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At this point and after reading so many of the other stories here on SI, I am going to wait and see if there is contact between the two of them and see if she shows true remorse.

Go to google and type this:

site:www.survivinginfidelity.com walloped

Find the thread with the title "I Now Have An Inkling Of What To Do "

That’s part 2. The first post has a link to the original story.

Read it. I suspect your story will be like Walloped / MsWalloped.

There’s also a follow up story from MsWalloped in the wayward section.

I don’t think "MissDaninOH " will talk to the OM again. If you want to R, I suspect she will follow all the rules you lay.

I agree with you, Dan. He isn't some sort of "dom" that took total control over her and made her submissive. He just wanted to know she was there at the party with no underwear on - that would definitely cause the arousal to ramp up.

Again, I am just so sorry.

Not quite sure that i'm buying that she became is "sub". He did ask her to not wear panties but i am not sure if that makes him some kind of "dom" or just a guy trying to get some ass.

"Kelli" is definitely a different number than "spring roll".

I have my real phone number and a Google number in the same phone. I buy and Sell stuff and want to use a number other than mine. Is it your local area code?

Kelli is most likely legit, but there's a lot of tech out there these days.

[This message edited by MickeyBill2016 at 2:11 PM, December 18th (Tuesday)]

google Kelli's number or put it into spydialer.com to see what name comes up.

I think it's way too soon to tell if his wife is going to be a successful rebuilder like Mrs Walloped. Right now, she's behaving like most freshly caught WS. She's minimizing and blameshifting. She's leaving the phone at home and going shopping. Time,and her behavior will tell.

And, let's not forget how easy it is to spoof a number. So SR might really be Kelli. A question for the polygraph.

If you don't see any previous communication with ""Kelli", neither texts nor calls in the last two weeks.

Kelli could be a burner phone that OM picked up to continue communications with your wife.

Or Kelli could be a friend of your wife who knows about the affair and is acting as a message service between them so they don't leave an electronic trail directly between them.

Call the number from a friend's phone and see who answers. Or better yet, have a friend call it and when it is answered just say "Sorry - wrong number".

I know you said you couldn’t find any texts from “Kelli” in the past. What about phone calls? It’s possible that their means of communication is strictly phone calls rather than text. Check her call history again, not just her texts. I really don’t think it’s the OM (based on what has been detailed in this story... it seems TO ME the last thing she wants to do is contact him or even think of him), but I have been fooled before. But I think it’s important to figure out who “Kelli” is.

My fear is that "Kelli" is this guy and he and your wife are meeting at the store to shop. They could do what they wanted sexually, and then she actually goes in to shop. I know I am projecting a bit. Or she could be shopping and not seeing this guy at all. Verify, verify, verify who Kelli truly is. Me, I would have her call Kelli in front of me.

Kelli could be a burner phone that OM picked up to continue communications with your wife.

"Kelli" was already listed in my wifes phone as a contact. I think she is the girl that was in our group that night. I have a hard time remembering names. She may have been the one who saw them arguing?

[This message edited by DaninOH at 2:49 PM, December 18th (Tuesday)]

I have almost all of my co-workers names in my phone but many of them I have never had reason to contact.

[This message edited by DaninOH at 3:08 PM, December 18th (Tuesday)]

BTW, of all the possible cheating partners to choose from in a medical setting, why pick the IT guy?

Dan,

Just catching up on your thread. Can we assume your computer guy did a full recovery on the phone, including deleted pics and texts?

Have you checked the iPhone backups and iCloud storage?

If there was any incriminating evidence, gifts or notes, in your house, she has already cleared them out.

Are you reporting this guy to his company's HR department?

Are you going ahead with the poly?

Maybe it's me, but nurses seem to be a high risk for infidelity. Maybe it's the hours or conditions.

So who called who? Did your wife initiate the call or did Kelli call her?

You know it was about her behavior at the party and OM.

Just ask your wife has she had any contact with anyone who was at the party recently and, if so, what was said.

I think her choice of picking OM was the fact that he was a temp and would be leaving in January, as well as the accent & “fantasy that comes with it.” Best choice if you want a quick thrill but nothing too complicated was probably her thought process. The guys looks probably had very little to do with it IMO.

As for Kelli, she’s probably a coworker who’s more so an acquaintance than a friend, hence the no texts. She probably either witnessed something at the party or is one of those nosy gals that wants the scoop of the office gossip. Either way, a phone call makes more sense than a text, if wife was “explaining” her situation.

[This message edited by Hamburgundy at 3:04 PM, December 18th (Tuesday)]

She picked up my youngest from school and it looks like all three are at the house now. She did make a call to a family clinic.

So who called who? Did your wife initiate the call or did Kelli call her?

My wife sent her a text and then after an exchange she called her.

I just *67 called "kelli" and it went to a female voice message.

She did have a text exchange with the girl who drove her home Friday. The number is a match with the phone that she used at the party to call me.

I have a feeling the this is the game "Spring Roll likes to play.

Something tells me that has a trainer for this new software, he rather enjoys meeting new people. I might seriously thinking about calling Mr Rolls employer.

He seems to be bad news. Yes, you wife accepted to offer but he seems to work pretty fast. I'm sure your wife would like to think that she swept him off his feet, however, I can't shake it, he moved too fast.

My opinion

I’m sorry you are being dragged through the mud.

Especially around the holidays.

Please know it does get better. Slowly. Takes time. But it does get better.

And FWIW - my H asked for a D hours before he ended the A. And I got tough and stood up to him. I never planned on reconciling. But over time I could see he was committed to making amends. He was remorseful. He did make mistakes during reconciliation but the A was over and he was doing everything he could.

Five years later he is still making amends in every way possible. He tried hard and shows me every day I am important to him.

It can happen. But it’s ultimately your decision - only you can decide if you can reconcile with her. For some people Reconciliation is not an option.

All the best to you and your family during this difficult period.

[This message edited by The1stWife at 4:43 PM, December 18th (Tuesday)]