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Because I'm new here and I didn't want to be slammed as a pervert.

As this is an infidelity website and sex is the biggest part of the infidelity it is going to be discussed here. In many ways, about all kinds of ways, there is going to be all kinds of sex themed discussions here. I have never thought someone was a pervert for bringing up any kind of sexual topic to be discussed. I don't feel any members would.

We have had topics on "doggie style" , bj's, anal and every other kind of sex topic you can think of. We ain't perverts, we are trying to understand.

Thanks SisterMilkshake,

Now I know.

This is going to feel good getting this out: I don't know specifics because he wouldn't share completely but do know hotels and even 1 specific one where they had a threesome. They explored an alternate sex life together. We had to stay there for a function year after Dday and it didn't end well when he told me I looked sexy then fell asleep. Yup lost it and we ended up leaving and driving home in silence. Sure he didn't fall asleep on her. She was married as well and her husband prolly doesn't know but I'm sure she's moved on to someone else. Know they met for coffee and visits in the car -- his and hers. Thank goodness he has gotten a new car. He said no to our house but do think she visited our hot tub. I think if our bedroom wasn't such a disaster they'd do it there but who knows. I did find a t-shirt in our laundry that was not mine ( but son just got back from college) and a cup of DD the way he likes it in our paper box. I think they did it at her house and who knows maybe her office. I know she ent a lot of pictures of herself since she lives in neighboring state --- yup I saw them and so did my older son --- accidenly stumbled on them doing IT work on his computer. Proud moment ----and WS wonders why son doesn't always respect him. Lol clueless. They met two Saturdays a month so while I did all the sports with my youngest he was doing her. Wonder where her kids were. Probably with her husband. Boy that felt good to share.

My wife and the OM would meet in motels and hotels. If my wife was visiting a vendor (in state), they would rendezvous at the local hump station (i.e. motel). If the OM was visiting customers, my wife would not visit the OM so there would be no red flags. They usually split the cost of the room.

I asked my wife if they ever had sex in our house and she replied no. At the time, it was one of the few answers I believed.

Before DD, my wife "would" have to work late on Friday night and then go in early for Saturday morning. Looking back, it was just ploy for more sex before check out time. Two bangs for the price of one.

So have you noticed what is common in this thread? It is all sleazy, nothing romantic about these encounters.

In total agreement with: Fightingback, myownbestfriend, devastedone.

Total BJ's used to control and manipulate in the most disgusting places.

Agreed 2oldforthis-

After learning the details of the sleazy places that they hooked up (park bench, woods, back seat of her car in a parking garage, empty conference room in a hotel), I literally laughed out loud. Honestly, at my age...at their age...they must have felt pretty low to sink to that level.

Regarding the BJs-yes, total control and manipulation. The OW had a big job, a big title, and is well educated (not that it matters) but felt completely entitled with giving my WH oral in public.

Manipulative and sleazy for sure.

I know her place (where she lives with family) and hotels for sure. I am also 100% sure she was never in my home - I have a relative that lives next door. They would have been seen. Probably also on my car, though he did not confirm nor deny. Car was upgraded after he left, anyway, so it doesn't matter.

Going only by what he admitted, he got a BJ by an employee in the restroom of a Subway restaurant. He had seen her there before and said she showed signs of being attracted to him. I was told he never went back after that BJ. That was in the Summer of last year.

A few months later, he met and got involved with a woman he met through work and a highly involved emotional affair was formed. There was some sexting involved but he claims to have never been physical with her. I take that with a grain of salt.

Her house, and on any trips we ever took since 2003. So if we planned a trip they coordinated it so that she was there on the same cruise, or in the same hotel unbeknownst to me. Stateside or international. Sometimes just her, other times her and her kids.

Let's see, on the floor of a filthy cabin, they had several dogs and we're not good house keepers. In a stairwell behind the stage of her night club. On her daughter's couch.

He told me it made him feel dirty, on the cabin floor he had to leave because he was sick to his stomach. No doubt.

Lots of hotels, his car, his office, conference room

They had sex, in the hospital bathrooms, the resting area for doctors, his apartment, our apartment, where in our apartment? everywhere, the halls, the kitchen, our bed, our living room, bathroom, shower, even in my own PERSONAL mini PC gaming station, the guy was so fucking cocky that he felt alot of pleasure having sex with my wife in my own corner of the world, when I found out the only question I ever asked if they had sex in our apartment and where, needless to say when she told me I got out bough a new inflatable bed and a new chair for the gaming station, I did not eat nor shower there, I showered in a friends apartment that he loaned me for a while (but I am a very very grateful person and only used it to shower and not to live there) I also bought a new mini fridge and some groceries. and went to sleep on the new bed, it looked like she never got out of the sofa since she told me this because when I returned and unloaded everything and still after playing a few online games (mini office is in the living room) while crying silently she never moved, then I went to sleep and she did not move from the sofa.

