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emergent8 ( member #58189) posted at 10:57 PM on Tuesday, April 30th, 2019
Couldn't resist slutty co-worker's wiles after she told him she fantasized about him. Total cake-eater, said he was never unhappy but felt like he "deserved it". 
He dropped her the second I found out.
Me: BS. Him: WS.
D-Day: Feb 2017 (8 m PA with married COW).
Happily reconciled.
waitedwaytoolong ( member #51519) posted at 11:29 PM on Tuesday, April 30th, 2019
Midlife crisis/empty nest/ choose the younger guy with the tool belt
I am the cliched husband whose wife had an affair with the electrician
Divorced
HalfTime2017 ( member #64366) posted at 11:45 PM on Tuesday, April 30th, 2019
I think its midlife crisis, but she insisted it was "tru Wuv".
Her AP has ED, is a sex addict, his wife was pregnant at the time, and this is his 3rd affair that his wife caught him in.
But still, it must be tru wuv.
happyfromnowon ( new member #70315) posted at 11:54 PM on Tuesday, April 30th, 2019
deephurt ( member #48243) posted at 12:01 AM on Wednesday, May 1st, 2019
the typical soccer/hockey mom scenario with the coach being a kisa and soccer/hockey mom needing advise and help from the big awesome coach that tells her that she doesn't deserve to be treated the way her horrible husband is treating her, while she tells my WH how awesome he is, great father, great friend.
Combined with mid life crisis and incorrect medication that made his anxiety off the charts worse and figuring why not since he is too smart to get caught.
me-BW
him-WH
so far successfully in R
Mizzbak ( member #64330) posted at 12:14 AM on Wednesday, May 1st, 2019
The OW was his running partner (looking for an out from her unhappy marriage). She's thoroughly divorced now - so, mission accomplished.
My fWH proposed for himself a ban on all opposite sex exercise partners now ... because endorphins.
“I have learned now that while those who speak about one's miseries usually hurt, those who keep silence hurt more.” ― C.S. Lewis
BraveSirRobin ( member #69242) posted at 12:22 AM on Wednesday, May 1st, 2019
Innocent victim of circumstance. "I never meant for this to happen! Things just got out of hand!"
Hickoryapple ( member #55208) posted at 12:26 AM on Wednesday, May 1st, 2019
Innocent victim of circumstance. "I never meant for this to happen! Things just got out of hand!"
Forgot that bit ^. His variation was "I let it go too far. "
survrus ( member #67698) posted at 1:20 AM on Wednesday, May 1st, 2019
OM1, Coworker, Younger, lots of time alone, good looking, sad story
OM2, Doctor, met when I had an appointment
OM3, Doctor, Old old man, had the same condition as my Mother in law met at medical facility.
Goldie78 ( member #61390) posted at 1:22 AM on Wednesday, May 1st, 2019
COW who appealed to him because she was such a hard worker.
And 10 years younger....mid life crisis.
Me: BW 50+Him: WH 60’sDS, DD 4 awesome GKidsMarried almost 40 yearsPA1 2002 to 2007(?) with COW, they stopped working together in 2002PA2 summer 2007DD both Nov 2016Working on r
psychmom ( member #47498) posted at 1:34 AM on Wednesday, May 1st, 2019
Alex, I'll take "Midlife Crisis" for $400.
Add the "toxic state of our marriage" (which I agree is true)and his need for attention, validation, love, affection. But rather than address these issues directly with me (his wife) he chose to take the cheater path and rationalized his shitty cheating choices by blaming the marriage, me, everything except himself.
BS (me); fWH (both 50+; married 20 yr at the time; 2 DD DDay 1- 9/13/2014 (EA)- 3+ yrsDDay 2- 10/24/2014(PA2)-July'14-Sept'14DDay 3- 11/12/2014(PA1)-Oct-Feb '14Reconciled
Tallgirl ( member #64088) posted at 3:01 AM on Wednesday, May 1st, 2019
Pretty Woman syndrome. Feel in love with a prostitute.
Anyone got a mail man?
staystrong101 ( member #41068) posted at 3:22 AM on Wednesday, May 1st, 2019
“But all men cheat! It’s just a guy thing n doesn’t mean anything. I love you!”
amethyst0323 ( member #63658) posted at 3:51 AM on Wednesday, May 1st, 2019
Mine was move to a country in South East Asia fall for a poor local girl (co-worker but they are paid an awful lot less than the expats) who wanted a white man.
Of course she is madly in love with him, not his money/life 
I read about the country we lived in before we moved with people saying local girls will hound your husband and many cheat. I remember thinking no way will my husband cheat. Turns out I was completely wrong. 
Me- BW
Him - WH
M - 18 yrs,
DDay 1 - Jan 2018 ( 18 month EA/online sex, no physical contact)
DDay 2 - April (Confessed to a 2 year PA)
hopefull77 ( member #43221) posted at 6:07 AM on Wednesday, May 1st, 2019
Empty nest/ his father died / trip down memory lane and find the one you could have chosen instead...
me-BS him-WS
" I will not define myself by what went wrong yesterday when I can draw upon Life and Love right now."
littleAvocet ( member #64003) posted at 8:06 AM on Wednesday, May 1st, 2019
Wife’s best friend, his running partner, it felt like destiny, he never thought I’d find out. Yawn.
And it’s hard to dance with a devil on your back, and given half the chance would I take any of it back. It’s a fine romance but it’s left me so undone.
It's always darkest before the dawn
steadychevy ( member #42608) posted at 1:09 PM on Wednesday, May 1st, 2019
MLC/empty nest/same age as daddy when he abandoned her for his AP and her kids...more I can't remember on short notice.
BH(me)72(now); XWW 64; M 42 yrsDDay1-01/09/13;DDay2-26/10/13;DDay3-19/12/13;DDay4-21/01/14LTA-09/02-06/06? OM - COW 4 years; "dates" w/3 lovers post engagement;ONS w/stranger post commitment, lies, lies, liesSeparated 23/09/2017; D 16/03/2020
LoveTKO ( member #54298) posted at 2:34 PM on Wednesday, May 1st, 2019
Mine was - met MOW at church music group. They would sing about Jesus and then go screw in the back of her truck 
Me: BW
Him: FWH
LTA one year with local MOW
Dday: 12/4/15
Done - separated
forthelifeofme ( new member #60103) posted at 3:00 PM on Wednesday, May 1st, 2019
CH first A: He was her boss and they had SO much in common…for example, 12 years before they met they were in the same town for a year going to different colleges and had the same major. He hooked up with her again ten years later. I guess that common thread ran deep.
second A: top rooster in this particular circle of friends. OW was the second wife out of four he F***. I wonder who knows his true colors?
Hopeful4now ( new member #69888) posted at 9:25 PM on Wednesday, May 1st, 2019
midlife crisis, the girl (literally) next door, they had a connection that he had never had with anyone else
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