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My WHs affairs were almost all virtual or on the phone (as far as I know), so it was 100% him getting himself off to virtual words or paid cam girls. Somehow THAT was more satisfying than having sex with me. Somehow a virtual BJ was the best he’d ever had and THAT was better than a real BJ from me.

It’s not even like he’d get hot and take his frustrations out on me sexually. Somehow he was actually satisfied.

Over the last several years, our sex life definitely dwindled. He does seem to have ED issues now (not early in our relationship), but he showed no interest in me sexually because apparently the virtual crap was good enough for him.

Before that though, our sex life was good. He started the online stuff four months after we got married. From before marriage until well after our son was born, we had sex like bunnies. No issue, and I don’t suck in the BJ dept. Just saying. But he told the AP that all the virtual stuff was the best he had ever had. What?!?

So yeah, I have to contend with him getting himself off was better than me doing it. Better than actual sex with me.

I think my WH may be broken.

Slight TJ but I've experienced a pretty wide variety of girly bits, including basically every ethnicity you can think of. Most of the variation is visual/tactile: hair color/texture/length, shape of the vulva, etc. There is some variation in both tightness and depth, but frankly my observation is that the depth part varies a lot more than the tightness part. Keep in mind the whole works is designed by nature to expand enough for a baby to get through, so the small variation in tightness is mostly a function of muscular strength, which can be increased with exercise (unlike penis length).

There is a pretty wide variation in wetness. In my experience, that is the biggest difference in terms of how it feels, with hair texture/length being the second biggest. In my opinion, it is mildly problematic (but solvable with lube) if it's not wet enough, but I've never encountered anybody who I felt was too wet, including some true mattress soakers.

[This message edited by Butforthegrace at 10:59 AM, October 4th (Friday)]

Bfg mattress soakers 😂🙈 oh dear!

Yeah wh said as long as it has an opening it will do. Ow watches here so I wont go into details as its crude and despite disliking her I dont want to actually give her a boot to the nether regions but he discussed reasons why he enjoys things with me and some of which you touched on so it's quite good to hear that from another source. As it wasnt really something I was aware of and it was out of nowhere not your usual cheaters line and not something he openly admitted right away which made me think there was some truth to it havent heard others say it on SI either. He spoke about it when I was starting to hit some walls about what we have compared to what he chased and gave away. So I tentatively believed it while also wonder why the hell you go back. And he said while it wasnt better it was still there so why not in his wayward greedy selfish mind. And of course the risk and thrills and ego kick helped make the experience more when the physical didnt.

When did CA's username change to Milwaukee Mike?

It was always Milwaukee Mike.

Bry!

You made me snort laugh!

(((Hugs)))

Thanks! I needed that

It wasn't always Milwaulkie Mike - It was CreateAccount with some numers on it. How the heck did the user name get changed and why?

Double post

[This message edited by Darkness Falls at 4:09 PM, October 4th (Friday)]

Ha! That's awesome!

Whoever of the staff is responsible for that...you rock!

[This message edited by GoldenR at 4:51 PM, October 4th (Friday)]

So a BS continues to come back, and lie about who they are, and, in a sense, betray the good people here...while bitching about liars and betrayal.

Calm down, Mike. Have some sweet cream pie, and create yet another account.

JFC.

Sweet cream pie! I forgot about that one!

There have been SOOO many usernames - it’s easy to forget a few!

The changed username is the result of MH’s computer wizardry. We don’t like the deception either, so once we know the truth - we let it be known!

Wow. Great catch GoldenR

I think he must have registered using the same email address. They wouldn't change the username because of a couple of people's suspicions.

IP address more than likely.

Wow! I've never seen a username switch. Yes, he has gone by many names (iphone something, DaninOhio or something, SweetCreamPie, etc.) but I was happy to see that he has turned a corner in his healing. I hope things are going well for him and his WW.

[This message edited by OwningItNow at 5:03 PM, October 5th (Saturday)]

Lol. Same topics rehashed by the same guy under different names. These days this "affair sex by the WW" is the only topic that gains any kind of traction here.

DaninOhio? Seriously? Fooled me on that one.

DaninOH is currently a member here. He is not one of MilwaukeeMike’s aliases.