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So WW got the papers today. Here was here response in text to me:

Ok, thank you for letting me know. I got the papers today. I don't want to ruin your weekend but can we talk when you get back?

My Response: You wouldn't ruin my weekend. Thanks for letting me know you got them. I'd like to know what you want to discuss before talking

WW:I would like to discuss if that's really what you want and if there's no chance anymore.

To which I will not respond. Because my response would be "are you fucking serious?"

Congratulations!?!?

Always bittersweet my friend.

Great response.(crickets) She deserves nothing less.

Focus on yourself and the kids. You all deserve better.

Strength

Big, fat, lustily singing crickets is about the only worthwhile answer to that ridiculous question!

Let it stew...

I would send lots of emojis!

One lady on SI said when her WS asked to come back she was laughing so hard she could barely get the door closed. I want to be able to do that one day!

[This message edited by homewrecked2011 at 9:32 PM, May 26th (Friday)]

Ultimately, it is about what you want. Which can include reconciliation with conditions. Or divorce.

I literally laughed when I read that. Like you haven't had enough chances and thrown them all back in my face with your actions. You've not ever once expressed anything or displayed any behavior that showed me you wanted our marriage to work. But yea let me keep giving you chances to hurt me.

Chirp, chirp, chirp...

Dostl10,

I know you wrote this last piece as a vent... but if you are ever to reply to her message, this is pretty good! Just saying.

I was thinking the same thing.

Have a good weekend. Great way to handle.

At some point you do need to say that if it not about the kids, please run it through my attorney

Good for you. An epic response should you choose to use it.

How did it go, brother?

I have not responded although she texted again asking if I got her text

Personally, I'd just text back "Yup".

I simply responded to that, "I got it."

Personally I get more of a vibe of acceptance not really looking to come back.

I think she wanted out the whole time but she wanted you to pull the trigger. This response of hers sounds more like her saying," well, I guess if that's what you really want," but now she doesnt look like the bad guy for doing the filing.

She gets to say that she really wanted to work on things but mean old dostl10 just wasnt willing.

Your response to her asking if thats what you really want should have been "no,thats what you chose, I'm just playing the hand you dealt me."

I've read every post of yours in order to try to get a feel for what you want out of this

ETA

I'm a little conflicted. Is R still a possibility?

[This message edited by 5454real at 9:47 AM, May 27th (Saturday)]

I am done. I have been. It hurts a lot but it's what has to happen. I also agree with the assessment that she wanted me to pull the trigger. All she's been doing is trying to save face with everyone. It's exactly what I said to my brother last night. She gets to say she was trying but I was unwilling which is the farthest thing from the truth.

Ok, thanks for clarifying.

Have you informed her that further contact should be limited to kids and finances? And that mainly by text or e mail. I know this is cold, but now you need to look at this almost as a business deal. Let your lawyer know what your desires are and let them handle the details.

You have rather regular physical contact with her, right? PLEASE, VAR for those contacts. Reality, when it hits, might cause some desperate measures from her.

Strength