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During my shitty virtually sexless marriage there was very little oral sex despite the fact that I enjoy giving. Anyway I was wondering if guys have a preference of where the receive a BJ: standing up, sitting down, lying down?

It was just a random thought of mine recently.

I'll respond even though I'm going to be the outlier in your data sample.

I don't like oral sex. At all. I think it's disgusting and although I've had very few hummers in my life, the ones I had were obvious that they were being given out of a sense of obligation, not desire.

Love oral sex. Giving and receiving. I'll take it any way, but if I'm honest, the hottest is standing, with her on her knees, looking up at me and making eye contact while I'm in her mouth.

I don’t remember. It’s been awhile.....

Pulls up a chair.

Pours a hard cider.

Takes cap off pen and opens notebook.

Seriously, I am curious the responses to this. A lot of times men will say it’s like pizza, and even bad pizza is still good. BUT I’ve had this conversation with other men who say that’s totally untrue and there are things that can absolutely ruin oral for them.

To 6M$Man’s point, I think enthusiasm and enjoyment on the part of the giver is super important. But I’m also not a penis-owner, so I’ll be quiet now and just take notes.

To be honest, I would much rather give oral than receive it. More often than not, a blowjob involves the scraping of teeth, which is really painful.

That said, if there are no teeth involved, it's much more enjoyable if I am in a relaxed position. Sitting or laying down.

I think this is a personal preference thing. You'll need to ask the receiver.

ADryHeat I’m glad I’m not the only one. If I’m giving “pizza” I don’t want it to be bad pizza I want it to be the best darn pizza he’s ever gotten.

6M$Man I can definitely understand lack of enthusiasm being a mood killer. Until after my D I hadn’t met a man who enjoyed giving oral then after wow! If only I had known then what I know now.

Empty thank you for the input!!

Minnesota Get on Tinder and off the bus. 😜

Hopeless thank you for you input!

Let me ask another question what’s the best new trick/skill you’ve learned since your divorce? For me it’s been enjoying getting “pizza” 😂 and just realizing my strong libido doesn’t make me a weirdo.

I think enthusiasm and enjoyment on the part of the giver is super important.

^^^^ This!

I can't say that I have an overall preference (standing, sitting, etc.) I have received amazing oral sex in all of those situations. The common denominator among all the better ones was the enjoyment and enthusiasm shown by partner. It would always give me the goal to answer in kind.

I don't care about the position, but as was previously stated - the HOTTEST part about them is having the lady make eye contact with you as she's doing it. TMI here, but it's tough for me to finish on a BJ and I've been with some women that could suck a golf ball through a garden hose.

I definitely prefer to munch down

I love it. and will give as freely as i receive. I have no preference as to position or anything. I guess maybe laying down. But a impromptu standing up or sitting or whatever is hot too...

Like others said its all in the enthusiasm. Its very enjoyable if the woman is into it, if she is doing it because she wants too. If its out of some sort of felt obligation then im not interested.

Love giving, do it almost every time and am usually rewarded for it, lol.

As far as receiving I like it a few ways. I like it when laying down and she goes really slow. I like it standing with her on her knees and is also wearing braids. I like to grab onto them for control. My new favorite way is with her laying on the bed and me penetrating her mouth either kneeling next to where she is laying or her laying by the side of the bed and I'm standing by the edge.

Hands on/Cupping of the Sackage is helpful too while having the act performed. That extra warmth does a body good

Sits down next to ADryHeat with a bowl of popcorn and a beer. You getting all this? This is good information!

Wow.... this is the first time I've signed on in a while... I'm glad I did. This is great information!!!

Gentlemen, please continue!!! I think I speak for all of the ladies when I say we want to learn as much as we can, and we GREATLY appreciate your candor!!!

On a related note I forgot to mention earlier. Partner's enthusiasm and interest to respond in kind is peaked when I share with her that my tongue is 6 inches long, and I can breath out of my ears.

All positions are great the amount of enthausim on both the giver and receiver takes it to another level. Oral is great..

Cupping of the Sackage

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I am a BIG fan of giving. It’s seriously a huge turn on for me. I can neither confirm nor deny that my last recipient who claims to never finish from it did —-twice in on evening. But we can always learn more!

I’m totally taking notes on the braids thing. Aforementioned man has a thing for braids...but I hadn’t considered the intersection between that aesthetic and this act. Good info.

Standing is best but, sitting, laying, reverse, on top, reverse top and.....

Oh, I’m sorry. This was about bj’s? 😬