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SoulCrushed16 ( member #53364) posted at 8:58 AM on Saturday, May 25th, 2019
I abhor STBX and have said some really nasty things to him over the years... such is life... he should have been smart and not provoked me...
Dumb fuck: “it was only 3 times”
Me: “so you mean to tell me you only fucked her 3 times in the 3.5 years you were dating her... I guess her asshole lost that elasticity too... I heard Kegels work ”... 🤔🤔🤔
Dumb fuck: “you were never meant to find out this way”
Me: “ I suppose a chorus of angels were supposed to come down from Heaven and tell me gently in sweet voices that you were fucking an ancient corpse that is 31 years my senior for 3.5 years, to lessen the blow and all that jazz”.... 
Dumb fuck: “I need space so I can think”
Me: “ There’s dog food under the kitchen sink should either of you get hungry, and deworming should your asshole start to flare up and itch”
Edited to add: missed a word
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"The best day of my life is the rest of my life without you " --- SC16
unspecified ( member #65455) posted at 2:29 PM on Saturday, May 25th, 2019
"I am NOT a cheater!" - discussing her cheating
"Technically that wasn't in our wedding vows." - for my next marriage, the vows will start with "I promise not to have sex with your son's best friend's dad."
"You are telling OBS because (you're a selfish prick) (you want to hurt everyone) (you are emotionally fucked up) (you can't handle resentment) (you don't know what it would be like to be a woman cheated on by another woman ten years younger) (you want to ruin both families) (you refuse to get professional help)."
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"The best revenge is not to be like that."
RobbedOfTrust ( new member #69320) posted at 5:44 PM on Saturday, May 25th, 2019
"I haven't even masturbated in weeks because I only want you & masturbation feels like cheating on you."
This said during his 3 year affair with 4X/week sex between them ...
Jorge ( member #61424) posted at 5:48 PM on Saturday, May 25th, 2019
Me: “ There’s dog food under the kitchen sink should either of you get hungry, and deworming should your asshole start to flare up and itch”
Numb41 ( new member #70454) posted at 10:35 AM on Thursday, June 13th, 2019
Me: I gave you so many chances to tell me the truth.
WW: I didn’t tell you because I wanted to protect you.
Me in my head- da facq...?
Cheatee ( member #59284) posted at 6:00 PM on Thursday, June 13th, 2019
"I'm not a bad person. I'm a good person who did a bad thing." (and then another bad thing, and another, another, another...)
Unhinged ( member #47977) posted at 6:39 PM on Thursday, June 13th, 2019
"I've forgiven people for worse."
Married 2005
D-Day April, 2015
Divorced May, 2022
"The Universe is not short on wake-up calls. We're just quick to hit the snooze button." -Brene Brown
Evertrying ( member #60644) posted at 11:44 PM on Thursday, June 13th, 2019
Annnnd another one:
"We thought we were dating"
(This after I asked him what did he think they were doing. I had to explain to him that sneaking away to FUCK on your lunch hour isn't dating. It's acting like a dumbass 15 yr old)
BS - 55 on dday
WH - 48 on dday
Dday: 9/1/17
Status: Reconciled
FinDad ( member #66434) posted at 11:51 AM on Tuesday, June 25th, 2019
Couple lines she has used in the early days after DD.
"I did turn him down several times before it happened." But apparently enough is enough and you just have to go with him.
"Using condom didn't seem important as I have been sterilized." I asked the obvious question about STDs, and: "We did talk about that, and he said he didn't have any." Yeah, the very fact that he would have sex with you without protection proves that he doesn't give a shit about STDs.
"Maybe if I would have lived that life long enough (as a serial cheater), I would have understood something and appreciated our marriage more and come back to you and we would have better marriage than ever." As she got caught apparently pretty soon after she started cheating.
"He had been cheated on by his girlfriend and he was so bummed" (EA, the affair that I caught and opened this hell) Not even at this point bells ring that what are you doing then?
Some lines that should have made me feel better:
"I never talked about you with them."
"He was so bad in bed, he lasted only 2 minutes"
"He never saw me completely naked."
To be honest, I've been saying stupid shit also. I'd have to ask her to give me a list.
PS. why the fuck I'm still thinking about R...
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BeenBetrayed5 ( member #70823) posted at 1:09 AM on Wednesday, June 26th, 2019
This was said today.
“I didn’t even want to kiss her in public.”
My response: “Yes because you were cheating on me and you didn’t want anyone to see you.”
“No, because I didn’t want her to think I was going to be her boyfriend”.
Oh. Okay.
BeenBetrayed5 ( member #70823) posted at 1:11 AM on Wednesday, June 26th, 2019
And another:
“I couldn’t wait to go home sometimes and get away from her.”
