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Embarrassed to post, but here goes...

This is a pleasure I enjoy giving. Because I enjoy it, but even more so because I know I am giving a lot of pleasure.

For me, there are 2 deal breakers:

One...if my head is guided or directed by him in that direction...it's not happening.

And I guess a really unpopular one (based on responses here)...if I am expected to swallow.

I don't fully understand why that is so important to so many, and I don't enjoy not providing as much pleasure as I can. I promise you I wouldn't want to do anything to injure the pleasure or libido or whatever of my partner. But it simply is very undesirable to me. I don't eat oysters, mayonnaise, or salad dressing for that matter - for the same reason. Anything "slimy" in any way just makes me almost throw up. But it is my issue, and has nothing to do with my love or enjoyment level. As long as that is not expected.

I most certainly don't want to gag due to attempting to please him. Im guessing that would be so disrespectful and demeaning to him. So, when we were actually still having sex, I could tell when he was very close, so I would exchange my hand for my mouth.

He never indictated to me that it was a turn off or disappointment to him. But now I am wondering if he was being honest, after reading all of this.

Can someone, to whom the swallow is very important, please share what would be the next best acceptable thing if it is an issue like mine.

Reading this, I clearly need to put getting a good BJ on my bucket list. I have to lie down now.

I'm not entirely sure. It's quite a sexy thing I suppose. When you go down on a woman there is probably stuff which enters your mouth and so on. It was never that important to me. She took it in her mouth once when she was heavily pregnant as she read it could bring on labour if she held it under her tongue. It did work. But that is the one and only time. I've always had a thing about it because I think of things she said in the early days and also because it usually lasts about 2 minutes and then she says she has lock jaw so we move on to other things.

Dunno. Rubbish.

I always thought that this was why men found big lips on a face so appealing and why everybody was getting their lips injected or whatever the heck they do to them now. You ever notice after an episode of giving oral sex that you lips are swollen? Please god let me not be the only one

Not an appropriate response

[This message edited by SI Staff at 6:09 AM, March 14th (Wednesday)]

Ummm, wtf? I don't think any of us reading this thread wanna hear that story. It doesn't have anything to do with the topic anyway.

The swallowing thing is about intimacy. That she would like my stuff so much she wants to swallow it makes me feel accepted by her in a more intimate way. Maybe if you just explain to your partner about your hangup on mayo and other things and disclaim it, it could be ok. A relationship shouldn't hinge on it anyway.

There's swallowing the load and swallowing like it were a straw during the event.

Mods- can this be renamed “The Giving Head Thread”, instead lol

Oh wow!!! <<fanning myself >>. .....

May this thread never go away so that I might look back when i finally have a SO !!

Ps... found myself practicing the sucking and pursing if my lips ...that was described on here... while driving to work!! 🤣🤣. A girl needs to be prepared right!!

[This message edited by hereagain2 at 6:09 PM, March 13th (Tuesday)]

What’s right- I wasn’t going to post, but saw yours and decided to lol. I also don’t like the “finish” in my mouth, yet I love giving pleasure. No one has ever complained, and I’ve received numerous compliments, but I’ve tried to swallow in the past and it ruins it for me

Wow. I can’t believe that I’m fanning myself after reading s thread I posted.

I personally don’t know how others can spit it out. I don’t need it to go over my taste buds on the way in and the way out!! No thank you!!

I finally decided to enter the fray. Disclaimer: I've only received and given oral sex with one woman.

I've never finished in her mouth and, obviously, she's never swallowed. Early in our marriage she did give me oral but that petered (no pun intended) out over the years. She didn't enjoy it and it was obvious. When she did give me oral I was lying down. She dropped to her knees and gave her AP oral in the shower. Something else she didn't like because showers are too small for two people.

On the other hand, I really liked giving her oral. Based on orgasms I think I was quite good at it. It's easier to be proficient at something if you enjoy it tremendously. It pleased me tremendously to provide such pleasure - obvious, uncontrolled pleasure. I was pretty good with my fingers, too. One thing (probably out of a list of things) is I would advance to the nipples too quickly which would cause a set back in the event.

I read the posts on here and mourn what I didn't get that I would have liked to experienced at least once.

steadychevy...you never know what tomorrow brings !!!

Giving a BJ doesn't always end in my H orgasming in my mouth. Orgasming...did I just come up with a new word ???!!! Nah...I just looked it up...I didn't .

I LOVE BJ's!!! I am a bonafide cocksucker !!! I can truly say I haven't met a cock I didn't like . Cut or uncut...thick...thin...they are ALL a tasty delight .

One of the things I love the best...is to start the BJ when the penis is soft. I like to swallow it...while the soft pubic hair is tickling my nose . Just doing the swallowing motions...it apparently feels really GOOD on his end...but it sure feels GREAT to me because I can get it ALL in my mouth without having to deep throat . I also LOVE the sensation of feeling it grow !!

This swallowing technique doesn't allow it to stay soft very long though...and most of the time it ends up with us finishing another way. It seems to give him a LOT of energy !!! I have tried doing hand jobs...but the draw to put my mouth over that gorgeous piece of meat just gets to me...and hand jobs go by the wayside most of the time for me .

I have been giving BJ's to my H for over 30 years now...and the taste does vary. I never equated it to what he ate though. I do know that since he has stopped drinking beer...the taste is MUCH sweeter . Maybe more of you men can try adding pineapple to your diet...it may make a BIG difference (see what I did there Minnesota) ???!!!

Want2behappyagain---ARRRRRRGH!!!!!! You're killing me.

[This message edited by nscale56 at 8:51 AM, March 14th (Wednesday)]

Would be nice to find a generous woman. WW gives me about 2 minutes then I have to do it all from there on. Or I did. I don't any more.

When I think of all the things I did to give her pleasure and that pleased me too but it was never really reciprocated. Anything she 'did' to me was to satisfy what she wanted. Just selfish I guess.

nscale56...sorry!!! I was just trying to give Heart more directions...in hopes that she might tell us what happened . I'll stop...I am getting too worked up anyway...and my H isn't coming home for another week !!!

Want2BHappyAgain - lmfao! You got some enthusiasm right there!

I had a friend years ago that would let his GF stick her finger in his ass while he was getting head. Said he blew incredible Peter North wads that way, lol.

GoingCrazyNow !!!

Welllllll...the prostate can be found by placing a finger in the rectum...just sayin' . "Milking" has a certain pleasure all its own from what I have been told . People can google "milking the prostate" if they would like.

Would any men want to talk about milking? Especially when tied to BJ's? Honestly...I've never done the two together...but I would be interested to see what you people with prostates would care to say about it .

No don't back off want2behappy. But man o man some of these posts are well ummm getting me hot and bothered (in a good way). But hey our 39th anniversary is this Saturday, could be fun.