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Scoobydoo (original poster member #70007) posted at 8:13 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
I’m ok, I’m back home, locks have been changed, I now have cameras everywhere (some still being fitted) I have a panic button linked straight to the police station,
Boxer has been arrested for burglary, theft, assault, threats to kill, drunk & disorderly conduct & carrying an offensive weapon, he won’t be in court till Tuesday but he DEFINITELY won’t be out before that.
They put a plan of action in place so we didn’t have to run. It was easier to do this than for all of us to run.
I just want to say a massive thank you to everyone here for all your support,
I could feel your strength from miles away.
His account is banned so I can breath here safely xx
Toooo many Dday's over 27 yrs,
Separated from Scooby 'Dum' 19/08/2019
Before you diagnose yourself with depression, or low self esteem,
First make sure you are not surrounded by an Asshole/s.
Chaos ( member #61031) posted at 8:16 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
Oh Scooby. Big sigh of relief. This is a good update.
You are one beautiful bad ass in the best possible way. You are stronger than you know.
FWIW - this update is the reason I'm smiling today.
BS-me/WH-4.5yrLTA Married 2+ decades-2 adult children. Multiple DDays w/same LAP until I told OBS 2018- Cease & Desist sent spring 2021 "Hello–My name is Chaos–You f***ed my husband-Prepare to Die!"
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 8:18 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
Thank you so much for the Update, Scooby. So happy to hear that you have some great safety measures in place. I hope he can cool off, get help and leave you alone. ((((Scooby))))) We are having a Scooby toast tonight, btw.
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
nekonamida ( member #42956) posted at 8:23 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
Great! Thank you for updating us. I am so glad that everyone came together and protected you.
cocoplus5nuts ( member #45796) posted at 8:24 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
I'm so glad you are safe, and that he has been arrested! You are amazing!
Me(BW): 1970
WH(caveman): 1970
Married June, 2000
DDay#1 June 8, 2014 EA
DDay#2 12/05/14 confessed to sex before polygraph
Status: just living my life
emergent8 ( member #58189) posted at 8:29 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
Good to hear from you Scooby. I am impressed with your strength. Please continue to stay safe.
Me: BS. Him: WS.
D-Day: Feb 2017 (8 m PA with married COW).
Happily reconciled.
foreverlabeled ( member #52070) posted at 8:32 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
Scooby I was so frightened for you! I'm relieved for you with this update. That was the best plan EVER put into action for the safety of you and yours. I'm afraid though you have a long way to go with him and I hope you keep the strength you've shown today.
But I urge you not to get too comfortable here and to keep your doings guarded. He knows you post here and he can read without an account.
Stay safe and godspeed.
Tallgirl ( member #64088) posted at 8:32 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
Ohh what great news!
So glad you and kids and grandkids are safe. I am so sorry that this went crazy sideways so fast.
One day at a time. I hope he will use this time to cool off and see reason. Diligence for safety is important.
You and your kids are smart and so strong !
Big hugs!
deena04 ( member #41741) posted at 8:36 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
Oh Scooby! He sounds completely off his rocker. You deserve so much better. Stay safe!!
Me FBS 40s, Him XWS older than me (lovemywife4ever), D, He cheated before M, forgot to tell me. I’m free and loving life.
Lionne ( member #25560) posted at 8:39 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
Just adding my name to the numbers of people who have your back. Please check in now and again so we know you continue to be safe.
I'm holding you in the LIGHT
Me-BS-71 in May HIM-SAFWH-74 I just wanted a normal life.Normal trauma would have been appreciated.
Swbee ( new member #69230) posted at 8:39 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
I don't post much but wanted to say I'm sending all positive thoughts to a you, you brave and strong woman!
fareast ( Moderator #61555) posted at 8:40 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
Scooby that is wonderful news. You are stronger than you know. I’m glad you were protected. Please be safe always. Strength to you moving forward. Sending you positive mojo.
[This message edited by fareast at 2:41 PM, August 23rd (Friday)]
Never bother with things in your rearview mirror. Your best days are on the road in front of you.
FLYAKITE ( new member #58204) posted at 8:44 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
Oh thank goodness. I never post but have kept up with your journey and my whole day I’ve dedicated to sending our positive thoughts to you and your children. I can now go home to my own kids and breathe a bit more easily. You are an amazing strong incredible woman and you are so loved...with good reason!! Stay safe and vigilant and thanks so much for this update.
Dragonfly123 ( member #62802) posted at 8:46 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
Great news Scooby! So happy to hear that you and your family are safe and sound.
I’m sure you’re in a state of shock after the events of the last day or so, so please look after yourself.
When you can’t control what’s happening, challenge yourself to control the way you respond to what’s happening. That’s where the power is.
DevastatedDee ( member #59873) posted at 9:16 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
I am so happy to read this from you! You are so awesome! Whew! This is a relief for sure.
I'm sure the shock of this is still hitting you.
DDay: 06/07/2017
MH - RA on DDay.
Divorced a serial cheater (prostitutes and lord only knows who and what else).
gmc94 ( member #62810) posted at 9:26 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
Relieved to read this. It’s one of today’s moments of joy for me
I urge you not to get too comfortable here and to keep your doings guarded. He knows you post here and he can read without an account.
M >25yrs/grown kids
DD1 1994 ONS prostitute
DD2 2018 exGF1 10+yrEA & 10yrPA... + exGF2 EA forever & "made out" 2017
9/18 WH hung himself- died but revived
It's rude to say "I love you" with a mouthful of lies
ChamomileTea ( Moderator #53574) posted at 9:30 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
So glad you're okay. I do hope for your whole family's sake that Boxer utilizes this time to turn his life around. Some people need to hit rock bottom before they're willing to do a gut-check and rethink their philosophy.
BW: 2004(online EAs), 2014 (multiple PAs); Married 40 years; in R with fWH for 10
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 9:34 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
(((Scooby))))
So glad things are falling into place. Glad he is not a threat for a while.
Please Please Please be prepared and ready for any possible shit when he gets out. Cameras and motion detectors are a great start. Make sure you have a way to protect yourself in your home. It would be wise to have a go bag. Cash papers clothes toiletries etc. Keep your car full of gas (petrol as they say across the pond)
Prepare for the worst and hope for the best.
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
Brennan87 ( member #57850) posted at 9:37 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
Glad to hear you all are safe. I know this journey is not and cannot be easy for you, keep doing you! You've got this and your SI family has your back.
Scoobydoo (original poster member #70007) posted at 9:45 PM on Friday, August 23rd, 2019
Thank you everyone,
Im ready to go if I need to, I don’t want to say to much on here as it’s a very valid point of who can see even without an account.
I know I have at least till Tuesday as it’s bank holiday weekend here, no courts till Tuesday, even then the police don’t think it will be dealt with in Magistrates as they are pushing for it to go to Crown court because of the seriousness of his actions.
Yes we’re still in complete shock & disbelief, none of us seen this coming
It’s my kids though..I think my heart actually cracked for them today 😢
I keep reading & rereading his thread, I just don’t understand it!!!
Toooo many Dday's over 27 yrs,
Separated from Scooby 'Dum' 19/08/2019
Before you diagnose yourself with depression, or low self esteem,
First make sure you are not surrounded by an Asshole/s.
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