built? She's a liar and cheater too. How does it feel being married with someone like you? Or does being 13 years younger with fake boobs and looking like a barfly still make her seem like a prize? Getting married 6 months after moving in together is stupidly quick even though you were dating while we were married...what was the hurry? Trying to get her to get a loan for your place since your credit sucks? Just because I could get loans to get what you want doesn't mean your slunt can or will. Do you love her as much as OW #1? Does OW#2 know she was 2nd choice? Everyone says she is fugly...they both are but I know it's the age, fake boobs, slender, tons of makeup and skanky dress that got you. Nothing like me! I have a great job, respect, retirement, a beautiful house and insurance. You have none of that. My kids have disowned you. You were never a father to your kids. So sad for them. If only you could e a good man.

You are a heinous, evil, low life scumbag.

You don't deserve for my kids to call you Dad.

You are a wastoid gold-digging vagrant.

I wish you would disappear.

What I don't miss...

Your unaccounted-for-absenses

Picking up after you like a child

How you zero in on attractive women like a bull in heat

Seeing you on your cell phone CONTINUALLY

Watching you text 'friends'...all women

Listening to your bullshit drone on the phone

Waiting for you to get home from work

Excuses and lies for being so late

WAITING WAITING WAITING--knowing why you're late

How you would get irritated if I asked you to take out the garbage or ANY household task. Child!

Listening to your judgmental rants about Oprah or any strong woman.

Seeing what a rotten father you are. Glad we don't have kids together but my heart breaks for your two grown kids. You sure screwed their lives up,

Your blaming nature but no guilt for your actions

Never contributing your share financially

Knowing you word means nothing and being embarrassed hearing you tell someone you would do something

Wondering what you're hiding

Life is peaceful now. Financially I better off without you. I have a great relationship, although we didn't move in together andjump into marriage like you did, I feel my relationship is healthier. That's my rant. I feel better.

You act

You're fake

You don't want anyone to see the squirm behind your facade.

I see you

I see right through you.

I see your weakness

I think that you are pathetic.

You'd be better off dead?

I'm not arguing with you on that.

You're toxic.

You poison everything you touch.

Piss off.

For someone who says they don't want to loose their family sure does a whole lot of nothing about it.

You doing nothing is what got us to this place. Separated. Who would of thought that nothing could push two people so far apart and continue to make the gap bigger and bigger.