(Was sleeping with her and visiting her 2-3 times a week at night while I was sleeping and at work)
😂
20yrsagoBS ( member #55272) posted at 1:20 AM on Wednesday, June 26th, 2019
Mine said” I thought she was my friend “
BW, 54 WH 53 When you lie down with dogs, you wake up with fleas
Kb82 ( member #70826) posted at 1:20 AM on Wednesday, June 26th, 2019
When caught red-handed in a lie, and being asked by me "I know you lied. Why did you lie?"......
WH: "I'm sorry, I didn't know I was being monitored like a convict."
landclark ( member #70659) posted at 1:21 AM on Wednesday, June 26th, 2019
My favorite is “We weren’t connected.” So you had a better connection virtually? Makes total sense.
Me: BW Him: WH (GuiltAndShame) Dday 05/19/19 TT through AugustOne child together, 3 stepchildrenTogether 13.5 years, married 12.5
First EA 4 months into marriage. Last ended 05/19/19. *ETA, contd an ea after dday for 2 yrs.
Justsomeguy ( member #65583) posted at 5:04 PM on Tuesday, July 2nd, 2019
I just remembered one.wheni was having difficulty with the affair, my braindead WW told me together over it because it's not like we didn't have srx with other people before we got married. I swear, you just cant make this stuff up...
I'm an oulier in my positions.
Me:57 STBXWW:55 DD#1: false confession of EA Dec. 2016. False R for a year.DD#2: confessed to year long PA Dec. 2 2017 (was about to be outed)Called it off and filed. Denied having an affair in court papers.
Divorced
HeHadADoubleLife ( member #68944) posted at 11:19 PM on Tuesday, July 2nd, 2019
"I told you I didn't like fruit cups in my lunch!"
Recovered that memory the other day and laughed out loud!
BW
DDay Nov 2018
Many previous DDays due to his sex addiction
Hurt me with the truth, but don't comfort me with a lie.
Love is never wasted, for its value does not rest upon reciprocity.
Amarula ( member #69428) posted at 5:57 AM on Wednesday, July 3rd, 2019
Me: “I thought it was for better and for worse?” (trying to make him understand that a marriage needs to be worked on and not just thrown in the bin all of a sudden after 17 years without giving it a chance.)
He: “We didn’t marry in church anyway.”
In his wayward mind, our vows did not have any real value and could therefore be broken since they were not made in church. Wondering what rationalization he would have found had we made those vows in church rather than at the registrar office!
He now had an inspirational motto on WhatsApp (he never had one before). It was: “To do epic shit” 
I was just waiting for him to tell me he now had “a bucket list of things to do before he dies”!
As I was now nothing else to him than an old family member, he would speak about “my future husband” (WTF!) ... in our marital bed.
Stupid stuff waywards do? He became vegan, because (yes, you guessed it) .... she was vegan (no offense to the vegans out there.) Although I would never criticize his new philosophy, he would look at me with contempt because I did not share it. To convince me, he would send me graphic pictures of dead hens, or encourage me to watch programs on YouTube showing animals being slaughtered. He returned to his meat eating habits when he stopped the affair.
Apart from the pain I experienced, my main memory of these dreadful times was the state of constant bewilderment I was in at what he would say or what he would do. A perpetual state of 
People’s whys? I leave them at my door.
plainpain ( member #40139) posted at 6:33 AM on Wednesday, July 3rd, 2019
Explaining how he ended up in an affair with a 21 year old... "I tried going to a massage parlour, but I realized that I needed relationship." 
Me: Believer, 40s
Him: Liar, 40s
Married 19 years
1 year EA/2 month PA/incidental infidelities I can't begin to process
OC born 2014
OW:21
In successful R. It only hurts now when it rains.
cancuncrushed ( member #28156) posted at 11:48 PM on Wednesday, July 3rd, 2019
I didn't even know her name.
shes a very nice girl...
I have to be with her...I work with her...your the one that needs to stay home...
and the last most recent one....Our marriage is so great!!!!!!
It was because he was cheating, I didn't know for sure, and he was getting away with it....he thought I was just ok with cheating now.
Tallgirl ( member #64088) posted at 12:12 AM on Thursday, July 4th, 2019
"She is a good person, she has a good heart".
"We told each other we would have never noticed each other on the street. We weren't each other's type" He booked her services online.
"She needs my help to walk her dog, he's old"
In response to "why did you fuck her again". "I didn't want to go into her apartment to get my stuff. She started to cry." Ahhh good reason.
I often get dumb silence to questions like "Do you know that when you are married you are not supposed to buy women rings that they wear on their wedding finger". More dumb silence after I find out that he had hand jobs for 5 years. "You know that paying for hand jobs is cheating right?" "You know not telling me about hand jobs is lying by omission" yep, got nothing out of that either.
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