I know they has sex in hotels. Never asked about vehicles. She lives in a sleezy town hundreds of miles away that he worked in, so I know it was never in my home. They both denied sex in her home with OBS.

They are both medical professionals, working in a large, urban labor & delivery unit. They had sex in the call room. Never mind the fact that he was supposed to be putting in epidurals for the women in labor and she was supposed to be the nurse. They had more important things to do than, you know, take care of women in labor.

I haven't posted my story yet in JFO section. I'm still ashamed and flabbergasted by my WH's actions.

Anyway, him and his old as dust AP (she's 49, WH is 33, and I am 29) would meet up at bars and they would fuck in her ancient Honda. She's a waitress at some Podung restaurant so sometimes they would have sex in the parking lot in her car or in the bathroom. Very classy.

My favorite in this did not involve myself or my spouse, rather (and this is after my wife and I reconciled), I worked for a very upper-class douchebag. I am an accountant, and I was his VP-Finance. Nice title, shitty gig. I'm in charge of paying the bills and boss-man and office manager (great title, better than what I'd have called her) would waltz out at noon and come back around 2:00. He'd just casually drop off the credit card receipts at my desk. Wellllll, his casual attitude about his marriage, extended to the business, and he falsified a geological report on a condo we developed. Seems like all the purchasers got a building that was sinking into an underground lake. Early one morning, as I am unlocking the office door, I feel a hand on my shoulder, and a very large man identifies himself as the feds, and basically starts sweating me for answers. I tell him no need, everything needed for a spectacular prosecution is in the company safe. Only the boss and the office manager have the combo, so I said to get a safe cracker. Meantime the boss calls, tells me to dummy up. I ask about outstanding payroll, and other monies owed to myself and the rest of the office staff. He tells me, I think in a moment of foolishness, to go fuck myself. I ask his whereabouts and he says he needed a VACATION and his wife and him were in Switzerland.(She is a swiss/iranian national). At that point, I knew that the job was done and no money would be forthcoming. FIRST, I called his mother, and told her all about her previously unknown grandson (with the office manager-impossible to cover up as the kid is a dead ringer right down to facial moles), then as the piece de resistance, I contacted the wife's private secretary (these folks had dough), and asked if my boss ever intercepts her messages. The answer was no, so, I marshalled all of my receipts for hotel rooms, for condoms and for (ewwww)anal lube, and for treatment for a prolapsed anus for the office manager, and had it passed to the wife along with my cell phone #. One hour later, we had a very very frank discussion. A day later, I get a call from the now former boss, he had been turfed in Bern, sans money and sans passport. He threatened me long-distance, but nothing ever came of it. His mother disowned him, and I understand that she eventually let him back as he was near penniless and on the street.

The first trashy OW claims she gave my WH a blowjob in her garage. WH says they just kissed once

Then there was some woman he made out with in a swimming pool in McAllister, Oklahoma during a business trip

Then there was the (claimed) last one. Oral sex and making out in her car and my car. Yeah, they had the inconvenience o having to move MY newborn son's carseat to make room too. This last one had extremely hairy genitals. Ugh

In the middle of winter, just to the side of town, in a snow bank, both times. I made him toss all of his outdoor clothes and it is getting colder outside now, and no I am not financing his new gear, that is his problem. I am seriously considering torching the skidoo but I may decorate it for Halloween instead

My WH had sex and fooled around with COWs AP #2 at his friends' houses (and they have helped hide the affair from me, but he doesn't understand why I want nothing to do with them), at work, in the car, and at a hotel. As far as I know. There could me more places.

Hmmm. My XWH insisted they did not ever have any kind of sex. Never even kissed! According to XWH they did have an EA for over 5 years. They texted over 100 x day (per phone records). He told me they sexted in great detail, and often. They did meet in hotel rooms, but that was just to talk, "as friends." They often met in dark parking lots late at night when they were drunk. They would get into the backseat together, but just to talk "as friends." They also met in parks and dive bars. Oh, and in the backroom at her workplace. But just to talk, you know "as friends." They would never have sex because they loved their spouses and never wanted to cross the line. Yep, I filed.

In her house.

In her garden. Anyone could have seen them if they'd looked out of the window, if the neighbours phoned the police they could both have lost their jobs.

In two of her friends' houses (she got the keys - great friends she must have.

In his parents' house while they were away (I took great pleasure in telling them that their son had been having sex on their sofa).

And my favourite - under a bush. Three times as far as I can work out. I made him show me the exact bush, he was mortified (as was I, but it was still worth it to make him that uncomfortable). Shortly after DDay, I was accusing her of something and she said, "Do I look like the kind of person who would be having sex outdoors??". Well yes you do. Totally deluded.